Elizmia Lorentz Counselling

10/10/2025

🌍💚 Vandag is Wêreld Geestesgesondheid Dag 💚🌍

Ons almal dra ons eie stories, uitdagings en drome. Geestesgesondheid is ’n noodsaaklikheid. Net soos ons vir ons liggaam sorg, verdien ons gedagtes en emosies ook liefde, aandag en genesing.

👉 Hierdie dag herinner ons daaraan dat dit reg is om nie altyd reg te wees nie.
👉 Dit herinner ons dat hulp vra ’n teken van krag is, nie swakheid nie.
👉 En dit herinner ons dat klein stappies groot verskil kan maak.

Neem vandag ’n oomblik om asem te haal, om met iemand te praat, of om net sagter met jouself te wees.

Jy is nie alleen nie. 🌱

01/10/2025

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“The month of October has been declared Mental Health Awareness month with the objective of not only educating the public about mental health but also to reduce the stigma and discrimination that people with mental illness are often subjected to.

An estimated 400 million people worldwide suffer from mental or neurological disorders or from psychosocial problems. These include disorders related to alcohol and drug abuse.

Like physical disorders mental and brain disorders vary in severity. There are those that are:

-Transient (like an acute stress disorder)
-Periodic (like bipolar disorder, characterised by periods of exaggerated elation followed by periods of depression)
-Long lasting and progressive (like Alzheimer’s disease)

Other conditions include:

>Schizophrenia
>Dementia,
>Depressive disorder
>Obsessive compulsive disorder
>Panic disorder
>Post traumatic stress disorder”

Source: Department of Health

24/09/2025

22/08/2025

Liewe Ouers,

In ’n gesprek op The Diary of a CEO podcast, getiteld “Elon Musk’s AI Girlfriend Will Ruin Your Relationship!”, het Steven Bartlett en sy gaste belangrike vrae gevra oor die emosionele en sosiale gevare van kunsmatige verhoudings. Alhoewel dit nie ’n formele studie is nie, bied dit tog belangrike wenke vir ons as ouers in ’n wêreld waar ons kinders toenemend aan AI blootgestel word.
Nie eers te praat van p*rn*gr@£ie, fantasie wêreld op n baie jong ouderdom…

1. Emosionele Hegting kan Werklike Verhoudings Onderdruk

AI-metgeselle is ontwerp om jou emosioneel te “begryp”, hulle reageer met empatie, lag op die regte tyd en sê gerusstellende dinge. Kinders kan sterk heg aan hierdie ervaring, wat hulle minder geneig kan maak om ware menslike bande te bou.

2. Onrealistiese Verwagtings oor Liefde en Intimiteit

Omdat ’n AI-metgesel altyd aanpasbaar en konflikvry is, kan kinders begin glo dat liefde maklik, perfek en sonder uitdagings behoort te wees. Dit kan hulle latere verhoudings skade doen, aangesien ware liefde dikwels moeiliker en ingewikkelder is.

3. Afhanklikheid sonder Resilience

Ware emosionele groei kom wanneer kinders leer om teleurstelling, konflik of verwerping te hanteer. As AI altyd net troos en aanvaarding bied, leer hulle nie die veerkragtigheid wat noodsaaklik is vir gesonde volwasse verhoudings nie.

4. Privaatheids- en Datagevare

AI-stelsels versamel persoonlike data: voorkeure, emosies en selfs baie intieme gedagtes. Hierdie inligting word dikwels gestoor of gedeel deur derdepartye, wat groot risiko’s vir privaatheid inhou.

5. Skermtyd en Gesondheid

Om lank met ’n AI-“meisie” te kuier, beteken natuurlik meer tyd agter ’n skerm en minder tyd vir speel, oefen, en gesonde sosiale aktiwiteite. Dit kan fisieke en sosiale ontwikkeling benadeel.

*Wat Ouers Kan Doen: Praktiese Stappe

Praat openlik met jou kind oor wat AI is en wat dit nie is nie. Help hulle verstaan dat AI nie ware liefde of menslike diepte het nie. Stel duidelike grense as jy dit toelaat, soos skermtyd-limiete, en beklemtoon dat dit nooit menslike verhoudings kan vervang nie. Moedig ware verhoudings aan deur aktiwiteite soos sport, playdates en kreatiewe groepe wat empatie en spanwerk bevorder.

Wees ook oplettend oor privaatheid: lees altyd die privaatheidsbeleid van enige toepassing en weet watter data versamel en gedeel word. Laastens, leer jou kind emosionele geletterdheid, help hulle om emosies te benoem en uit te druk. Gesprekke, stories en speletjies kan selfbewustheid en empatie versterk.

19/08/2025

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15/08/2025

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01/08/2025

A new month is like a blank page… and August is inviting you to pick up the pen and write your own story. 💛

This is your gentle reminder that:
✨ You are allowed to start again.
✨ Small steps forward are still progress.
✨ Your emotions are valid – pause, feel, and then choose your next step with kindness.

As we step into the last stretch of winter, let’s focus on nurturing our mental and emotional well-being. Ask yourself:
💭 What do I need more of this month?
💭 What can I gently let go of?

Take a breath. Reset. And remember – growth often happens quietly, one little choice at a time. 🌱

11/05/2025

To all the incredible moms🌷

Today we celebrate your strength, your softness, your sacrifices, and the way you love so deeply.❤️
You are the heart of every home and the quiet hero of every day.🫶

Happy Mother’s Day, you are truly appreciated.

❤️❤️with love
Elizmia Lorentz Counselling & Psychometry

04/02/2025

💥A GOOD READ FOR ANYONE CONSIDERING OR BUSY WITH THERAPY 💥

Here’s someone’s experience of therapy - maybe it resonates with you, maybe it doesn’t.

Therapy isn’t always smooth sailing. It’s not a quick fix or a sudden breakthrough where everything falls into place. It’s a process—sometimes slow, sometimes frustrating, but always evolving.

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“What happens in therapy (from someone who did it for 12 years)

- You go looking for someone to 'help' you. But you don't really know what 'help' means to you.
- You have no idea what their theoretical approach means, or how it relates to how they 'do' therapy.
- The reasons you choose that therapist may seem simple at first, but almost always reveal something far more significant about how you 'do' relationships.
- You believe your therapist has magic powers to unlock things in you. You find that both comforting and scary at the same time.
- You spend a lot of time saying 'it's working' but can't really articulate what that means.
- You wonder if your therapist likes you, or is bored by you, or would even look at you if you weren't paying them to be there.
- You get frustrated by the lack of 'progress'.
- You censor what you can and cannot say.
- You can't afford it.
- You can't afford not to do it.
- You don't trust your therapist - that one took me about four years to realise.
- You learn how to talk about your feelings, without really engaging with them.
- You get bored of your own story.
- You need a break.
- You feel rejected when they take a break.
- You don't believe therapy works.
- You believe therapy DOES work and that everyone should do it.
- Doing therapy separates you from other people. It makes you feel lonely.
- You start questioning the relationships in your life.
- You have a disagreement with your therapist and question whether they even know you.
- You work through the argument and realise you can say more to your therapist.
- You start to share more of you, and feel more understood.
- You don't question their intentions as much.
- You learn to accept that something is changing, but it's ok if you can't describe it.
- Your relationships with others shift, some radically, some subtly.
- You feel better in both knowable and unknowable ways.

Therapy is messy, and weird, and frustrating, and sometimes feels completely pointless. THAT'S THE WHOLE POINT.

If you feel any of these, or your clients do, it's normal. I felt some version of the above multiple times across many years.

What makes therapy valuable? When we talk about these things. All the doubts, and uncertainties and frustrations I had, I found a way of talking about. Sometimes it took me so unbelievably long, I question how my therapist hung in there so long. But they did, and so did I. And I, and the people in my life are better for it.

Therapy works when we talk. It doesn't when we don't.”
- Borrowed from Matt Hussey

21/01/2025

08/01/2025

The 90/10 Principle
Consider a situation: You're eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter accidentally knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You curse and harshly scold your daughter for the mishap. She breaks down in tears.

After scolding her, you turn to your wife and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal argument follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your wife must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 80 km an hour in a 60 km/h speed limit zone. After a 15-minute delay and paying a $60 traffic fine, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs to the building without saying goodbye.

After arriving at the office 30 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terribly, and as it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B)Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the traffic policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is D.

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened:

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time." Grabbing a towel, you rush upstairs, change your shirt, and grab your briefcase. You come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You and your wife kiss before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good a day you are having.

Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both started the same but ended differently. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret:

If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly, and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound the steering wheel? Curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the blue car ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it! If you are told you lost your job, why lose sleep or get irritated? It will work out. Channel your energy and time into finding another job. If the plane is late, and it is going to mangle your schedule for the day, why vent your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to read, get to know the other passengers, etc. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90/10 secret. Apply it, and you will be amazed at the results.

07/01/2025

🙋🏼‍♀️New Year,
New Beginnings,
Same Safe Space! 🌱

Today marks the start of an exciting journey as I officially open my counseling practice!

Big changes are on the horizon, and I can’t wait to share them with you.
Stay tuned for updates, insights, and opportunities to embark on your path to growth and healing.
🌱🌳
Your breakthrough year starts here. Let’s make it extraordinary together.

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