15/04/2026
𝗖𝗮𝗻 𝘄𝗲 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗺𝘂𝗰𝗵 𝗱𝗮𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 “𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗽𝘂𝘀𝗵 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗱𝗲𝗿” 𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 ‘𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗸𝗲𝘆’ 𝗻𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗱𝗼?
I see it constantly, and I have fallen victim to this myself.
Women who have spent years and years pushing themselves, staying disciplined through grit and determination, only to find themselves slipping back into old patterns and behaviours soon enough after.
And the conclusion they draw?
“I’m the problem. I’m not strong enough. I don’t want it enough.”
That conclusion is wrong. And it’s the fastest way to shaming yourself and deepening the belief of ‘I am not good enough.’
The annoying part - Society drill into people that if you want something bad enough- you will make it work through willpower.
Now, CAVEAT- I do agree that we need to do things we don’t want to at times to move forward AND that good things come from being uncomfortable, however, there is more to it than just ‘hustle your way through or you fail.’
Studies done on willpower show other factors come into play when determining how ‘good’ someone is at willpower. Some of them are;
1. Genetics
2. Upbringing and childhood
3. Environments in general
(I could do a whole other post on this)
So, here’s what’s actually happening:
Willpower lives in the prefrontal cortex. The conscious, rational, decision-making part of you that knows better.
𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐧𝐬 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞.
They live in your nervous system. In your limbic brain. In the part of you that was wired for survival long before you had any say in the matter.
And that part of the brain activates faster than conscious thought can intercept it.
By the time your willpower shows up — the pattern has already run.
That’s why you find yourself saying “I don’t know why I did that. It just happened.”
So ‘hustling’ your way through a pattern is NOT resolving the pattern. It just suppresses it.
And suppressed patterns don’t dissolve. They build pressure. What you resist will persist.
Until one day you explode, collapse or burn out completely — and wonder why all that hard work didn’t hold.
Because trying harder was never going to work and not because you are weak.
But because you were using the wrong tool entirely.
You wouldn't try to chop wood with a screwdriver and then decide you were bad at chopping wood. You'd get the axe. Willpower was the screwdriver.
It is about going to where the pattern actually lives — in the nervous system, the body, the unconscious conditioning.
That's what shifts it.
And if you're tired of trying harder and getting nowhere — The Cycle Reset™ was built for exactly this.
Drop RESET in the comments or send me a DM.
I'll tell you everything you need to know.
↓ Save this for the next time someone tells you to just try harder. With a big🖕... 😋
