CRUSH therapy

CRUSH therapy CRUSH therapy is a therapy service that offers relationship, s*xuality and s*xual education to neurodivergent and disabled folk.

CRUSH is piloted by myself (Kate), an Occupational Therapist and Sexologist based in Perth, Western Australia.

You’re allowed to ask for routine in relationships.🫶🏼For a lot of neurodivergent people, predictability isn’t boring... ...
07/04/2026

You’re allowed to ask for routine in relationships.🫶🏼

For a lot of neurodivergent people, predictability isn’t boring... it’s what helps them feel safe, calm, and actually able to connect.

Knowing when you’ll see someone, how you communicate, what to expect… that stuff matters.

But there’s another piece too.

Sometimes, when everything is completely predictable, desire can be stolen away and we can feel a bit flat.
Not because anything is wrong, but because desire often needs a little bit of curiosity, novelty, or surprise.

So it’s not about choosing one or the other. It’s about building and managing both elements of this lovely little paradox. Feeling safe and having space for interest, excitement, and wanting.

If the voice in your head is telling you that you're “too much” for needing structure, tell it to shut up respectfully. Remember that you’re not “doing it wrong” if you also want things to feel exciting within safe boundaries / limits.

Both can exist.

This is general information — every relationship is different, and it’s okay to figure out what works for you.

06/04/2026

Back on the gram (and eek showing my face feels a little scary 😅 but here we are).

I just did a little unboxing and wanted to share these beautiful resources from Educate 2 Empower Publishing. I picked up the Body Safety & Consent Bundle, the Little Big Chats Bundle, Talking About Feelings, and the Mindfulness & Wellbeing Journal.

There’s so much in here! Books to support conversations about feelings, body safety, and consent, plus heaps of accompanying digital resources that make them really practical to use in sessions and at home.

These are definitely resources I’d recommend for therapists, parents, and families wanting to support kids in a really respectful, inclusive, and empowering way.

I’m excited to explore these more and will likely share how I use them in practice soon.

Spoon theory, s3× & intimacy (plus a neurodivergent lens)🥄🥄🥄🥄🥄We often talk about s3× and intimacy as something you “sho...
20/01/2026

Spoon theory, s3× & intimacy (plus a neurodivergent lens)
🥄🥄🥄🥄🥄

We often talk about s3× and intimacy as something you “should” make time or energy for. But for many neurodivergent people, it’s not that simple.

Spoons matter. Specifically we are referring to spoon theory.

Some people find intimacy gives spoons. Some find it costs spoons. And many experience both, depending on the day, the partner, the type of intimacy, and their nervous system state.

For some, giving spoons to intimacy feels worth it because of what they receive in return... Things like connection, regulation, pleasure, closeness, reassurance, bonding.

For others, those spoons feel too expensive (the juice isn't worth the squeeze so to speak) especially when factors such as sensory load, masking, stress, pain, trauma history, or burnout are already high.

Neither is right or wrong. It just is.

Your value for s3× and intimacy...
✨Can change over time
✨Can change day to day
✨Doesn’t have to match your partner’s
✨Doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s

And it’s okay if your answer to it is...

“Not today.”
“Only in this way.”
“Only when I have capacity.”
“Actually, this isn’t important to me right now.”

It's important to remember that consent isn’t just about saying a simple yes or no. It’s about capacity and checking in properly with yourself and/or others before moving forward.

Neurodivergent bodies and brains don’t run on unlimited energy. And you most certainly don’t owe anyone your spoons.

A lot of neurodivergent people grow up being told that their needs are “too much” or “wrong”, especially in relationship...
11/01/2026

A lot of neurodivergent people grow up being told that their needs are “too much” or “wrong”, especially in relationships. Well to anyone new to CRUSH therapy and our page, you won't find that rhetoric here! 🕺🏼

Many of the things highlighted in this post are regulation needs, communication differences, or sensory responses, not red flags.

An important note❗
This post is general and not a blanket pass for harmful behaviour. However in an increasingly polarizing world that seems to be compelled to label and make snap judgements, this post attempts to provide some nuance and empathy to a range of complex behaviours that may be labelled otherwise.

Nobody is excused from...
• causing harm
• controlling others
• repeated boundary violations
• lack of accountability

Remember that red flags are about impact, consent, safety, and power — not difference.


🎄 Out of Office 🎄CRUSH therapy will be taking a break for the holidays from 23rd of December 2025 to 13th January 2026 t...
23/12/2025

🎄 Out of Office 🎄

CRUSH therapy will be taking a break for the holidays from 23rd of December 2025 to 13th January 2026 to celebrate Christmas, New Year’s, and enjoy some rest and recharge time.

Wishing you all a joyful holiday season and a fantastic start to 2026! ⛄🌟🎁

In healthy relationships, space can be an act of care, especially when emotions are high or nervous systems are overwhel...
16/12/2025

In healthy relationships, space can be an act of care, especially when emotions are high or nervous systems are overwhelmed.

Here's some ideas on how you and your partner/s can take space respectfully (especially with an anxious partner):

• Name it clearly: “I need a break to regulate, not to leave.”

• Give a time frame: “Let’s check back in after dinner / tomorrow morning.”

• Reassure the bond: “We’re okay, I just need a pause to process and regulate my nervous system.”

• Avoid disappearing completely, silence can feel threatening.

• Follow through on reconnecting. Repair builds trust.

Space with intention supports safety, not distance.
Avoidance disconnects. Planned pauses protect.



Popping on here with less than 9 hours till the end of OT week to say HAPPY OT WEEK Y'ALLLL! 🥳🫶🏼This OT Week is about ce...
02/11/2025

Popping on here with less than 9 hours till the end of OT week to say HAPPY OT WEEK Y'ALLLL! 🥳🫶🏼

This OT Week is about celebrating the many ways occupational therapy helps people take part in life in ways that feel safe, meaningful, and possible.

At CRUSH therapy, OT often looks a little different to what people might know OT to typically look like.
It might mean supporting someone to find sensory strategies that help their body feel calm, exploring safe relationships and consent, puberty, engaging in s3×ual health practices, protective behaviours or adjusting routines so daily life feels more doable.

Our focus is always on creating quality of life, equal opportunity, connection, and confidence, NOT forcing anyone to fit into someone else’s idea of “normal."

Here’s to the OTs quietly helping people build lives that feel like their own. 🤝

🎧 Executive function is the DJ of your brain and therefore your intimacy & relationships! 🎧(Bear with me on this analogy...
14/09/2025

🎧 Executive function is the DJ of your brain and therefore your intimacy & relationships! 🎧

(Bear with me on this analogy and let me know if it resonates!)

Struggling to “hit play” on connection? That’s task initiation.

Overwhelmed with the playlist of life and love? That’s planning & organization.

Unsure what’s most important... s3×, cuddles, or just time together? That’s prioritisation.

Running out of energy before you’ve made time for intimacy? That’s time management.

Navigating changes in desire, boundaries, or routines? That’s flexibility & self-monitoring.

Many neurodivergent adults (and their partners) notice these executive function challenges affecting their s3× lives and relationships. The good news is that with tools, self-compassion, and support, you can remix the track.

I welcome you to come talk about how intimacy, s3×, and connection can look different. And how to find rhythms that feel authentic to you.🎶


Wise words from the legend herself! 💌Strong, supportive relationships are linked to better regulation, resilience, and o...
10/09/2025

Wise words from the legend herself! 💌

Strong, supportive relationships are linked to better regulation, resilience, and overall wellbeing. For neurodivergent people, this often means finding spaces where difference is not just accepted but valued and celebrated.

At CRUSH, we focus on helping people build the kinds of connections that feel safe, authentic, and sustainable.

💔 These are commonly shared experiences for some neurodivergent people during breakups. They won’t apply to everyone, an...
22/08/2025

💔 These are commonly shared experiences for some neurodivergent people during breakups. They won’t apply to everyone, and your journey may look very different and that’s valid too.💔

Breakups can hit differently when you’re neurodivergent.🫠

Monotropic focus may keep you looping on memories. RSD can make rejection feel unbearable. High-contrast thinking can swing you between extremes. Impulsivity may pull you toward big, sudden choices. Even memory gaps or executive function struggles can make daily life feel harder.

But a strengths based lens (OTs love a person centered strengths based moment!!🌱) reveals that these same characteristics can hold many hidden strengths too. Deep focus can fuel healing. Sensitivity can create profound empathy. Intensity can drive passionate growth. Boldness can open new paths. Even the urge to fill a void can spark new routines and communities.

Which of these patterns feels familiar in your own experiences? Perhaps something to quietly reflect on, or to share in the comments if you’d like? I'll leave it with you. 🤔💭

Click share or send me a DM if something resonates or you have feedback. Always willing and open to hearing the voices, opinions and experiences of others ✨


"What are my Plan B options if I’m autistic?”Short answer: The same as anyone else.Longer answer? You might face extra c...
07/08/2025

"What are my Plan B options if I’m autistic?”

Short answer: The same as anyone else.

Longer answer? You might face extra considerations or barriers getting emergency contraception AND that doesn’t make you any less entitled to it. EVER

Flick through the above post to see ...
💟 Emergency contraception options available in Australia
💟Sensory and neurodivergent-specific barriers
💟 Tips to make accessing Plan B easier
💟 Info for trans & non-binary folks
💟 What you can do if Plan B doesn’t work

Every body and mind deserves accessible, affirming sexual health care, free of judgement, without assumptions or needing to explain why you’re there.

You can be q***r, disabled, neurodivergent and still need (and deserve) contraception. If Plan B doesn’t work, there are still options in WA (where I am based) including safe, legal abortion.

🌟Monthly supervision spots available 🌟If you are looking for a safe, reflective, neuroaffirming supervision set up that ...
22/07/2025

🌟Monthly supervision spots available 🌟

If you are looking for a safe, reflective, neuroaffirming supervision set up that actually makes space for the real stuff and stuff you don't usual cover. Things like uncertainty, nuance, identity, intimacy, gender, puberty and complexity then definitely slide into my DMs🤠

Each month, I offer two 1:1 supervision slots through CRUSH therapy for professionals supporting neurodivergent or disabled clients. Already a number of clinicians have accessed supervision support sessions for specific and general clinical support. Many come to me for additional supervision and coaching on how to manage and support clients presenting with goals under s3×uality and intimacy, protective behaviours, puberty and challenging s3xual behaviours.

This option is ideal for:
✔️ OTs, educators, support workers, counsellors, and students
✔️ Case reflection, boundaries, ethics, sensory/s3×uality topics
✔️ Unpacking practice through a neuro-affirming lens
✔️ Bringing questions you might not feel safe to ask elsewhere

This is a paid supervision spot, available monthly on a first-in basis. Casual, no lock-ins. One-off or ongoing.

📩 DM or email to book in! And let's chat!!

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Perth, WA
6005

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