Bendoline Holtzhausen, Counselling Psychologist

27/11/2019

This is so worth remembering, and so often one of the most difficult things to believe... I often hear "the bad things are easier to believe"... someone might take a R100 note, and throw it on the floor, step on it, spit on it, pick it up and crumple it, leave it in the dirt and walk away from it - all this STILL does not change the fact that the value of that note stays exactly the same, regardless of how devalued and mistreated it might be...

25/08/2019

12/06/2019

“Start now. Start where you are. Start with fear. Start with pain. Start with doubt. Start with hands shaking. Start with voice trembling but start. Start and don’t stop. Start where you are, with what you have. Just... start.” - I. Umebinyuo

07/06/2019

“I believe that the ability to laugh at oneself is fundamental to the resiliency of the human spirit.”
― Jill Conner Browne

Some Friday Fun

04/06/2019

"Pain has its own noble joy, when it starts a strong consciousness of life, from a stagnant one" - John Sterling

There is so much to gain from pain and hurt and loss and disappointment. Would we rather not have bad things happen, not feel the pain - of course! But once life has exposed you to it, you can choose to eventually (when you're ready) turn it into meaning, into compassion, into being present in every moment, into living fully, into growth. It isn't easy, but it is possible.

31/05/2019

Some light Friday fun...

29/05/2019

"Unleash in the right time and place before you explode at the wrong time and place" - O. Anderson

Being okay all the time can never be the goal - that only means there is nothing you care about. Or you do care, but suppress all the difficult emotions. Neither of these are ideal. We're human, with all our complex and multi-level emotions - and actually, this is a thing of beauty. Feel them all, allow them all. Then keep moving forward...

04/05/2019

"How can you be inspired, if you do not surround yourself with the things that inspire you?"

Take a hard look at the things and people around you - are they draining or energising you? Are they making you feel demotivated or empowered? Are they making you feel good about yourself or just increasing self-doubt? We rarely get to control everything and everyone we're exposed to, but there are some things that we can control. W**d out those people or activities that need to go, and nurture the relationships and hobbies that feed your soul.

29/04/2019

“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don't.”
― Steve Maraboli

We only have a finite amount of time and energy in a day - don't waste it.

26/04/2019

"You wanting a sign, is a sign".

Go visit www.bendolinepsychologist.com if you're looking to improve yourself, your relationship, your career, your goals.

Whether you decide to work with me, with someone else, or just by yourself - You can do this!

16/03/2019

Some food for thought.

In the very finite amount of time we each get, make sure that you are doing the things that make you happy, that feed your soul, that gets you riled up, passionate and excited.

Yes, we all sit in traffic, throw out the trash and eat zucchini...none inspiring massive amounts of joy. But we have control over the moments in between, and that's where the magic happens! And if you must sit in traffic, at least play good music. If you must eat the zucchini, have an ice cream on the boiling hot summers day. Living can happen in the small things too.