16/11/2022
Such beautiful and timeless wisdom💕🙏🏻
Usually when I talk about the many ways to end the struggle with food, I give a set of intuitive eating guidelines and describe the importance of treating yourself with kindness. And although both elements are important, the truth is that no change will happen without consistent effort over time. As you develop new ways of being with food, they eventually replace the old ways.
For the 17 years I spent ricocheting up and down the scales, my main pastime was agonizing. I'd agonize about my weight; then I'd agonize about being a failure; about my jeans size, my thunder thighs. Since whatever you pay attention to flourishes, I became an expert in agonizing about my behavior rather than changing it.
Finally, I decided to instead invest my time and energy in acting on a positive vision of myself - the sane, powerful me I sensed was waiting in the wings. Every day I would wake up and feel the pull to go back to what I had been doing before: dieting, bingeing, agonizing. And every day, I would tell myself that change was possible and that I was following a new plan; I was eating when I was hungry, stopping when I'd had enough, and keeping written track of my food intake and feelings before and after I ate. After a few months of paying attention in this way, my relationship with food permanently changed. Not only did I lose weight, but I began to believe that I was worthy of self respect. And I've never gone back.
I am not special or unusual or lucky; the only difference between me and you is the time I spent on developing a new relationship with food. You can do this, too. Focus on a positive vision of yourself and decide on specific food-related actions you can take (ones that don't involve punishment, shame or guilt) to enact that vision. Be consistent — and don't give up. No matter how many times you've tried and failed, no matter how desperate you feel in the moment or in the middle of the night, you can change. The answer is right here, right now; it's as close as your own heart and your brain.
This is an excerpt of “The Secret to Change.” Read the full article on my website: https://bit.ly/3EyBYXf