11/01/2026
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I don’t outsource my identity to my outfits…
Someone called me a fashionista the other day. I was flattered… until I remembered who I am behind the scenes AND quite often make no bones about it, in-front of the scenes too 😂
I’ve written a lot about masks, fakery and people performing versions of themselves that don’t quite add up. And it made me stop and ask myself, honestly… where do I do this?
The answer surprised me. I’m not always the woman who calls people out. I’m not always the softy with the big heart. And I’m definitely not always a “fashionista”.
What I am is versatile.
A work associate walked into my office recently, clocked my outfit and said, “Oh wow Chanz… so you’re wearing this today.” Tongue in cheek, slightly shocked. Not by the outfit… but by the contrast. Different days. Different styles. Same person.
And here’s the part most people don’t see. Behind the scenes, when I’m not seeing clients, I’m just as likely to be in sweats, barefoot, hair scraped back, somewhere between productive and pyjama-adjacent. I’ve walked into the office banged up post-Botox, post-peel, the odd bruise doing its thing… and nothing about who I am shifts. My competence doesn’t change. My presence doesn’t wobble. My personality stays exactly the same.
And that’s when the penny dropped for me…. Style isn’t what you wear. It’s who you are.
I don’t use clothing, polish or presentation to hide parts of myself. I use them to express what’s already solid underneath. I consciously and unconsciously allow all versions of me to exist. Sharp. Soft. Polished. Raw. Put-together. Evolving.
None of it is fake.
None of it is a mask.
If you know who you are, you can wear anything. Even post-Botox bruising,.. and still be respected.
If your self-worth is solid, nothing you wear can take your authority away. Not silk. Not sweats and not bruises.
My point… it’s fuc$ing critical that you know who and what you are. Uncertainty makes you susceptible to .
If you’re ready to integrate and stabilize all versions of you, consciously and cleanly ~ hit me up with intention.
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