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02/01/2026

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01/01/2026

DBTSkills. Emotion Regulation Module. Overview - learn about our emotions. Expand your Emotional Intelligence (EI - more important factor in being successful in career and relationships than actual IQ btw).

The Emotion Wheel. A useful visual tool.

Find some quiet time alone.

Start in the centre of the wheel.

Notice what you’re feeling as you begin.

Notice what each emotion feels like in your body as it comes up.

Notice where it is housed.

Learn it.

In this way your body becomes a radar for your wellness.

You’ll eventually know to listen and hear when your body is telling you :

''it’s time to work with the emotions rather than hold them, avoid them, suppress them, and forget them” as they harden into perpetual illness.

Repeat regularly.

With the use of this visual chart you are taking a significant step towards being more active and empowered in your wellness.

You are on your way to being able to move on from deep seated , troublesome, hard to shift - unwanted emotions.

Remember - for many people - too much joy (for example) is a danger zone.

What we are seeking here is balance.

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The feeling wheel was originally made by Joshua and Patty Freedman goes from the basic emotions in the 'Plutchik Wheel' to a bigger range of more subtle and complex feelings.

DBT has no copyright of this wheel.

It is however a useful tool in DBT. DBT goes on to offer a unique set of skills for managing and dealing with the core emotions.

You can get a high resolution version and explanation from Six Seconds' Practicing EQ eBook. (Google this).

Another suggestion is to start at the outside and notice a feeling or issue , then work toward the middle to make more sense of it... or visa versa.

To begin to make sense of all these feelings:/emotions remember, EVERY feeling has value. It's a message from you, for you.

Not something to blindly obey, but a message to consider.

DBT - Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. Jan 1st 2026. All rights reserved.

31/12/2025

In my practice, I come across couples who feel the pain of potential betrayal. We call it jealousy.

Jealousy is often a form of protective grief.

You may be grieving:
• emotional exclusivity
• being clearly chosen
• feeling special without competition
• the safety of “I don’t have to worry.”

Let yourself say (privately)

“I wanted to feel more secure than this.”

That sentence alone can release a lot of pressure, but if you need more intervention, I am available online.

Please email me at corliabranders@gmail.com.

You’re not weak or wrong.
You’re honest.

31/12/2025

Just saying:

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Each attachment style is a different way the nervous system learned to survive pain and disconnection.

14/12/2025

If difficulties are observed in this domain, a full educational assessment might be advisable.

01/12/2025

It’s what happens when your early experiences taught you that connection was fragile, unpredictable, or unsafe. Maybe you were ignored, criticized, dismissed, shamed, or expected to perform perfectly to be accepted. You may feel some of these:

1. Emotional Intensity: Small misunderstandings feel huge. Your nervous system reacts as if you’re being abandoned, even when you’re not.

2. Avoidance Behavior: You pull back first so no one gets close enough to hurt you.
Distance feels safer than risk.

3. People-Pleasing: You over-give, over-explain, or over-accommodate to avoid disappointing anyone.

4. Sensitivity to Tone or Body Language: A change in someone’s mood can send you into spirals, even when it's not about you.

5. Overthinking Relationships: You replay conversations, search for hidden meaning, or assume you did something wrong.

6. Fear of Asking for What You Need: You silence yourself to avoid being seen as "too much" or difficult.

7. Staying in Unhealthy Relationships: You tolerate more than you should because rejection feels more threatening than dysfunction.

8. Hesitation to Try New Things: Opportunities feel risky because failure or criticism feels personal and not situational.

9. Hyper-independence: You rely only on yourself to avoid depending on someone who could let you down.

10. Self-Rejection Before Others Can Reject You. You talk down to yourself, shrink your personality, or dismiss your own needs to “beat them to it.”

Why This Matters

Rejection trauma affects far more than your relationships. it affects how you live, love, communicate, and trust yourself.

29/11/2025