14/11/2023
If you are healed can you be unhealed ?
No matter how much in the past I thought I had healed, you can bet that life came and opened the wounds from a new angle and triggering situation.
Does this mean I am unhealed?
Does this infer I have failed?
Was my reaction to the trigger wrong?
Was there a right way to react?
The question of "to be healed or unhealed" presents a challenge because it is based on a binary, black-and-white perspective, which I feel often oversimplifies us humans and this human experience.
Our society likes to label, but binary thinking of healed unhealed, good bad, right wrong creates societal pressure to conform, tick the right boxes, and full-on shame and fear if we don’t. It is shame that tends to be the cause of so many emotional wounds.
Compassion is a key ingredient to pave the way for an inclusive both-and perspective. It embraces both our strengths and shortcomings creating a state of wholeness and self-connection. In such a state of unconditionality shame loses its grip and healing begins.
But as we know energy likes to keep on the move and so the ability to maintain self-connection and empowerment is an ongoing process.
I no longer feel I am healed. But I know when I am triggered that an extra large dose of compassion is required as I commit to the practice of healing.