13/12/2025
BUT...
The word "but" dismisses what comes before it.
"I heard what you said, but, I think it needs to be done this way."
"I love you, but, I can't do this anymore".
"You're a great worker, but, we have to let you go".
Unconsciously, everything said before the "but" doesn't get heard.
Consciously, everything after the "but" gets heard and simultaneously influences emotions.
"You did a great job, but, we're going to go with Sharon's idea".
If you're on the receiving end of this language, would you feel considered?
Stop 'butting' all over yourself.
Whether you say it yourself or to someone else, catch your "but"!
Substitute your "but" for the word "AND".
This allows what is said before the "and" to co-exist with what comes after it.
"You did a great job, and, we're going to go with Sharon's idea".
This language helps the receiver to feel considered and offers a safe opening to build on clarification if needed.
Workplaces and relationships are only successful when the communication is delivered with the consideration of the receiver and the deliverer.
Not one more than the other!
50:50 consideration ratio is where healthy conversation lives.
Remember that language plays a HUGE role in emotions and nervous system activity. What you say AND how you say it matters!
Be INTENTIONAL with your choice of words and the delivery.
Use your words with the intention of harnessing consideration, connection, clarity and certainty.
When you start to communicate with this
intention, you start to train your brain to enhance empathy, reasoning and awareness.
Happy brain training 🧠 💪
𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐥𝐨𝐭𝐭𝐞 𝐌𝐨𝐨𝐫𝐞
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