01/09/2025
For Many Scars Mean S*x
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a pr******te? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a pr******te is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” Flee from s*xual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins s*xually, sins against their own body. 1 Corinthians 6:15-16, 18
I once watched this Shark Week — Island of the Mega Shark program — it really caught my attention.
On screen were giant 14-foot white sharks that were pockmarked on their backs and sides by scars.
The narrator claimed, “There are definitely s*xually mature females here.”
I wondered how on earth he knew this.
Reading my mind, the narrator continued, “Their sides are a battleground of scars, and those scars mean s*x.
Males have to hold on somehow.”
Consequently, females who are s*xually mature have scars on their sides and gills.
I paused the show.
I was no longer thinking about the breeding habits of the scariest fish in the ocean.
I pulled out my phone to write those three words:
Scars mean s*x.
I began to think about the people in my life with not physical but emotional scar tissue—some healed and healthy, others infected and ugly. Scars.
Immoral s*x was often the common denominator:
The friends whose marriage blew up after an affair. Physical.. mental..emotional. Scar.
The mother who discovered her child's p**nography habits. Scar.
The spouse who discovered their partners p**nography habits. Scar.
The husband who discovered his wife s*x texting someone else. Scar.
The spouse that fell into the emotional affair at the office. Scar.
The spouse that found out about their partner double life after their death. Living a lie for a lifetime. Scar.
The buddy who was given a s*xually transferred illness by a girlfriend who knew she had it but didn’t want to suffer alone. Scar.
The teen whose life was a living hell because of naked pictures she sent to one person but ended up spread all over school and the internet becoming an instant pr******te to the world. Scar.
The child who was molested by a family friend. Scar.
And the pastor, the friend, the colleague, the son, the daughter, the husband, the wife, the grandparents who was exposed to p**nography in junior high and fought a secret, smoldering obsession with it for years making it difficult to honor men, women, themself, their spouse or their marriage. Scar.
The friends who became a "modern day pr******te pimp" distributing lustfilled, adulterous p**nography images and videos to friends, leading others into temptation, addiction, and destroyed lifes and marriages. Scar.
The girl or boy who became the modern day pr******te when kidnapped, drugged, r***d, video taped, used, distributed as an object of lust and sold into s*x trafficking and prostitution. Major scar.
The wife or daughter that became a social media pr******te, sowing lust, adultery and infidelity posting seductive, semi naked selfies for attention and affirmation. Scar.
Contrary to what our culture preaches, s*x is much more than a physical activity. Scar.
Every time you have s*x with someone, it changes you. Scar.
Every time you visit that social media pr******te, Facebook "friend" or www site or p**n hub engaging in adultrous, lustfilled, self-gratification behavior it changes you. It changes your marriages. It changes your s*x life within your marriage. It breaks every wedding vow. Scar.
Everytime you post that adulterous, lustfilled image of yourself luring many into temptation, lust, adultery, p**nography addiction it chains every person who views it spiritually to you, to their spouse. Modernday pr******tes are not found so much on street corners as in Facebook friend and social media pages. Becomming the object of lust, for a like or follow or some affirmation is a heavy burden to carry. Major scar.
Every time your are looking outside your marriage or committed relationships for s*x and fantasy you start a new affair, mental affairs is the breeding ground of physical affairs. Its cheating. Unfaithfulness sows destruction. Scar.
When we engage in s*x outside of God's plan, it can make us unable to enjoy it inside his plan. Scar.
The more times you pull up a Post-it note and attempt to re-stick it, the less powerful the adhesive becomes.
Like a frequently moved Post-it note, s*xuality loses its stickiness over time.
S*x is meant to glue two people together for a lifetime.
Think of it this way: The more people you attach your Post-it note to, the less long-term power that s*xual relationship will have.
I’m not trying to make you feel bad about your past. Instead, I want to fight for your future. I pray that you would understand you have the power right now to prevent scar tissue down the road.
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times. Matthew 18:21-22
Seventy-seven times does not seem like a lot if you are the spouse s*xually betraying your partner with p**nography and if you start counting those Facebook friends and images hidden in password protected cellphones galleries how far will seventy-seven forgiveness go. Scar.
Remember: S*x is much more than a physical activity.
S*x is an emotional, and spiritual connection whether it is mental or physical.
Becareful where you stick your post-it note today.
When it loose its stickiness the first one it does not stick to is your spouse. Scar.
Sticking your post-it note to anyone outside your marriage sows unfaithfullness, deception, secrecy, lies, ambiguity, distrust, disrespect, dishonesty, dishonor, discontent, disconnection, lost trust, s*xual security inside the relationship, pain always the pain and often divorce.
It's not just the images, the people you choose to audition for your spouse's most promised and intimate role for s*x and fantasy .... it's what you sow into you relationship that removes your post-it notes stickiness... you know when you dont "forsake all others"..
Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”Mark 10:9
Don't be the one..
