Perspectives

01/06/2022

09/01/2022

The accumulation of disruptive family events has a well-established association with adolescent mental health problems. In this study, we investigated whether grandparent involvement serves as a promotive or protective factor for psychological adjustment when adolescents face high levels of family a...

31/12/2021

Companies that invest in their employees emotional intelligence and growth will always succeed.

My hope is that with the dawn of the New Year, more attention is given to emotional wellbeing and personal growth for all people within companies. If the last 2 years have taught us a valuable lesson, it is that emotionally strong people are resilient, and this starts with emotional awareness.

Invest in people and empower employees, and everyone will thrive.

May 2022 be the year of great opportunities and personal growth.

29/12/2021

22 Manifesto Rules for the Year.

1. Stare fear in the face. So often fear stops us. Instead live fearless - knowing when to stop and when to move and when to be brave.

2. Invest in your friends. Good friends listen and show up. Do the same. Friendship is give and take and give and take. Friends are the ultimate gift.

3. No excuses. You must take care of yourself: heart, body and soul. There is no excuse for forgetting you. Your family needs you to love you with the same tenacity that you love them.

4. Guilt doesn't need to dictate choices. Don't let guilt stop you from taking care of yourself. Guilt keeps one stuck.

5. Read real books again. Watch a mini-series. Start jogging. Do something that is not work, not chores, but simply that makes you happy.

6. Love your body. Your aging body. Yes, that. And stop lamenting the wrinkles, but embrace them as another year lived.

7. Don't short-change yourself. You are amazing.

8. Listen more, judge less. Comparison is the death of contentment. Instead of judging, be happy for others.

9. Slow down. Hold hands more. Say "yes" to one more book. Let them get the gum in the check out line. Just be present.

10. Create margin in your life. That space in-between the busy and the crazy where you can just breathe again.

11. Don't be afraid of "no" and trying. The worst that can happen is that you brush off and try again.

12. Be proud of yourself. Like really nitty gritty proud - of all the showing up and trying and giving and little things you do that matter so greatly.

13. Give to others. Maybe it's not money or time, but sometimes it can be grace extended.

14. Be straightforward with your words.

15. Love well. Love without fear. Love unconditionally.

16. Forgive. This. Over and over. Grudges destroy, forgiving brings freedom.

17. Fall seven times, stand up eight. Don't lament the falling - celebrate the standing.

18. Learn from your experiences and mistakes. They don’t need to define. Sometimes those spaces of experience make us real and in the real spaces we forge connection.

19. Take risks. The biggest risk for me in life is the risk of not trying.

20. Mindset, mindset, mindset. What one thinks truly is what one believes, what one becomes.

21. Be adaptable. Life can change in an instant.

22. Love others deeply. For who they are, for there courage, for their story. Kindness and love are priceless.

Begin. 🙌

~Rachel


PS: I originally wrote these at the end of 2019 and have been adding on with new lessons learned.

original words by Rachel Marie Martin of Finding Joy

29/12/2021

Children need to see their parents living their dreams.
Teach them there is no limit.

20/12/2021

15/12/2021

Connect with those you love at a deeper level. Have one on one conversations to really get to know how they are experiencing life. A smile does not implicitly mean there is no pain.

05/12/2021

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05/12/2021

02/12/2021

Be the change for your children. Break the destructive family cycles, so that they can become happy and emotionally stable adults.

28/11/2021

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZSeAQaEUg/

Dr Gabor mate goes deep into our reactions to trauma!