Dharma Psychology

23/01/2024

Supporting and guiding others with a wise mind ......

"Butterflies have a liquid in the core of their body, and as they struggle to get out of the cocoon that liquid is pushed into the veins in the butterfly wings where it hardens and makes the wings strong. If the butterfly doesn’t push and pull and fight to get out of the cocoon, his wings won’t ...

16/11/2023

How to let go of Anger and Hatred .....

When somebody says something that makes you angry and you wish they would go away, please look deeply with the eyes of impermanence. If he or she were gone, what would you really feel? Would you be happy or would you weep? Practicing this insight can be very helpful. There is a gatha, or poem, we ca...

16/11/2023

How to let go of Anger and Hatred ? ......

When somebody says something that makes you angry and you wish they would go away, please look deeply with the eyes of impermanence. If he or she were gone, what would you really feel? Would you be happy or would you weep? Practicing this insight can be very helpful. There is a gatha, or poem, we ca...

15/10/2023

Tips to reduce Anxiety - a Western and Buddhist view ......

I really enjoyed psychotherapist Bruce Tift podcast about anxiety and the interrelationship between Western therapy and Buddhist wisdom ways of healing ..... "We can learn to live a more than biological life ....." Anxiety can be incredibly overwhelming , to fix, to solve Anxiety is a completely leg...

09/05/2023

Wabi-sabi appeal lies in what cannot be bought or mass produced. Leonard Koren speaks of 'may they help you find beauty in the imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete. ". In wisdom, age is really just an older version of youth. A wabi-sabi interpretation would suggest value the wrinkles, using them t...

22/04/2023

Anger and Hatred .....How to let go ?

When somebody says something that makes you angry and you wish they would go away, please look deeply with the eyes of impermanence. If he or she were gone, what would you really feel? Would you be happy or would you weep? Practicing this insight can be very helpful. There is a gatha, or poem, we ca...

15/03/2023

What is most helpful ? Therapy or meditation ......

Even the Best Meditators Have Old Wounds to Heal Jack Kornfield For most people meditation practice doesn't "do it all." At best, it's one important piece of a complex path of opening and awakening. In spiritual life I see great importance in bringing attention to our shadow side, those aspects of o...

26/02/2023

How to reduce suffering ?
Professor James . R. Doty ( Neurosurgeon ) speaks about the effect of loving kindness on
our hearts and minds and how to reduce suffering
like fear, compassion fatique and stress ....

In this talk, Prof James Doty will take us through the influence of loving-kindness on the body and mind, how it can benefit not only others around us, but a...

12/01/2023

How to know should I leave or stay in a relationship ?

If you find yourself questioning if your partner is right for you, take stock of the situation. Ask yourself these questions : Where are you compatible? Sometimes it’s easy to focus only on the negative. Looking for what does work can give you a good reality check. Is this just an unsolvable probl...

14/12/2022

Buddhist nun Pema Chodron talks about 'Pause Practice' ......

Pema Chödrön teaches us about taking a break ! It's called Pause Practice ..... Pause practice—taking three conscious breaths at any moment when we notice that we are stuck—is a simple but powerful practice that each of us can do at any given moment. Taking a pause break , being in the just no...

26/11/2022

How to move beyond trauma .....

Van Der Kolk and Herman make the comparison and align PTSD from war zones and domestic violence as being the same. The attacks are spontaneous, the person feeling vulnerable and helpless. A child exposed to family violence often has difficulties establishing trusting relationships as an adult The tr...

19/11/2022

A Buddhist view on learning self compassion .....

“ Yes, everyone says to be kind to myself but how do I find time ? I cannot go out, I’m working, have the kids, no money, have to work or do housework. I have no time to be kind to myself. It drives me crazy when people say be kind to yourself, you have to come first. They don’t understand wha...