25/02/2026
Music is how i heal. Its how i can realize things without it destroying me.
Everyone has their own way of healing for instance, i have a client who needs to buy a packet of dog biscuits every time she shops online at Coles even though her dog passed away seven months ago because the dog became her best friend and has been for thirteen years.
She has no parents, no children and hardly any people who she can talk to as most of her circle has restraining orders against her. She is from Darwin and is pretty nuts, hence why she doesn't have many people who want to try and support her.
She reached out to me for advice and i told her the first thing to do is to put the bottle down and cry. Then accept her memories that bring her sadness of the loss and then try a food shop next fortnight and see how you go.
Her problem is self-guilt for not looking after her dog as well as she could due to being homeless.
Apparently, she gives her dog food to the first owner with a dog that she see's. She believes that her dog 'Stella' would be wagging her tail and licking her for doing that.
I then asked her how she felt after she had done that and she said she felt as tho she fed 'Stella' more. Then i went on to say, and how many cans of dog food do you need to get until you don't need to do it anymore?
Her reply was,' When are you done feeding your children when they are hungry'? 'Well i never fed 'Stella', the public fed my dog or she would eat out of the bin and kill birds which made me feel like a murderer'. 'So Tracie i will do this until i am with 'Stella' because it makes me feel good.'
Once i read her reply i smiled to myself because i understood what she was saying 100%. I told her that she should continue doing whatever makes her feel good but, as soon as she questions if her idea is good or not then, your answer is in the question. IF YOU HAVE TO QUESTION WHAT YOU FEEL IT ISN"T THE RIGHT PATH!!!
