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02/11/2023

The first in a series to create awareness for Diabetes and challenge some of the most common myths during November - Diabetes awareness month. Please share and help me empower and educate people across the globe 🌈

Once upon a time, in a land not too far away, there lived a brave young girl named Rose, who was just nine years old. Her life took an…

31/03/2023

Has words like self love and boundaries become a fashion cult that is raising a new generation of imbalanced adults? The self-love culture has taken the world by storm. Do not misunderstand what I am trying to say. Self-love, boundaries and most of the emotional wellness buzzwords are essential to well balanced emotional health, but I fear that the extreme focus thereon is spiralling out of control and the imbalance it has brought harbours just as much danger as the absence thereof. I almost want to compare it to unhealthy instant dieting vs a consistent healthy lifestyle. In a society (world wide) where we are daily bombarded with self love quotes, advice and 'how to' instructions, I find it interesting that the top 3 emotional wellness searches on Google is (as on 25 December 2022)“how to handle stress,” “how to stop a panic attack and “how to cure depression”. I can't help but wonder that if the extreme version of self-love is so powerful and empowering - why are so many still struggling too much, alienating themselves from support systems under the well intended banner of personal boundaries. Why do we re-post all these amazing quotes daily, but yet are not experiencing true empowerment. Why are we still not equipped to escape the tentacles of stress, depression and anxiety?

Not much research is available on the topic and I can't help but wonder if books titled 'How to not "love" yourself too much' would sell at all. After all.....Money (or book sales in this case) makes the world go round - right? What makes me wonder though....Does this frenzy make YOUR world go round? Or are many of us buying into a lie packaged beautifully as the truth - wrapped in tissue paper with a colourful bow and a get well soon card.

I truly don't believe that there are any inherent disadvantages to self-love. In fact, practising self-love can have numerous benefits, including increased self-esteem, reduced stress and anxiety, and improved overall well-being.

However, it is possible for self-love to become excessive or self-centred, which leads to negative consequences. For example, if someone becomes overly focused on their own needs and desires to the exclusion of others, they may become selfish and insensitive to the needs of those around them. Additionally, if someone becomes too obsessed with their own appearance or self-image, it could lead to unrealistic expectations, body dysmorphia, or even harmful behaviours like excessive exercising or excessive plastic surgery.

Overall, it's important to maintain a balance between self-love and consideration for others, and to practice self-love (including emotional boundaries) in a healthy and sustainable way.

I dream of a new generation rising from the ashes. A generation that is well balanced emotionally. A generation that can act with kindness, courage and confidence towards themselves, but also other people they encounter - everyday. The rise of a culture that is empowered and equipped to change the world. Self love and personal boundaries are beautiful shades of colour in the rainbow of a balanced, healthy life - BUT they are only two primary shades in a combination of 7.

FRIDAY FUN FACT:
It is difficult to determine an exact number of total colour shades because colours exist along a continuous spectrum and can be mixed and perceived differently by individuals. However, the visible spectrum of light that humans can perceive includes about 7 million colours. Additionally, with the use of technology and digital displays, a virtually infinite number of colours can be created by combining different intensities of red, green, and blue light (RGB). So, while there is no definitive answer to this question, it's safe to say that there are an enormous number of potential colour shades. By other research it has been determined hat there are somewhere around 18 decillion varieties of colours available for your viewing enjoyment. That's an 18 followed by 33 zeros.

QUESTION:
ARE YOU LIMITING THE POSSIBILITIES OF YOUR TRUE POTENTIAL BY COLOURING YOUR LIFE WITH ONLY THE THREE PRIMARY COLOURS?

29/03/2023

What does it mean to live in the moment?
Living in the present moment means processing, learning from and letting go of the past. Not waiting for the future, but preparing for it in the now. It means living your life consciously, consistently aware that each moment you breathe is a gift.The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness and abundance living. Join me on this journey and let's consciously embrace the rainbow today will bring. 🌈

27/03/2023

An attitude of gratitude is the perfect soil to cultivate a life filled with abundance. Gratitude brings riches and complaints only poverty. The choice remains yours. The reality of this is that so many of us long to live abundant lives, but do not know how to achieve, exactly that. Many of us, do not know how to tend to a young seedling of gratitude that could grow into a lush forest of abundance living. Any behavior that has been learnt, can be unlearnt and there my friend, lies the magic of embracing the lucky-packet-little moments that make life a beautiful, rainbow coloured journey, instead of a foreign destination we never reach. How are you intentionally going to embrace abundance today?? What are you grateful for? You are never to old and it's never to late to train your brain. 🌈

26/03/2023

We repress our painful emotions in order to get on with life. But this means we don’t grieve. Without grieving or processing these feelings, we still hold the sadness at some level. Examining our disappointments helps move us towards acceptance and blessing someone with being seen and heard allows them a safe space of no judgment to move towards that healing 🌈

24/03/2023

Grief is an emotion that often changes daily — bringing good days and bad, ups and downs. It's not linear and doesn't follow an expected path. Rather, it takes more of a spiraling trajectory, spinning back onto itself at times, bringing confusion, distraction and numbness to things that once brought joy.

It can be hard to find time to notice changes that take place in our hearts. It can be hard to open ourselves to the pain we feel as we grieve. To do so requires courage and strength — two attributes we may feel we lack during grief's journey. If we can bring ourselves to face grief — to ride the wave of it and allow it into our lives — we may find that we are not swept away, but instead, are slowly given glimpses of light and perhaps some measure of peace.

If you're walking the path of grief, I encourage you to find time to spend with your grief, whether through journaling, talking to a family member or a counselor, engaging in some form of expression of your grief through art or music, or simply by sitting quietly in a favorite chair and letting your memories and tears flow.

In these ways, you can dip your toe into what might seem like the vast ocean of grief, loss and pain. Working through your grief, in whatever small way you are able, also can give you the opportunity to begin to experience healing, peace and growth.

23/03/2023

What is your goal and what do you need to put in place to make it happen? Don't forget to celebrate the small victories enroute. Every marathon needs waterpoints 😉🌈

22/03/2023

22/03/2023

UNRESOLVED TRAUMA will leave you in survival mode. Forever feeling off balance because one foot is always out the door. How long will you allow this captivity? It's time to start confronting your demons. You are deserving of a life that you don't consistently feel like you need to run from. UNRESOLVED CHILDHOOD TRAUMA creates adults who feel like scared kids on the inside. Although we occupy an adult body, when triggered we return to that wounded-child-place inside ourselves. HEAL so we don't have another generation of trauma passing itself off as culture.

13/07/2022

Wat doen jy met jou tyd? 🌈

Elzáhn Dorfling, ‘n lewens- en verhoudingsafrigter vertel hoekom jong mense moet prioritiseer en doeltreffende beplanning doen. Sy verduidelik ook hoekom ons take uitstel,. en gee raad en tegnieke wat vir sukses sal sorg. Jadelee Jacobs, ‘n 17-jarige entrepreneur gesels oor entrepreneurskap in ...

13/07/2022

What are you prioritising in your life? How are you spending your time and energy? What is the legacy you want to leave in this world? The story of your life as other people will remember and tell it. Are you investing in what the meaning of your life will be? What are you doing with your time?

13/07/2022

Na gelang van verlede week se gesprek oor effektiewe tydsbestuur en die positiewe terugvoer daarvan, gesels Arehan Brand verder daaroor, en ons kyk bietjie meer na dinge soos prioritisering, beplanning en die uitstel (prokrastinasie) van take en verantwoordelikhede. Elzáhn Dorfling, 'n Lewens- & Verhoudings afrigter van die Kaap, gesels met Arehan daaroor en deel ook wenke en tegnieke waarby elke persoonlikheids-tipe sal aanklank vind. Sy vertel ook hoekom mense take uitstel of op die laaste minuut voltooi - en die negatiewe uitwerking daarvan (die verduideliking sal jou dalk verstom!). RSG Kompas, 19h30 vannaand met Arehan Brand

13/07/2022

Sit with your emotions as they arise, feel them, listen to them, appreciate them, but never run from them, because they'll track you down and haunt you (often in symptomatic ways such as anger, addictions, anxiety, eating disorders, guilt and so on) until you are courageous enough to face them and ultimately learn the lessons that they hold 🌈

05/07/2022

Join me tomorrow evening on RSG Kompas at 19h30 with Arehan Brand. We will be discussing valuable time management skills, techniques and some of the things that become obstacles in moving forward towards owning your own life.

06/06/2022

I could not agree more and this is exactly why I do not have a one-size-fits-all approach to any client. We are all unique, with unique temperaments, unique personalities, unique challenges and unique responses. Why then no unique approach?

31/05/2022

"We do not fear the unknown, we fear what we know of the unknown" - Teal Swan -

To conquer the fear of what you think you know about hypnotherapy, I invite you to schedule a free introductory consultation to discuss the possibilities hypnotherapy can bring to your life. elzahn@elzahndorfling.co.za / www.elzahndorfling.co.za

Recent client feedback one week after first abundance living hypnotherapy session:

Hi Elzáhn

Hope youre all good and had a fab weekend.

Im great and i must say its been a pretty good couple of days.Im in high spirits and taking full advantage of this joyous and happy feeling.Ots like i need nothing more in life😊😊

Thank you once again.

01/05/2022

"FINDING YOURSELF" is not really how it works. You are not a R10 note in last winter's coat pocket or a pair of sunglasses on your head. YOU ARE ALSO NOT LOST. Your true self is right there, buried beneath cultural conditioning, other people's opinions and inaccurate conclusions you drew as a kid that became your beliefs about who you are.
"FINDING YOURSELF" is actually RETURNING TO YOURSELF. An unlearning, an excavation. A remembering of who you were before the world got it's hands on you. Claim who you were destined to be. Claim who you want to be tomorrow.
As symbol of me choosing to claim my own livtacular life, I ran into the ocean with my jeans on. What are you going to do on this beautiful Sunday to claim your

03/03/2022

Me, trying to stick to a budget 🙈🤪🌈