Monique Barnes Psychologist/ Sielkundige

Monique Barnes Psychologist/ Sielkundige Counselling psychologist offering psychotherapy, parental guidance, as well as a variety of assessments to children, adolescents and adults.

Counselling Psychologist offering psychotherapy to children and adolescents, as well as a variety of psychometric assessments. Services include:
* Psychotherapy
* Play Therapy
* Study Skills

Psychometric assessments include:
*School Readiness
*General Scholastic Assessment
*Subject Choice Counselling
*Career Counselling
*Assessment for concessions

Something to think about
18/09/2021

Something to think about

Why wait on giving your child a smartphone?

There is a reason why top Silicon Valley executives are saying no to the smartphone until at least 14 for their children. In fact, there is a long list of reasons and parents need to know them.

SMARTPHONES ARE CHANGING CHILDHOOD
Childhood is changing for children. Playing outdoors, spending time with friends, reading books and hanging out with family is happening a lot less to make room for hours of snap chatting, instagramming, and catching up on You Tube. With children spending anywhere between 3 to 7 hours daily in front of a screen, many childhood essentials are pushed aside for online amusement.

SMARTPHONES ARE ADDICTIVE
New research shows dependence on your smartphone may produce some of the same addictive brain responses similar to alcohol, drug and gambling addictions. Smartphones are like slot machines in your children's pocket constantly persuading them to crave more. The tech industry intentionally designs smartphone apps and social media for people to use for long periods of time because this is how they make their money.

EXCESSIVE SCREEN USE IS ALTERING CHILDREN’S BRAINS
Initial results from a groundbreaking study by the National Institute of Health reveal that MRI's found significant differences in the brains of children who use smartphones, tablets, and video games more than seven hours a day. Children who spent an excessive amount of time on screens were found to have a premature thinning of the cortex. That's the outermost layer of the brain that processes information from the five senses.

SMARTPHONES IMPAIR SLEEP
Studies show that the use of smartphones and other portable devices with screens affects the quantity and quality of sleep in children and teens. Adolescents are likely restless because they anticipate receiving texts and social media messages from friends, which affects their nighttime routine. Some children even wake up in the middle of the night to check texts or social media. Sleep disturbance in childhood is known to have adverse effects on health, including poor diet, obesity, weakened immune system, stunted growth, and mental health issues.

SMARTPHONES INTERFERE WITH RELATIONSHIPS
Many parents regret allowing their child to have a smartphone because they have experienced the way the smartphone is destructive to relationships. The parent child relationship suffers. Children are often inattentive with the constant distraction the phone brings. Face to face relationships dwindle as children shift their time and energy to investing in their online “friendships.”

SMARTPHONES INCREASE THE RISK FOR ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION
Children are not emotionally equipped to navigate tricky social media waters at such an early age. Viewing someone else’s highlight reel on social media often leads youth to think they are missing out or are not enough compared with their peers. Research shows that the more time someone uses social media the more likely they are to be depressed. A Harvard Business Review showed the more you use Facebook the worse you feel. Another report demonstrated that adolescents’ psychological well-being decreased the more hours a week they spent on screens.

In addition, when children overuse technology, the constant stimulation of the brain causes the hormone cortisol to rise. Too much cortisol can inhibit a child from feeling calm. The loss of tranquility can lead to serious anxiety disorders.
Su***de rates are on the rise especially for girls between the ages of 10 and 14 years old. For this age group, su***de rates have tripled over the past 15 years.

SMARTPHONES PUT YOUR CHILD AT RISK FOR CYBER BULLYING
Bullying is no longer limited to the playground or locker room. Bullies seek to harm children through social media and texts often making retreat for the victim impossible. The most common medium used for cyber bullying is the phone. About one out of every four children has experienced cyber bullying, and about one out of every six children has done it to others. Only one in 10 victims will inform a parent or trusted adult of their abuse. Recent research indicates that children who receive smartphones in elementary school versus later in childhood are more likely to be involved in cyber bullying. According to the researchers, the increased risk of cyber bullying related to phone ownership could be tied to increased opportunity and vulnerability.

SMARTPHONES EXPOSE CHILDREN TO SEXUAL CONTENT
Smartphones have enabled children to view po*******hy anywhere. Po*******hy marketers intentionally target youth online to lure them to dangerous images and videos. One study showed that 42% of online youth users have been exposed to online po*******hy. Of those, 66% reported unwanted exposure to po*******hy often through online ads.

Not only are children viewing sexual content with their phones but they are creating it as well. More and more children are “sexting” (sending sexual text messages and or explicit images). Also, various apps open the doors to sexual predators seeking to track, groom and harm our children.

TECHNOLOGY EXECUTIVES BAN SMARTPHONES FOR THEIR CHILDREN
According to a New York Times piece, many technology executives wait until their child is 14 before they allow them to have a phone. While these teenagers can make calls and text, they are not given a data plan until 16. If leaders of digital giants like Google, eBay, Apple and Yahoo are delaying the smartphone then should this not give us pause? Executives that flourish on the success of technology are protecting their children from the smartphone. Should we not do the same?

Join more than 35,000 families in delaying the smartphone for children until at least 8th grade at www.waituntil8th.org. Right now, the average age a child gets smartphone is only 10. Let's reverse the trend!

Parents, you've got this! Delay! Delay! Delay! Sign the pledge at www.waituntil8th.org !

17/04/2020

Discovery health, however, said due to privacy concerns of Skype and Zoom, it is developing its own tool to allow for virtual consultations.

10/04/2020

“Let’s try act calm,” says digital life skills expert Dean McCoubrey. “Our children are seeing men in white suits, people in masks, schools shut down, the president declaring a national disaster.” Then lockdown.

Take care of your mental health during this time
06/04/2020

Take care of your mental health during this time

Gratitude improves your physical and mental health. Gratitude improves your ability to cope.Gratitude helps people feel ...
31/03/2020

Gratitude improves your physical and mental health. Gratitude improves your ability to cope.
Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions.
Gratitude helps with a positive mindset.
Today I am grateful for: my health, my family, having time to reflect on life, having a house and food to eat...what are you grateful for today? Comment below, I would love to hear...

27/03/2020

Helping children cope with lockdown

26/03/2020

How to cope with anxiety during lock down.

26/03/2020

Coping with anxiety during lock down- Monique Barnes (Psychologist)

26/03/2020

Coping with anxiety during lock down-Monique Barnes (psychologist)

Great article by Karen Young- especially for those children who deal with school anxiety
14/01/2020

Great article by Karen Young- especially for those children who deal with school anxiety

How to empower your child to deal with school anxiety, Anyone who is tempted to tutt, judge, or suggest a toughening up of parents or children, don’t.

29/12/2019
Write down one thing you are grateful for every day- it will become a habit that changes how you view your life.
25/11/2019

Write down one thing you are grateful for every day- it will become a habit that changes how you view your life.

We become what we think...
11/09/2019

We become what we think...

27/08/2019

A workshop for Grade 7's to establish healthy study habits for high school. The workshop and notes will be presented in both Afrikaans and English.

'n Werkswinkel vir Graad 7's om gesonde studiegewoontes te vestig vir hoërskool. Die werkswinkel en nota's sal in beide Afrikaans en Engels aangebied word.

Email Cloete.Barnes@gmail.com for more information or register on the following link: https://forms.gle/Ji2EmCCTJsYcWe2B7

Address

Suidwal Road
Stellenbosch
7600

Opening Hours

Monday 08:00 - 19:00
Tuesday 14:00 - 19:00
Wednesday 08:00 - 19:00
Thursday 14:00 - 19:00
Friday 08:00 - 19:00
Saturday 08:00 - 14:00

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