The Kindness Project

30/03/2026

I was speaking with a lovely young lady recently about how she has been thinking about getting a diagnosis for ADHD.

She said her parents had always been skeptical of it, so we chatted about what it would mean for her. She said it would help the way she experiences life to be validated. Allow her to have a greater understanding about herself and how she functions, and hopefully that would make a life a little easier.

We also chatted about how she studies and how bright she is, but people tell her she needs to do things differently. I said instead of doing things their way, why not do it your way, but with more preparedness. So, the last-minute study, could be supported with food, space and hydration so that she feels better. If she plans to the study last minute, then she can also give herself some grace, that means no guilt or shame, which gives a lot more space to retain what she is studying. It really is ok it we don't do things like other people; we don't all work the same. But a validated and supported system will function better than one that is torn down by others and shamed out loud.

As we ended our chat I asked why don't you look into a diagnosis? She said "Well, there are others that need it more than me, I don't want to take that away from them." I said, " but your existence makes you worthy".

It is true, you are here to live this one life, this is what makes you worthy of all the good things that are waiting and already being held for you, you are allowed to understand yourself too. Acceptance of self can be a big thing, so today, a gentle reminder you are worthy. ###

12/03/2026

Sneaking up on the herd for dinner time!

They have been super happy for a few cooler days this week, even a little bit of rain over their backs two days ago was joy. Just enough to get a little mud on themselves.

It has been a long hot summer. We are certainly looking forward to some cooler days.

23/02/2026

My name is Jen, I freaking love sunsets and sunrises, horses, unicorns, hot chippies, coffee and most people can win me over with strawberry freddo frogs!!

I've been running The Kindness Project for nearly 11 years now, what began as Equine Facilitated Learning has evolved into deeply partnered work with horses when I realised they were profound masters of inner stillness. I also took my work out of the paddock to work one on one with clients 8 years ago.

I call my appointments "Transformation Sessions", I assist the body to recalibrate itself, helping it find balance and space so that it can do what it does best: live functionally and heal itself.

I love love love the nervous system, I love that we can work together and help it find its way back to regulation and function. Ahhhh bliss!!!

I have been studying for 15 years now, but just as importantly I have been walking my own path of inner healing, and growth. Understanding in a much deeper way the true power and beauty of life, presence, consciousness and what we are past the physical vessel.

When we work together it isn't just about applying a series of techniques, I share my presence and nervous system with you. I work intuitively and offer you a space of nurture, where you are truly seen and understood.

I also walk a path of having lived experience through raising two children alone, one through chronic illness, and throw in divorce (with a side serve of difficult ex), loss/grief, and a myriad of other life traumas, and a gorgeous sprinkle of living with dyslexia and neurodivergence. While difficult this all allows me to understand many things others have lived through too. I also know what coming out the otherside looks like..... it's beautiful 😍 if you would like to discover that kind of beauty too, let me help guide you through your own transformation. 💫✨️

20/02/2026

I was listening to a podcast with Tim Ferris yesterday and he was speaking about why he doesn’t use AI to help him write pretty much anything. He said that he wonders what we are losing within ourselves as people are using AI to not only write but dissect all parts of their lives. One of his examples was how people are using it to break down situations in their lives.

For example, they receive a text message, and they use AI to break it down and then to create a reply.

The question he had posed himself “what skill do we lose or diminish within ourselves when we use technology.” He had decided that it would diminish his creativity and also it would take him out of his body and eventually weaken his ability to have the full experience in interactions.

I have heard of people using it in the dating world, people giving thoughtful answers to questions, then when they meet the person has no ability to talk or speak with any depth. Then they admit they had used AI to create the charming answers.

One of the things that happens when we engage with people is a felt sense occurs within us; we have a resonance with things. If we simply place a message into AI and ask for an answer it doesn’t have that connection.

When we receive a message our body, our nervous system, our emotions, our consciousness responds to what has been said, as we are meant to. Our replies need to come from that same place, sometimes we feel we can’t give a regulated answer and therefore our replies to others can feel messy. But is this not a part of learning and growth.

I have also seen it as a tool recommended by divorce and DV/abuse type life coaches, to create emotionally neutral replies. Yes, maybe this is a safe start point. But you also need to develop the skill, as Tim was saying there is so much connected and I think there would be so much growth and learning you’d miss if you only used the AI tool.

I have seen a lot of people using it to create business posts etc but they have a lack of feeling within it all.

I use the tools to assist with grammar correction and spelling, being dyslexic these tools have helped me immensely. But I had never thought of entering a conversation into them and having it break it down.
It can not speak to your felt sense, to what is triggered or sparked. How does it know which words created unease within you and allowed you to look at why. Using them to justify you’re your unease takes away from the felt sense and inner exploration and potential growth. I guess maybe that is what some people want.

I really liked the idea of what we might lose within ourselves if we stop using our connection and felt sense though. It would or could eventually be like muscle wastage and overtime we stop feeling into ourselves. It could break that connection to ourselves, eventually leaving us more unsafe.

I love that the short conversation that was had on this particular podcast had me thinking about the greater impact, and what the impact could indeed be.

I spend so much time helping people find a deeper connection to themselves, increasing their capacity to experience life from a felt sense of safety, building these secure foundations of themselves, and I can see how quickly these would be depleted by repetitive use of such technology. Think, feel, emote, respond, have experiences, don’t deny these for yourself, these are the wonderous parts of being human. Even when you feel a little fractured, you don’t have to hide from these beautiful parts of yourself. Life is a beautiful full feeling journey.

*No AI was used in the writing of this post 🤣🤣

19/02/2026

I help women gently remember themselves.

To recalibrate their whole systems.
To stand a little taller.
To rediscover their inner voice.
To remember their inner strength and boundaries.

Not trauma healing or recovery.
This is coming home to wholeness.

It isn’t learning and building more or becoming more.
It isn’t about striving, fixing or thinking your way out.
It’s about allowing the layers of you shaped by a lifetime of experiences to be finally worked through with presence and release.

Creating space where the body returns to balance.
Letting the nervous system settle and gain function.
Not so much healing…
But coming home.

Book your transformation session; available via video call or in person. Visit the website below.

16/02/2026

As we cross the threshold into the Chinese Year of the Fire Horse, I wanted to share the closing benediction from an event I held on Saturday with my herd.

For me it was a moment to honour the herd and the people in attendance. I also shared a beautiful moment with my horse Kouri, as I read this blessing out, he stood in front of me with his head gently bowed down at my chest, eyes softly closed. The sacredness of our partnership and connection hit me deeply, as the rest of the horses came in closer to join us all. I shared these words through a few tears as the moment tapped right into my heart and emotions and the huge love I have for my horses.

I have seen so many people sharing about this year and speaking to tapping into horses, my hope this year is we have more reverence for them, keep them safe, and learn from them instead of taking. I think we have used them enough, it's time we stop using them to carry what is not theirs to hold. May 2026 bring a greater consideration and more humility in our partnerships with them.

Welcome 2026 Year of the Fire Horse.

16/02/2026

We met just after Valentines day in 2013!!

Who could ever have imagined the path we would walk together for the next 13 years.

When I met Kouri it was like an electric shock that travelled up my arm and straight into my heart. It was like finding some one I had lost long ago.

On Saturday I shared a beautiful moment with him, and on Sunday Facebook memories popped up to say it was the day I'd first met him. How uncanny the timing.

Having the blessing of animals to share life with is just so incredibly special. This horse means the absolute world to me, I just bloody love him. 💖💝

Look at how young we once were... 😆😆 let's hope we get to grow old (older 👵) together too.

12/02/2026

When being seen feels exposing.
But being unseen feels lonely.

This duality within creates an ache within you.

It isn't brokenness, it's a representation of what you have survived through.

It is your nervous system speaking, not truth, but from what it is holding, from all that you've stored up from moments you've lived through.....survived!

Each of us has a desire to be seen, to be heard, felt and understood.
To be truly and powerfully witnessed.
To have all parts of us held in a safe and nurturing space.

Yet the very thought of that, while a desire, may also contract us, illicit fear, make us want to hide. Because being seen hasn't always been safe for us.

Maybe we have experienced times when visibility came with criticism.
Or vulnerability was met with dismissal.
Your gentleness was met with cruelty.

The body remembers. Your Consciousness remembers

It learnt to brace.
To scan.
To stay slightly guarded.

What an amazing thing, it kept you safe, when you truly needed it. What magnificence we have within us.

It didn't break you,
it purposefully protected something so tender; the whole of you!

Now that may feel like “I don’t want to be seen”
because the nervous system, body, memory, consciousness is still holding onto life moments that disrupted your sense of safety.

Now you hover in between.
Desire to be seen,
Desire to be safe.

It can be such a stuck space.

Safety is not a mindset you force.
Thoughts alone will not set you free.
That structure of holding you feel, can be gently released.
Your nervous system recalibrated.
Safety and inner trust built from within.

You are allowed to exist without the walls that appeared around you. You are allowed to be seen while feeling safe.
Explore life from a new space within.

If it feels like time for a change, join me for a transformation journey.

08/02/2026

I'm still learning how to hear the word beautiful, and let it be meant for me.

To breathe it in and let it belong here.
~ Butterflies Rising

It is so interesting how humans find kindness so difficult to accept. When did that happen to us.

We can see a view, and we say the word beautiful to it because that is a description of everything we feel within us when we see it. The view continues to exist, even once we've turned our back and walked away. Did we take the beauty with us because it was our felt sense?

I guess the beauty was in us all along. Wouldn't it be lovely it we felt the same looking at ourselves in the mirror as we do when see the rays of sunlight breaking through trees at sunset.

You are beautiful 🥰

We are allowed to enjoy the felt sense that spreads warmly through us when someone shares what they truly see within us. Just allow it to roll through and settle in.

You aren't just beautiful. You are Perfect and worthy too.

Have a fabulous Monday 💞

06/02/2026

We are meant to be sensitive. We are meant to feel the world around us, gently scanning outside of ourselves. However, when we are scanning from a disorganised, overwhelmed system, we may feel under threat constantly.

Have you ever found yourself feeling "fried" or in more pain following a massage or wiped out completely after talk therapy? Perhaps you recognise that you are sensitive, or perhaps it has been exploited against you throughout your life. How many times have you heard "oh, you're so sensitive!!" as an insult?

Well, I'm here to tell you we are supposed to be. We aren't, however, supposed to suffer because of it. Gently rebuilding your baseline, or sturdy foundations, helps you regain the function of your nervous system. Working with someone who isn't able to feel the shifts can make the work harder; if they lack gentleness and presence, you may feel overworked and find it more dysregulating. You don't want to feel like you've been put through the wringer or shut down following a visit to any type of practitioner.

Working with someone who gently works with you to help you dissolve the structures or holding, by working with deep presence and gentle practices that allow your body to follow its natural process, may benefit you greatly. The way I work is steeped in presence, gentleness, intuition, and listening to all of you. We don't override or push; it is conversational. Watching and seeing shifts in the body, in what is said, the way it is said, it is allowing time for the adjustments to happen before applying another technique and forcing changes.

Your nervous system already knows how to work in a balanced way; it just has an accumulation of "stuff and experiences" keeping it overwhelmed. As we reduce what you are storing, more space is created within all of you, and balance quietly and softly returns. Allowing that beautiful sensitivity of yours to help bring safety, while you feel and explore the world as you are designed to. It is no longer perceived as bad, but beautiful and functional.

03/02/2026

I created this workshop because it was something I felt deeply called to do for myself. Over the past 12 months I have found myself feeling lost and not completely knowing the way forward. Life has changed, as it is meant to, and this means a new personal chapter begins, however the blank pages ahead in my own story left me feeling quite disoriented. The possibilities being endless and I felt I needed a place to begin.

A way to consciously close the year that has been, to acknowledge what it shaped within me, and to step into the new year with ideas, focus and intention. As the ideas and questions stirred within, so did the thought that many people I’ve encountered are feeling the same way. It all began to feel like an offering that others might also be longing for, a chance to slow down, reflect, and arrive at the new year in a more grounded and embodied way, opening a curiosity and freedom within.

I didn’t need someone to hear me, I needed a space to be present with myself and allow my inner truth, hopes and dreams to be given the freedom to truly rise. I wanted to hear myself!

As this idea unfolded, I decided to create a workbook and a space to help explore all of these questions, thoughts, reflections and feelings. I now invite you to join my herd and I to explore your body, heart, and inner world and what you are ready to release from last year, and what you are quietly asking for in the next. The Year of The Fire Horse has much to offer, lessons from horses themselves, as well as new opportunities.

I have created this experience for you to move through in your own way. I ask you to give yourself reverence and grace, to look upon yourself as lovingly as you do others, to speak to yourself with kindness and gentleness. Trust that whatever meets you is enough. This workshop is simply an invitation; to mark the turning of the year with care, to honour your own becoming, and to step forward with a little more clarity, softness, and self-trust.

Each person will receive a copy of the 75-page workbook, created just for this event. It includes journaling and letter writing prompts, mandala art breaks, information about the Chinese New Year, blanks pages to draw and write, prays and rituals you can use to help find inner guidance in the year ahead. You may like to bring along pens, pencil etc to use as you work through the pages. Pens will be provided.

Please know this will be a supported workshop, as things rise, we can work together to create release, help your system hold less as you allow more space for what is to arrive in the year ahead. As you encounter moments with the herd during your visit, welcome them and their wisdom with deep acceptance.

As with all events that offer with my horses, I ask that you please respect the health, safety and wellbeing of the horses themselves. Be aware of what you are entering the space with. It is not a place to dump your hurts, horses can be affected by humans greatly, as they wish to bring you into stillness they will help ease your pains. This can mean they may self-sacrifice for you, please consider your mental health space. If you are suffering from suicidal ideation, I please ask you to refrain from booking into this workshop. Prior to attending the event I also ask you to abstain from alcohol and any non-prescribed drugs, as this affects the health and safety, energy flow of the herd.

Thank you for joining us, we look forward to sharing this space with you.

Jen and the herd.

The Kindness Project: Jennifer Cumins | Recconection to Self | Meditation with Horses | Post Traumatic Growth | Sacred Space with horses

16/01/2026

From little things, big things grow!! Learning to love and admire yourself can begin in the simplest of ways.

Buy yourself some flowers, take in the view on your morning walk and allow yourself to feel the joy.

It is small things, acts for self, that become bigger things that say you are worthy and will not accept less.

It changes the way you see yourself, how you look after yourself, and then you find the way others treat you dramatically shifts too.

You are worthy of the love and care you give others, and it even allows you to have more capacity and freedom to share from.

Happy Saturday!! Enjoy something lovely and delicious for yourself today. 😍