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Deon Binneman Psychological Counsellor

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Deon Binneman Psychological Counsellor

Deon offers counselling services for relationships, trauma and substance abuse Deon is a psychological counsellor in private practice in Greyton.

He often employs the principles of what is known as Narrative Therapy. Narrative therapy seeks to be a respectful, non-blaming approach to counselling that does not impose the therapist’s value system on the client. It treats people as the experts in their own lives and believes that others have many skills, competencies, beliefs, values, commitments and abilities that will assist them to change t

heir relationship with problems in their lives. He consults with survivors (individuals and couples) of process and critical incident trauma. Process trauma includes:
• Divorce
• Troubled relationships
• Illness
• Bereavement
• Retrenchment
Critical incident trauma (sudden and unexpected trauma) includes:
• Assault
• Hijacking
• Robberies
• R**e

Deon also has a special interest in counselling for substance use and dependence. He has experience of working with adults, young adults and youth that experience problems with alcohol or other substance dependency.

16/07/2024

Relationships can be challenging when partners have different expectations. Here are a few examples of this mismatch and it's effects:

Roles and Responsibilities: There may be conflict over household chores, childcare, or financial contributions if one partner expects traditional gender roles while the other prefers equality.

Future Plans: Disagreements over marriage, children, career ambitions, or where to live can cause tension in a relationship.

Communication Styles: There can be a wide variation of expectations regarding how often to communicate, how to resolve conflicts, and how to express affection.

Personal Growth: If both partners do not support or understand each other's expectations for personal growth, self-improvement, or pursuing passions outside the relationship, they may clash.

Communication, mutual respect, and the willingness to compromise are essential to resolving these differences. Counselling or therapy can also assist couples in navigating these challenges and finding common ground. Deon Binneman specialises in relationships and is available online. For more info: bit.ly/3pCtpWT. For appointments, phone 021-975 9936.

01/07/2024

Many people's daily lives are dictated by their partner's moods. It can be exhausting and draining, but it is possible to change. To change this, you must first identify whether you are in a situation like this.

You may be walking on eggshells in your relationship if you:
• Are afraid of upsetting your partner
• Feel ignored, criticized, confused, invalidated, or “stuck”
• Second-guess yourself
• Feel that your partner does not trust you
• Before speaking, correct your thoughts
• Are unsure about what might set your partner off
• See your relationship as a roller-coaster of unpredictable emotions
• Feel tense with your partner
• Feel that nothing you do is good enough
• Fear a punishing response from your partner
• Resent your partner
• Feel as if you have lost your sense of self
• Have less self-esteem and confidence

It may be helpful to speak with a professional counsellor about your relationship issues. Deon Binneman offers confidential and reliable services. He is also available online. To make an appointment, Phone 021-975 9936. Find out more on bit.ly/3pCtpWT

17/06/2024

I often hear and see the destructive effects of high-conflict separations and divorces. If a separation has been decided, it is of the utmost importance for couples to take an active role in shaping the future relationship they want after the divorce. The chances of a hostile relationship are very high if nothing is done. Everybody has heard a story about "my ex".
There will always be a relationship. Is a highly conflictual post-separation relationship the only possibility, or is there a possibility that it could be a less negatively charged emotional relationship that would be much better for everyone, especially the children?
In the separation phase, what should be avoided, and what should be done in order to ensure a better post-separation relationship? Your partner and you may find Deon Binneman's professional marriage counsellor services helpful during and after the separation process. It is for the children's sake and your own as well that you do not remain angry friends. He is also available online. You can find more information here bit.ly/3pCtpWT

11/06/2024

Die een wat teleurgestel het,vra graag dat hy/sy vergewe moet word. Die ander persoon vind dit dikwels baie, baie moeilik om te vergewe. Hoe kan hy/sy dit vergewe en vergeet en wat word onder die term ‘vergifnis’ verstaan?

Eerstens, vergewe beteken nie om te vergeet nie, maar eerder om te verander hoe dit onthou word. Tweedens, die proses van vergifnis is nie iets wat in een oomblik gebeur nie. Dit neem tyd en daar is sekere goed wat moet gebeur voordat daar vergifnis kan wees en vir vertroue om weer te herstel.

Derdens beteken vergifnis ook nie ‘n mens kan nooit weer daaroor praat nie! As daar ‘n behoefte is om daaroor te praat, beteken dit nie dat jy nog nie vergewe het nie en ou koeie uit die sloot wil opgrawe nie. Nee, al het jy vergewe, kan jy nog steeds emosioneel daardeur geraak word. Daar sal wel op ‘n ander manier daaroor gepraat moet word. Vierdens beteken vergifnis nie dat dit nie so erg was nie.

Vyfdens beteken vergifnis nie alles is nou weer reg, die pyn is verwyder en die vertroue is herstel nie. Nee, vergifnis is ‘n proses. Indien jy jouself in ‘n moeilike situasie bevind waar jy teleurgestel is, oorweeg dit om met ‘n berader te gesels. Deon Binneman spesialiseer in verhoudings. Sien bit.ly/3pCtpWT om meer uit te vind. Hy is ook aanlyn beskikbaar. Jy kan ook 021-975 9936 vir 'n afspraak skakel.

24/05/2024

Mense het ‘n diepgewortelde behoefte aan ‘n konneksie met ander mense. Wanneer die verbintenis aan iemand anders verbreek word deur dood, egskeiding of teleurstelling, dan kan hierdie verlies ‘n groot impak op iemand se lewe hê. Behalwe vir die emosionele impak, kan dit ook meebring dat mense hulle sosiaal onttrek, dit kan selfs fisieke gesondheid beïnvloed. Die verlies bring dikwels ‘n diepe verlange en ‘n gevoel van onwerklikheid, asof dit nie waar kan wees nie. Die verwerking van verlies is ‘n natuurlike en onvermydelike proses en almal sal meer as een keer in hulle lewe daardeur moet gaan.

Die rouproses kan moeilik en pynlik vir die persoon wees maar ook vir die verhoudings waarin mense verkeer. Terwyl hartseer en die daaglikse lewe met die verlies geneig is om mettertyd te verbeter, kan ernstige of langdurige hartseer baat vind by berading of terapie.

Indien jy besig is om verlies te verwerk, mag dit die moeite werd wees om met ‘n professionele persoon, soos Deon Binneman, daaroor te praat. Deon is ook aanlyn beskikbaar. Sien bit.ly/3pCtpWT vir meer inligting.

22/04/2024

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me. Do you agree? Can you recall a time when words were hurled at you that you will never forget? It usually happens during angry arguments, when one party feels hurt and retaliates by hurting the other party even more. Whenever there is uncontrolled anger in a relationship, it is a sign that there is a communication problem. Bad communication destroys relationships over time. This results in people drifting apart and experiencing more disconnection.

When people communicate effectively, a good relationship is built and a feeling of connection is established. If you want to improve your relationship, find someone who can help you communicate more effectively. Deon Binneman offers professional relationship counselling, Go to bit.ly/3pCtpWT to find out more. He is also available for online consultations.

15/04/2024

When you are infatuated with someone, you tend to see their positive qualities most of the time. In this relationship, there is a strong attraction and a you see the possibility of long-term happiness. This, however, will not last forever. It doesn't matter how well a relationship starts, you'll eventually see both sides of the person, good and bad.
Where do we go from here? The same will happen if you just want a new (better) relationship. This natural experience of human emotions will not change with a new relationship. Having to live with differences (within reason) is what we have to do. We can live with the differences meaningfully if we know how. That is why relationships can be challenging.
If you are struggling with your relationship, it might be helpful to talk to a professional about it. You can make an appointment by phone (021-975 9936) or use the website, bit.ly/3pCtpWT

08/04/2024

I often hear about the search for a “soul mate” or that he/she is not “my soul mate (any more)”. I have wondered what lies behind this search for a soul mate. Is there only one soul mate for me? Is there only one person, my soul mate, out there with whom I will be in a wonderful, problem-free relationship forever? If there is, what are the chances that you will meet this person during your lifetime?

Living as if your soul mate will complete you will only lead to heartbreak. Someone who might seem to be your soul mate, might not feel like your soul mate in a couple of years. No, the reality is that relationships are between two people that hopefully have a lot in common, but are also different, have different ideas, have different dreams, like to do different things, etc.

Maybe a soul mate is someone that you will be able to be in a good relationship with, where differences will be respected and will not lead to disconnection, but rather connection. To talk about your relationship, why not make an appointment with Deon Binneman, a Registered Relationship Counsellor or another therapist? For more information, visit bit.ly/3pCtpWT. You can send a message via the website’s contact form or you can phone 021-975 9936 for an appointment. Deon is also available for online consultations.

01/04/2024

Ek hoor gereeld dat egpare sê dat een van die twee ernstige gesprekke vermy. Wanneer belangrike dinge bespreek moet word, weier een om deel te neem aan die gesprek. Sommige luister net en sê niks, ander sê openlik hulle wil nie daaroor praat nie. Dit lei dikwels tot groot frustrasie by die maat wat daaroor wil praat. Hoe meer die een die gesprek probeer voer, hoe meer probeer die ander een die gesprek vermy. Die rede vir die vermyding van die gesprek is dikwels die vermyding van konflik. Hoe groter die moontlikheid van konflik, hoe groter is die behoefte om dit te vermy. Pare moet dus die volgende baie belangrike vraag met mekaar bespreek: “Wat doen ek wat jou huiwerig maak om aan die gesprek deel te neem?”

Deon Binneman is ’n geregistreerde berader wat vir jou en jou maat ’n veilige ruimte bied om dié tipe gesprekke te voer. Gaan gerus na bit.ly/3pCtpWT vir meer inligting. Vir afsprake, skakel 021-975 9936.

08/03/2024

We tend to forget how easy it is to misunderstand. It is easy to understand the word, but the intention and the emotion behind what is said, is easily misunderstood. Partners (on both sides) are very good at making assumptions about the other partners’ thinking, behaviour, and intent, and often jump to conclusions.

One of my favourite questions in marital therapy is, “Did you ever ask him/her if that’s what he/she was thinking, intended, meant, etc.?” People generally do not check their assumptions, and most of the time their assumptions are wrong.

If you would like to discuss your way of communicating or your relationship in more detail or as a couple, kindly contact Deon Binneman by phoning 021-975 90926 or by visiting his website bit.ly/3pCtpWT

26/02/2024

Baie mense wil graag hulle verhouding verbeter. Wanneer hulle met my praat, vertel hulle dikwels van ‘n lang proses waartydens hulle probeer het om mekaar in die verhouding te verander, sonder sukses. Dit is veel beter om liewer te d**k dat jy of jou maat nie noodwendig ander mense moet word nie, maar dat julle gedrag wel kan verander. Indien jy en jou maat ‘n eerlike gesprek daaroor kan hê waarin daar nie verdedig of aangeval word nie, word dit natuurlik veel makliker. Dan kan daar gepraat word oor behoeftes, watter goed waardeer word, watter gedrag seermaak, ensovoorts. Die gesprek sal daarop gemik wees om mense te help om beter gesprek te voer sodat hulle anders teenoor mekaar kan optree.

Deon Binneman is ’n geregistreerde berader wat ook spesialiseer in verhoudings. Indien jy voel dat jy en jou maat nodig het om oor julle verhouding te gesels, maak gerus ’n afspraak deur 021-975 9936 te skakel of gaan na bit.ly/3pCtpWT vir meer inligting. Daar is ook ‘n kontakvorm op die webtuiste as jy ‘n boodskap wil stuur.

22/01/2024

Emotional connection, a bond that holds partners together in a relationship, is one of the most important things for couples to have. Without a strong emotional connection, relationships can easily drift apart. Many couples come for counselling because they have become emotionally disconnected. This doesn’t just happen; it’s a gradual process. The first step is to recognise that the problem exists. Becoming aware of the signs of emotional disconnect is beneficial. Here are some common signs:

• You and your partner are not spending as much time together as you used to.
• You are not communicating like you once did.
• You are not feeling safe when talking together.
• Your needs are not being met.
• You feel lonely in your relationship.

If this is true of your relationship, why not speak to a qualified relationship counsellor like Deon Binneman? Visit bit.ly/3pCtpWT for more information. You can phone 021-975 9936 for an appointment, or you can send a message via the website.

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Groenvlei Road
Sedgefield
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Opening Hours

Monday	10:00 - 18:00
Tuesday	10:00 - 18:00
Wednesday	10:00 - 18:00
Thursday	10:00 - 18:00
Saturday	09:00 - 13:00

Telephone

+27219759936

Website

https://www.deonbinneman.co.za/

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Deon is a registered psychological counsellor in private practice in Durbanville. He often employs the principles of what is known as Narrative Therapy. Narrative therapy seeks to be a respectful, non-blaming approach to counselling that does not impose the therapist’s value system on the client. It treats people as the experts in their own lives and believes that others have many skills, competencies, beliefs, values, commitments and abilities that will assist them to change their relationship with problems in their lives. He consults with survivors (individuals and couples) of process and critical incident trauma. Process trauma includes: • Divorce • Troubled relationships • Illness • Bereavement • Retrenchment Critical incident trauma (sudden and unexpected trauma) includes: • Assault • Hijacking • Robberies • R**e Deon also has a special interest in counselling for substance use and dependence. He has experience in working with adults, young adults and youth that experience problems with alcohol or other substance dependency.