Jo Lauren Trauma Counselling - For Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma

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Jo Lauren Trauma Counselling - For Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma

Providing counselling for people who have experienced trauma in their lives related to their childhood and relationships.

Effective treatment using Counselling, EMDR and Clinical Hypnotherapy to create possibilities and healing. Trauma Counselling, EMDR and Clinical Hypnotherapy

27/03/2025

Take a moment to ground yourself and connect to your surroundings. When you’ve been on the receiving end of of harmful behaviours, it can feel overwhelming. Your body might feel tense, your mind might race, and old wounds may get triggered.

Activating your senses is a powerful way to bring yourself back to the present moment.

🤍 Feel—Notice what’s beneath your hands or feet. The texture of your clothing, the coolness of the air, or the warmth of sunlight on your skin.
🤍 See—Gently look around. Find five things in your space, taking in their colors, shapes, and details.
🤍 Hear—Tune into the sounds around you. The hum of a fan, birds outside, or even your own breath.
🤍 Smell—If possible, take in a scent like your coffee, a candle, fresh air from an open window.
🤍 Taste—Sip water, herbal tea, or anything that grounds you in the moment.

Each small act of awareness brings you back to yourself, reminding you that you are here and you are safe.

Do you have other ways to ground yourself?

26/03/2025

When we look at harmful patterns within our relationships, we really open our eyes to possibility of something different.

One of these harmful patterns is projection. Perhaps you can recognise it when you might have been unfairly accused of something that you realise it was actually your partner that was doing this behaviour. Or someone assumed the worst about your intentions when you did nothing wrong.

It is someone's unhealed wounds shaping the way they see you, the way they treat you.

It is so incredibly painful to be on the receiving end and you often find yourself defending your actions rather than see the behaviour as harmful.

When you notice this, take a moment to breathe and remind yourself that this is not your burden to carry.

20/03/2025

I had a moment this past week where i felt this strong desire to be loud and hide at the same time. A bit of the backstory, somebody had commented on the post of a young girl i know dancing and the comment was not nice at all. Actually, it was incredibly offensive and hurtful to multiple girls and women.

I felt it the moment I saw the comment. That familiar surge of anger, the instinct to shut down, to fire back, to do something to protect this young girl. My ego wanted to fight. My heart wanted to shield her.

But I paused.

Because this wasn't actually about me and it wasn't about this young girl.

It was about the kind of woman I want to be. The kind of mother I want to be. The kind of example I want to set for the next generation of girls growing into strong, powerful women.

The world will always have critics. Some will be constructive. Some will be cruel. Some will throw their own insecurities at others without a second thought. But how we respond is where the real power lies.

I could have matched negativity with negativity. I could have let my ego take over and made this about proving a point. But in my reflection, i asked myself what I want to teach my daughters, what do I believe real power looks like and how do I want to model that strength.

I saw the shift, the part of me that would have once reacted from old wounds, just didn't. I didn't need to fight to prove my worth and I certainly did not need to shrink in shame. Because I know who I am.

Healing is not linear and for me when I notice these shifts, I know something else has healed and the cycle has been broken.

That is the lesson I wanted to pass on today

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19/03/2025

Journalling can be great way to support your healing and understanding yourself deeply. We have patterns and ways of showing up in our lives that have a source of protection, a way to keep you safe. Maybe you withdraw from people, or you might have a tendency to blame yourself for things or put others needs before you own. Whatever that pattern might be, exploring it through journalling can uncover some insights.

🤍 How has this pattern tried to protect you in the past?
🤍 How does this pattern keep you from the life and relationship you want?
🤍 What would it look like if you showed up differently?
🤍 What is one small way you can choose a new response today?

Have you tried journalling?

Jo

17/03/2025

3 signs you are being manipulated and how you can trust yourself again 🤍

Manipulation is incredibly sneaky, and it can be some time before we even notice that it has crept its way into our lives. It can feel like self doubt, confusion or even guilt where you question your own feelings.

- You feel more confused than secure, one day they adore you and the next they are distant and critical. Your very reality is questioned and you start to feel like maybe you are overreacting and are in the wrong.

This is called gaslighting and is designed to make you doubt your reality and question yourself.

- Your boundaries are being pushed. Perhaps you feel guilty for needing space or for saying no to something you don't want to do. Healthy relationships respect boundaries, while manipulation tries to break them down little by little.

- You feel responsible for their emotions. if you feel like it is your job to keep them happy or to make sure they don't get upset, it is a pretty big red flag. Love is not about walking on eggshells or being controlled. It is about care and respect.

If you are noticing any of these signs, it means your intuition is working. You are not too sensitive or too much and you desrve healthy relationships that feels safe.

Have you ever experienced any of these? I would love to hear what helped you recognise it.

Jo 🤍

16/03/2025

Do you ever notice the thoughts running through your mind? Those mean little thoughts that keep you small? Sometimes they come rushing in like a freight train, and other times, they just kind of linger in the background. That little critical voice can be harsh, and we often don't even realise how we are speaking to ourselves.

Often these thoughts are the toxic residue of a past relationship or an unhealed childhood and are so deeply ingrained.

When we repeatedly tell ourselves that we are not good enough, or not capable or that we are too much, we’ll find proof to back it up.

I am going to encourage you to flip the script, even if it feels clunky and awkward to begin with.

Add some mindful and beautifully uplifting affirmations to bring in some gentle shifts.

Practice them daily and see if you notice any changes or sensations in your body.

Wishing you all an amazing week ahead.

Jo🤍

08/03/2025

Today, on International Women’s Day, I want to speak to the women who have walked through the fire of toxic relationships. The ones who have questioned their worth, silenced their voices, and dimmed their own light to keep the peace.

The ones who have felt trapped in cycles of pain, yet somewhere deep inside, still have a deep knowing that there is hope.

I have worked with many powerful women who did not realise the depth of their strength. As I sit and reflect in the early hours of this morning, I remember a gorgeous woman from years ago who, through her healing journey, found an image of a woman that represented her inner warrior. It was beautifully powerful, incredibly feminine, enigmatic, and strong.

What moved me most about this image was that there were no battle scars visible, no weapons in sight. The image had so much power in its simplicity. I think about it often. I see that image in my gorgeous family, my beautiful friends, my client's and women I haven't met yet.

The message you admire in others, is the strength that already lies within you!

The power that you have given away, it is yours to take back!

You have fought battles that no one has seen and now it is time for you to fight for yourself in the most powerful way!

With self-love, boundaries and the refusal to accept anything less than your soul deserves.

I encourage you all to find something that represents the beautiful warrior that lies within to remind you each and every day, how deeply powerful and worthy you are.

Happy International Women's Day 🤍

05/03/2025

💔 What Makes Trauma Bonds So Hard to Break? 💔

If you've ever felt stuck in a toxic relationship, questioning why you can’t just walk away, knowing how much it is hurting you. You are not alone! Trauma bonds make leaving feel impossible because your brain has learned to seek safety in the very place that’s causing harm.

Signs of a Trauma Bond:

🤍You feel addicted to the relationship, even when it’s painful.
🤍You excuse or justify their hurtful behavior.
🤍You crave the good moments and hold onto hope they’ll change.
🤍You feel drained but can’t imagine life without them.

Breaking free starts with awareness and recognition of the cycle for what it is. You deserve a love that feels safe, steady, and kind 🤍

26/02/2025

Sometimes life gets busy, and unexpected challenges can shake our relationships. When old wounds surface, they can impact the way we connect, communicate, and show up for those we love. Healing these deeper parts of ourselves takes awareness, care, and intention.

Our relationship and family counselling is grounded in a trauma-informed approach, helping you explore the patterns, triggers, and past experiences that shape your relationships. Whether you’re facing challenges as a couple or within your family, we provide a safe space to explore these challenges and help you to find deeper understanding, and build healthier, more authentic connections.

If you would like to chat more about how this might support you and your partner or family, please reach out, we would love to chat.

23/02/2025

Have you ever wondered how the toxic relationships of our life influence our view of ourselves? Sometimes we are reminded and it is confronting and beautiful all at the same time.

I caught up with my high school besties over the weekend, it’s been a while. I desperately wanted to clear the air. We caught up and it was everything you would want in a reunion with so much laughter, connection, joy, reminiscing. And in true style, like no time had passed, we had a moment where we talked about a big moment in our history.

For years, I had convinced myself that I was forgettable, that I didn’t belong, that they didn’t think much of me back then. The list of negative beliefs was next level. But as we talked and reminisced, I realised something shocking. Their version of me was completely different from the one I had carried in my mind. They reminded me of how much they always had believed in me and that I was nothing like the insecure, uncertain girl I had believed myself to be.

And that’s when it hit me. This wasn’t just about old friendships. It was about the way toxic relationships had shaped my reality, my view of myself and of those. When you’ve been in relationships that make you feel small, dismissed, or unworthy, they affect how you see the world and how you see yourself. Over time, you start questioning your own worth. You rewrite your history through the lens of those experiences. The once open, heart-centred, free spirited person feels like a distant memory.

And that false story that keeps running on repeat in your mind and consumes you, keeps you stuck. It isolates you. It makes you believe you don’t deserve connection, happiness, or healing. I have sat with this the past couple of days and I want you to know that these stories that have shaped you are not the truth of who you are. The way someone mistreated you does not define you. The self-doubt you carry is not proof of your worth. The version of you that lives in your mind might not be the one the world actually sees.

You are more than the pain you’ve endured. And you deserve to see your beautiful self clearly. You are not alone and I am here to remind you that it is possible to see you again.

04/02/2025

Good morning!!!!

I’ve had a crazy early start today, and I’m sipping on my chai which seems to be my drink of choice this week! Being up this early is nice, and there’s a real peace and quiet that has just led my thoughts on a reflective path. This morning I am reminded how much I love these early mornings but I really do struggle to do them regularly.

This got me thinking how hard it can be to step out of the old and into what we truly deserve.

I think about women who have been through relationship after relationship that does not honour her, does not support her needs, that makes her feel small. Relationships that are full of power plays and manipulation designed to make her question who she is at the very core.

I’ve been there and I understand how much it chips away at your identity and has you questioning how you got here! But there is this lingering thoughts in the background that just maybe there is something better, just maybe I can have the life I dreamed of.

And here is where change gets tricky, there is this expectation that she should just snap out of it, that somehow it’s her fault for choosing these relationships. That it is somehow her fault for staying in a toxic relationship and if she chooses to leave that toxic relationship, her struggles become her fault for leaving. This is incredibly disempowering and confusing and keeps her stuck because there is judgment for her choices.

Healing can be hard, it can be messy and releasing those old habits, past wounds and the comfort of what we know that keeps us stuck is beautifully challenging.

You deserve to take back your story and begin a new chapter that is all about you 🤍

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