Lessons With Ant

28/10/2025

Hey everyone. This week is a bit crazy, so no Readings unfortunately.

I'll be back next week, I promise!

27/10/2025

Lesson #176: You are allowed to outgrow the role that kept you safe.

There are versions of you that served a season. They learned the rules, kept the peace, carried the extra weight, and made sure the lights stayed on. Honour them. Thank them. Then notice the moment your chest tightens at the old script and your voice thins when you try to play it again. Safety can become a costume that scratches. Growth begins when you loosen the laces and tell the truth about what fits now.

Outgrowing does not need a grand exit. It asks for presence. You listen for the part of you that is quietly ready and you let it lead, one honest choice at a time. You return the tasks that were never your job. You stop auditioning for rooms that do not love your real tone. You let relationships recalibrate without making anyone the villain. The body will show you you are on track. Breath deepens. Shoulders settle. Sleep feels like sleep again.

When grief rises, treat it as proof that the old you worked hard. Sit with it. Feed it something warm. Then turn back to the life that is asking for you. New roles feel loose at first and that is fine because, over time, you grow to fit them.

25/10/2025

Hey everyone. So tomorrow morning, at around 4am, I will be heading off on a 30km coastal walk. I'm making one last post for donations. Please read this post first though.

This walk falls on the birthday of my late sister. Her passing put me in a very dark place for a very long time, and this 10kgs doesn’t even come close to the weight I used to feel. But imagine being a 16yo kid, with all the pressures of today's world, and not having your Mum here to help you... that's my nephew, Slaide.

I know he faces challenges daily and I know the support for him just isn't there. But if something like this could help a kid like him, I would walk to Broome if I had to.

So at 4am tomorrow, I will walk out the door carrying 10kgs of extra weight but in my heart I will be carrying my sister and my nephew. Each step will be for them.

So, if you can, please, donate to my challenge and think of them whatever time you wake up tomorrow. Because this isn't about me, it's about Slaide and all the other young men out there who need guidance, support, and a safe space to talk.

Wear a 10kg vest across 50km for mental health

24/10/2025

Lesson #175: A clear boundary is the kindest thing for both of you

There is a softness that arrives the moment you stop arguing with your own limits. Your body already knows where the line sits. It tells you with a quick breath, a tight jaw, the way your voice thins when you promise what you cannot give. Kindness is not endless access. Kindness is honest capacity spoken in a voice that does not apologise for existing. When you say this is what I can do and this is what I cannot, you protect the part of you that loves to be generous so it can keep loving without resentment.

Make the boundary simple and liveable. One sentence you can repeat without heat. One small ritual that returns you to yourself after hard conversations, like washing your hands or walking to the nearest tree and letting your shoulders drop. Notice how clarity unclutters the room. Requests land where they belong. Your yes feels real again. Your no carries respect. The drama you thought was inevitable often dissolves because your energy is no longer available to feed it.

If guilt wanders in, give it a chair and keep moving. You are not withholding love. You are shaping it so it can last. Boundaries are not walls, they are thresholds that keep the visit truthful. When you hold your own line with care, the people who can meet you will step closer, and the ones who cannot will show themselves without you having to chase the lesson.

23/10/2025

Sorry all, still playing catch up with all these glitches thanks to the Amazon outage this week. Who knew how many things relied on it... We've got three clear nudges today.

#𝟭 - 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗿
Hope is not wishful thinking here; it is a body feeling that returns after a long season of holding your breath. The Star rinses the system and reminds you that healing is a practice, not a finish line. Let your future widen a little and choose nourishment that is real, like sleep that actually restores or conversations that soothe rather than perform.

Follow the thread that feels honest rather than loud, and notice how small acts of care begin to stitch your faith back together. When you trust that gentle north within you, the next right step becomes simple, and the pressure to rush begins to fall away.

#𝟮 - 𝗙𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝗖𝘂𝗽𝘀
This is the moment where comfort slides toward numb and the view turns flat even though life keeps offering you little glints of newness just outside your usual frame. You are not wrong to want more meaning, though folding your arms will not help you find it.

Change the angle before you change your life. Move your body, open a window, sit somewhere different, then look again at what is being offered. Take one invitation that feels slightly inconvenient but quietly right. Gratitude can be practical here, not a performance, and a small shift in posture may be all it takes to let interest flow back in.

#𝟯 - 𝗧𝗵𝗿𝗲𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗣𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗰𝗹𝗲𝘀
Skill loves good company. This card is the satisfaction of doing something well while standing beside people who respect the craft. You do not have to carry the whole project on your own shoulders. Name the standard, name the roles, and make feedback a ritual so improvement feels safe rather than sharp.

Invest in tools or training that lift your baseline and be proud of the detail no one else sees. Recognition arrives when you build openly and let others see how the pieces fit, and wealth follows the work when you honour the process that makes excellence repeatable.

22/10/2025

Lesson #174 - What if the person you are becoming is built from the smallest promise you keep today?

Big shifts like to dress themselves in fireworks, yet most of the time your life turns on quiet hinges. You tell yourself you will do one simple thing that honours your energy and you either keep that promise or you drift. The body always notices. When you follow through, your chest loosens and your steps feel less heavy. When you ghost yourself, the mind fills the silence with stories that are clever or unkind. The cure is not another speech. It is a single honest act repeated until trust returns.

Start where the breath is easy. Choose one small thing that signals respect to your future self and make it real before you announce it to the world. Drink the water before you open your messages. Put your shoes by the door so movement is a near decision rather than a distant chore. Speak the boundary in a sentence you can live with and then live it. These are not chores for some ideal version of you. They are proof that you can steer your day with gentle hands and a clear heart.

If doubt pipes up, let it talk while you work. Doubt can ride in the back seat, it does not hold the wheel. Watch how the tiniest kept promise changes your posture, your timing, your appetite for the next right step. This is how momentum begins, not with destiny music, just a steady rhythm that says, "I show up for me, and because I do, I can meet the world without losing my power."

21/10/2025

Take a slow breath, look at the three cards, and notice which number your spirit leans towards. Drop your number in the comments and tell me what you felt as you chose.

If someone in your world could use a gentle nudge, share this or tag them so they can join in. I post these free group readings every week, so come back for the reveal on Thursday and see what lands for you.

𝙋.𝙎. 𝙎𝙤𝙧𝙧𝙮 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙘𝙧𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙮 𝙗𝙖𝙘𝙠𝙜𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙. 𝘾𝙖𝙣𝙫𝙖 𝙬𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙙𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙄 𝙙𝙞𝙙𝙣'𝙩 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚 𝙙𝙤𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙩 𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙡𝙖𝙨𝙩 𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙪𝙩𝙚...

20/10/2025

Lesson #173 - The threshold decides the beginning of your next journey.

Every change has a doorway. You feel it before you see it, that slight lift in the chest or the quiet drop in the gut as you stand between what has been and what wants to begin. Thresholds tell the truth without a speech. If your breath deepens and your shoulders lower, walk forward. If your jaw tightens and your mind scrambles to make excuses, pause. You do not need a jury to choose what is right for you. You need something that lets your inner compass speak and a promise that you will listen.

Carry a small talisman that reminds you of your values and touch it when you decide. Trace an invisible line on the ground and step over it only when your body loosens. Look up and see where your 'yes' sits in the constellations of your life. Patterns reveal themselves when you give them a clear sky. Consistency does the rest. The more you honour the doorway feeling, the less you chase red flags in rooms you never needed to enter.

17/10/2025

Lesson #172 - Keep your candle steady

There is a light in you that does not need proving. It burns the way a heart keeps time, steady when you give it air and a little care. Most days the work is not grand. It is a quiet 'yes' to what nourishes you and a kind 'no' to what bends you out of shape. When you protect your flame, you do not need to dim anyone else. You let their light be their business while you tend to the warmth that helps you think clearly and love cleanly.

Choose one simple ritual that feeds your glow and repeat it until your body trusts it. Brew the cup that slows your breathing. Step outside and feel the ground under your feet before you speak. Put your phone face down when you eat. Give yourself two minutes to name what you feel before you answer a message. Small acts become a rhythm, and rhythm becomes presence. When your light is tended, your boundaries do not have to be loud. They are understood, and so are you.

16/10/2025

Some great messages in this week's Reading. Hope this helps.🔮

#𝟭 - 𝗧𝘄𝗼 𝗼𝗳 𝗖𝘂𝗽𝘀
This is the moment a connection relaxes your shoulders and everything gets quieter inside. You meet as equals and the exchange feels clean, not sticky, not forced, just two people bringing their real selves to the same small table and finding the pace together. If love is the theme, it looks like simple plans that turn into shared rituals and a softness that does not erase your edges. If it is friendship or family, it is the mending kind where listening lands and old knots loosen. Speak plainly, receive kindly, and let the yes grow at its own speed.

#𝟮 - 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗠𝗼𝗼𝗻
Your inner world is speaking in pictures and hunches and the kind of knowing that arrives before words. Dreams echo. Symbols repeat. The body answers questions with a flutter or a calm wave, and your task is to notice the tone rather than chase a neat label. Move slowly and keep one gentle ritual close, something small that turns down the noise so you can hear the softer answer. Fear can dress up as instinct, so give it time; true intuition keeps you steady while you step through a doorway you cannot quite see yet.

#𝟯 - 𝗡𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗣𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗰𝗹𝗲𝘀
Here is earned ease, the glow that comes from showing up for yourself until comfort becomes your new normal. You have built something worth enjoying, so let pleasure be practical and unapologetic. Choose what is beautiful and useful, invest in the tools and spaces that lift your daily rhythm, and let your no be as kind as your yes. Abundance is not a lucky accident. It is proof that consistency grows fruit when you trust your pace.