Lalela Pastoral Counseling & Play Therapy

05/05/2026

11 Goed Om te Onthou Rondom Kinders Grootmaak

1. As jy baie skree, gaan jou woorde hul krag verloor.

2. Die gedrag waarop jy die meeste reageer, is die gedrag wat jy die meeste gaan sien.

3. Aandag is die beste beloning vir 'n kind. Hulle wil net tyd saam jou spandeer.

4. Jou kind sal nie alles onthou wat jy vir hulle sê nie, maar hulle sal onthou hoe jy hulle laat voel het.

5. Kinders leer nie wanneer hulle bang voel nie. Hulle leer wanneer hulle veilig voel.

6. Slegte gedrag is gewoonlik eintlik 'n vaardigheidsprobleem.

7. Kinders leen jou kalmte totdat hulle hul eie kan bou.

8. Lang preke verander baie min die gedrag. Teen die tyd wat jy klaar gepraat het, het jou kind al vergeet waaroor dit gaan.

9. Jy kan nie ’n kind straf tot emosionele volwassenheid nie.

10. Regmaak ná ’n fout maak baie meer saak as perfeksie.

11. Jy hoef nie elke geveg teen jou kind te wen nie. Dis okay om soms net hulle maatjie te wees.

Kopiereg word behou © Die Verveelde Huisvrou

28/04/2026

We self-regulate by identifying what we’re actually feeling and then responding to it accordingly. Emotions usually do not disappear just because we ignore them. When we avoid what we are feeling, those emotions often show up indirectly, leak out in other ways, or keep the nervous system stuck in stress and reactivity.

Feelings are signals. They help us understand what is happening within us and around us.

In this post are a few common emotions that can lead to avoidance, feeling stuck, or reactive behaviour. I’ve shared a few ways we can try to regulate and respond to these emotions with more awareness.

Take care of your mind and body. Love, Nawal ♥️

Please note: these strategies are a general guide. Not every strategy will work for every person or every situation.

18/04/2026

Absolute truth!
And we all need nervous system healing!!!
It's just a fact of life.

08/04/2026

Masked depression doesn’t always look like you’re falling apart, hence the word masked. Mostly, it looks like holding everything together and people looking at you thinking everything is fine.

It’s showing up, performing, achieving, and caring for others, while behind the scenes feeling numb, heavy, or disconnected inside. It’s smiling because it’s expected or people just won’t understand you so you learn to stay busy because slowing down feels unsafe, and telling yourself you’re “fine” because you don’t have a clear reason not to be, so you keep pushing forward.

Masked depression is often what develops when someone learns early on that their pain needed to stay hidden in order to cope, belong, or survive. There is a root and often it comes from what we have learned to suppress and perhaps is telling us that it’s ready to go deeper and within.

Because when emotions aren’t met with safety, the nervous system adapts and we learn to keep functioning, to stay composed and to push through.

And over time, that survival strategy can turn into emotional distance, from others, from life, and from yourself, which is where the real sadness lies.

If any of this resonates, know this: you’re not broken.

Growth is not about forcing yourself to “feel better.” It begins with awareness, compassion, and creating safety in the body again and looking at what is living underneath the depression, the sadness and slowly, gently, and at your own pace understanding it.

You don’t have to carry this alone. And you don’t have to keep masking as it’s heavy and it’s time to let it go for you to shed and step into your next version where you truly embrace your light.

Keep shining,
Dr. L 💫

07/04/2026

Wanneer iemand jou diep seergemaak het, voel vergifnis nie maklik nie, maar die vraag bly: Hoe vergewe ek regtig?

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13/02/2026

Dit is tienerselfdood-voorkomingsweek (8-14 Februarie 2026) op Suid-Afrika se gesondheidkalender. LiG het by ’n opvoedkundige sielkundige, dr Chaland van Zyl,

12/02/2026

Dit is tienerselfdood-voorkomingsweek (8-14 Februarie 2026) op Suid-Afrika se gesondheidkalender. LiG het by ’n opvoedkundige sielkundige, dr Chaland van Zyl,

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