Marriage Vow

03/09/2025

SAFEGUARD YOUR MARRIAGE BY PRIORITIZING YOUR Bond ~ Dr. M. KAMTEMA

In our modern world, couples often face pressure from outside influences that can strain their relationships. Friends, family, and acquaintances may offer advice, but it’s essential to focus on protecting your marriage from these external voices. Start by setting clear boundaries with those around you. Identify what aspects of your relationship are private and communicate these boundaries to prevent misunderstandings.

Open communication is crucial in maintaining a strong connection. Create an atmosphere where both partners feel comfortable expressing their thoughts and feelings. Regular check-ins can help ensure that you’re on the same page and reduce the impact of external opinions.

Trust forms the backbone of any healthy marriage. Be open about your interactions with others and discuss any feelings of pressure you may experience. This transparency fosters intimacy and helps both partners feel secure. While it’s important to engage with friends and family, be cautious about how much their opinions influence your decisions. Always prioritize your partner’s perspective, reinforcing your unity.

Shared experiences, whether through date nights or hobbies, also play a vital role in strengthening your bond. Investing time in each other away from distractions can deepen your connection.

If external influences become overwhelming, consider reaching out to a professional counselor. They can provide valuable guidance and help you navigate challenges effectively. Ultimately, by prioritizing each other and your relationship, you can build a solid foundation that withstands outside pressures. Your love is unique—nurture it and protect it from the noise around you. Inbox me directly for confidential Counseling. sessions.




Dr. M Kamtema

02/09/2025

RECOGNIZE MANIPULATIVE HEARTS: Your Peace is Too Precious to Risk

I have discovered the profound impact of relationships on emotional and psychological well-being. One of the most damaging threats to this well-being is manipulation. Recognizing manipulative behaviors is essential for safeguarding your peace and fostering healthy connections.

MANIPULATION seeks to control or exploit others for personal gain through deceit and emotional exploitation. Key signs of manipulative behavior include:

-Gaslighting:
Distorting reality to make you question your perceptions, leading to confusion and diminished self-worth.

-Emotional Blackmail:
Using guilt or fear to manipulate your actions, often with phrases like "If you truly loved me, you would..."

-Excessive Charm:
Overly flattering behavior can conceal ulterior motives, so remain cautious.

-Playing the Victim:
Manipulators often position themselves as victims to elicit sympathy and deflect blame.

-Boundary Violations:
Disregarding personal boundaries is a clear sign of manipulation; healthy relationships are built on respect and consent.

To protect your peace, take these steps:

1. Set Clear Boundaries: Clearly define acceptable behaviors and communicate them assertively.
2. Trust Your Instincts:
Pay attention to feelings of discomfort; your intuition is a valuable guide.
3.Seek Support:
Discuss your experiences with friends, family, or a counselor to gain perspective and reinforce your self-worth.
4. Educate Yourself:
Understanding manipulation tactics can help you identify them more easily.
5. Practice Self-Care:
Prioritize activities that enhance your mental and emotional health.

Ultimately, recognizing manipulative hearts is crucial for preserving your peace. By understanding these behaviors and implementing strategies to protect yourself, you can cultivate healthier relationships. Your peace is too precious to risk; choose connections that uplift and positively contribute to your life. In a world where manipulation often goes unnoticed, staying vigilant is key to achieving a fulfilling and peaceful life.
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Dr M KAMTEMA

28/11/2024

Love doesn’t hurt; betrayal, and lies do.

Dr M KAMTEMA

12/11/2024

Sometimes, “sorry” feels hollow when the wounds cut too deep and the scars left behind tell stories that time alone cannot rewrite. The weight of betrayed trust, shattered hopes, and broken promises lingers—a constant reminder that some things, once broken, are not easily mended.

Apologies lose their power when harmful actions persist, and words of regret fall flat against a backdrop of repeated hurt. Regret may be spoken, but without meaningful change, it fails to touch the raw places left vulnerable by deception, manipulation, or neglect.

Forgiveness isn’t a quick fix but a journey, winding and uncertain. It takes genuine effort, empathy, and a willingness to understand. Even with all that, healing remains fragile, and the shadows of past pain can continue to hover, making it clear that “sorry” alone cannot bring peace.

Our delicate hearts require more than empty apologies; they demand true accountability, real remorse, and the courage to make things right. When “sorry” isn’t enough, it calls for a commitment to rebuild and restore—to not just seek forgiveness, but to strive for growth and transformation.

In those moments, we must face our own reflection, acknowledge our flaws, and take responsibility—not just in words, but in actions that prove our desire for redemption. True healing starts with the strength to change.

Dr. M KAMTEMA

13/10/2024

Nagging destroys good marriage. Beware!!!

Dr. M. KAMTEMA

12/10/2024

28/09/2024

"MARRIAGE is like a shoe
When you wear oversize be ready to drag it along through out life, and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the pains through out life.

Dr. M. KAMTEMA

11/08/2024

Don't allow yourself to be a weapon formed against someone else ~ Dr. M. KAMTEMA

06/08/2024

Silence is often better than unnecessary drama. ~ Dr. M. KAMTEMA

18/06/2024

LET THE LION IN YOU ROAR !

A lion is an animal known for its strength. It is fierce and it is bold. It has a magnificent and imposing appearance.
A lion is referred to as the “King of the Jungle”
You are of the same gyneology with Jesus Christ who is the Lion of the tribe of Judah. Which means that never be intimidated by your enemies or challenges!!
Don't be content with defeat or failure, be a fighter, don't give up and never let negative situations intimidate you.
When you "roar" in the prayer room all the demons targeting you must scramble for cover!!
Take a bold stance of Faith against every challenge you are facing now.
Let the Lion in you roar. Blessings to you. Shalom.

Dr. M. KAMTEMA

01/05/2024

PROPHETIC DECLARATION FOR THE MONTH OF MAY!

In whichever way you are feeling defeated or overwhelmed, be it your past or your present, God’s Greater Grace has been unleashed upon us from this month of May to wipe away your flaws and restore you no matter how intense it is appearing now. Faithful is our God. Shalom.

MEDITATION
1 Corinthians 1:30-31
But of Him you are in Christ Jesus, who became for us wisdom from God—and righteousness and sanctification and redemption— that, as it is written, “He who glories, let him glory in the Lord.”





Dr. M. KAMTEMA

17/04/2024

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