The Bearfoot therapist

21/07/2023

The picture to the left,

A man lost in his emotions, suppressing, surviving and existing.

I thought I was happy but lacked self worth, I thought pleasing others would for fill my needs only to be let down when they weren't met, i over gave in hopes of reciprocation but not knowing how to receive it when it was.

"I was a nice guy!" I used to tell myself..but i wasn't a " Nice Guy" I tried to manipulate my environment to meet my emotional needs only to get frustrated when it didn't.

I did the best I could with what I knew to be true too at the time.

It wasn't until I hit rock bottom that i was left a choice;

Stay the same or make the change....

the picture on the right;

A man who embodies himself for who he is, continually showing up for himself creating the trust he knows he deserves, holds himself and others accountable for their actions and takes ownership of his life not blaming anyone or anything for where he currently is.

Understanding your behaviours and triggers are gifts that allow you the opportunity to address them. like anything, witnessing and allowing what needs come to surface, to be seen,
loved, and embraced and to let it go what no longer serves.

We are not our past nor should it be forgotten, as we wouldnt be who we are today without the experiences we have had.

Be proud of you, celebrate the wins and endure the lows...

you're stronger than you know.

if this resonates, reach out...

Z. 🙏

07/10/2022

Journalling is an important part of your self care, allowing yourself to express and understand your needs, your desires and wants throughout life.

So when was the last time you journalled?

27/04/2022

The last few months have been, for the most part an eye opener... Allowing the old ways and stories to unravel itself allowing the new to emerge.

For many years I told a story to myself that "I was good enough" like I had put an unfair expectation on myself and those around me, in turn Causing a spiral out of control.

It wasn't until I hit a wall of suppressed emotion that I realised I needed to change.

"with change comes great responsibility" the voice said.

And it couldn't have rung more true....

Vulnerability is true courage.... being seen, loved and heard by oneself sets an example for everything else within your life allowing myself to creating a safe environment for true Intimacy to unfold.

For when your needs are met first you become truly present in all things.

You are Loved
You are safe
You are seen
You are Heard.

27/10/2021

13/10/2021

08/09/2021

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Sacred Feminine by Z

Your journey has been unfolding in unexpected ways... delving deeper and deeper revealing more each waking day.

The shifting of energy aligning with your feminity... As she learned to embracing her power instead of concealing within...

A fine balance between light and shadow...she finally knew who she was and always has been...the universe itself in human form.

A journey home to the heart, the fine dance between pleasure and pain yet she is willing to obtain what is feels so in vein but is only one step away from stepping out of her way.

Know this young soul for you are what you see within you, a change made possible by simply being aware of your true power..

A new world is being Born....a catalyst for humanity....a restored balance amongst the chaos, while everything seems like it's falling apart it is simply fading away as it always was intended.

31/07/2021

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Patient at the surgery table sharing Reiki before the operation, in a Mexico hospital.

10/06/2021

09/06/2021

But what if we walk barefoot? Is it good or bad for us? In this article, we will explore what happens when you walk barefoot, according to scientists.

07/06/2021

This is too important not to share.

"Perhaps the reason teens isolate themselves when they're overwhelmed instead of coming to us with their problems, is because when they're toddlers we isolate them when they're overwhelmed instead of helping them with their problems.

When our kids are small and trying to manage emotions - they can't express what they are feeling. They throw tantrums, they throw things, they have meltdowns, they scream and they whine. This is their way of communicating with us. They need help to organize, process and express their feelings in a healthy way. And society tells us we should punish them for this. Send them to their room, put them in timeout, s***k them.

We teach them and train them not to show their emotions. Don't whine. Don't complain. Your feelings are wrong. Be quiet. Eventually they stop expressing their emotions to us because we told them over and over again we didn't want to hear it. For so long they needed to deal with it alone. Alone in their room, their chair, their corner.

And then they turn into teenagers and we expect them to feel safe talking to us. We expect them to know that NOW it's okay. They are subconsciously wired to think the opposite because this is what they grew up learning.

Give your child permission to feel. Let them know their feelings are valid and that you care, no matter how small. Make sure they know that they are heard.

Pretty soon meltdowns over crayons will turn into breakups, heartbreak, s*x, or even depression. You want your child to know that you will always hear them, no matter how small. You are their safe space." - Written by Laura Muhl

17/04/2021

01/04/2021

Tantrums are a sign that a child's body has shifted into the "fight or flight" pathway of the nervous system. The fight or flight pathway launches behaviors that are involuntary, instinctual survival based, ie; not “on purpose."
— Dr. Mona Delahooke

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31/03/2021

Just a friendly reminder that you aren't what your inner critic says about you... That inner voice that makes you feel worthless sometime.

we all have good and bad days but how we respond to situations that don't go our way is reflection on how far you've come....

If you don't like what you seeing, change your mindset and watch the magic flow!

Have a great day!
Z. ☺️🙏

29/03/2021

Trauma bonds are relationships where there are cycles of: emotional neglect, abuse, abandonment, violation of boundaries, controlling dynamics, enabling, shaming, push/pull or punishment dynamics.

Trauma bonds feel very emotionally intense because they activate our original attachment wounding from childhood.

Usually there are patterns of inconsistency, lack of trust, + unpredictability that can be extremely psychologically (mentally) + physiologically (physically) addictive.

When we are in trauma bonds, there’s an awareness of the unhealthy dynamics, but the pull towards the other person can be so powerful— especially if that person carries core traits that we’re also within the parent we had the most conflicted relationship with.

If love was chaotic, unpredictable. If we “walked on eggshells” around a parent-figures emotion, or if a parent figure unconsciously used us for their own emotion gain (to villainize another parent, to fulfill their own unmet needs through pushing or molding a child, shaming the child because of the shame within themselves, or by using the child as an adult emotional support.) Similar dynamics will exist within adult relationships.

If a parent denied our reality, emotionally detached from us, or mostly ignored our need for connection we will often feel confused about our own reality within trauma bonds.

When we are confused about our own reality we feel helpless. Feeling helpless, dependent, + hiding parts of Self is the foundation of trauma bonds.

Authentic connection is a reparenting process where we go inward, to truly meet our own needs, desires, + boundaries.

So few of us (I’m still learning) are even conscious to these parts of ourselves because we had to deny them to survive at one time in our lives.

Authentic connection is peaceful, accepting, + lacks the “drama” that comes from cycles of our own stress hormones within our relationships.

It can feel boring or not exciting, especially if we never had secure attachments.

We can unlearn trauma bonds just as we learned them.

What relationship patterns are you currently unlearning

27/03/2021

hi I'm Zach but you can call me Z, and I am mindset and alignment coach.

After working 10 years in the landscaping industry I had finally hit a wall and I wasn't happy and fulfilled like I once was so I decided to make a change and embrace my passion of helping others with nature and sound healing to create an experience like know other.

bringing a grounded approach to psychology of neuroscience..utilizing language with a holistic and alternative therapies to help you achieve the best version of you.

"they say you only die once" but I don't think that is true, I say you die twice and the saddest part is you don't realise that you are dying on the inside everyday not doing the things you love to do in order to make you happy.

you can start now or in 5 minutes but either way it starts with you and I'm here to help you along the way

I look forward to hearing from you soon

Z.