Lessons With Ant

10/12/2025

Lesson #193: You're not the party healer. You can take the night off.

You know that thing where you go for a simple catch-up and somehow end up running an emotional workshop at the table. People slide their secrets across to you like tarot cards. You clock the energy in the room before you even sit down. You are scanning, soothing, translating, and holding the vibe together like it is your unpaid job. By the time you get home, you are wrecked, and everyone else is lighter. Familiar

Here is the truth. Just because you can read a room does not mean you are responsible for fixing it. Your sensitivity is a gift, but it is not community infrastructure. You are allowed to let a conversation be a bit awkward without rushing in to rescue it. You are allowed to let someone else be the supportive friend for once. You are even allowed to be the messy one who needs a debrief and a snack and a cry. Being intuitive does not cancel out your right to be human.

Next time you walk into a space, try this tiny reframe in your own mind. I am not the healer tonight; I am just a person here. Notice what softens when you let that be true. Maybe you answer in shorter sentences. Maybe you do not ask the extra question that opens a 40-minute trauma download. Maybe you leave when your body first gets tired instead of when everyone else is done with you. That is not you being cold. That is you giving your energy a night off so the rest of you can breathe.

09/12/2025

A little earthy again this week! We have some new followers so I thought I would pop in a reminder on how this works.

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08/12/2025

Lesson #192: You are allowed to outgrow chaos. Peace is not boring.

There comes a point where the messy story stops being charming and just feels tired. The late replies, the constant drama, the calendar that only clears when you get sick. For a long time it can feel normal, even exciting. You get used to living in a little soap opera. Then one day your body goes, "𝗔𝗯𝘀𝗼𝗹𝘂𝘁𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝗻𝗼𝘁! 𝗪𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀." That moment is not you being boring. It is you becoming honest about what your system can actually hold.

There is this quiet fear that if you let things get calmer, your life will lose its magic. No more wild plot twists. No more intense bonds formed by trauma bonding at midnight. But peace is not empty. It is just unfamiliar at first. Your intuition sounds different when it is not screaming over alarms. Good love feels different when it does not arrive with chaos as a side dish. Creativity comes through cleaner when you are not recovering from the last explosion. You start realising that safety has its own magic.

You are allowed to miss the rush a little and still choose something gentler. You can be grateful for the seasons that taught you and still step away from people, habits, and environments that keep your nervous system on high alert. Stability will not erase your magic. It will give it a home that does not burn down every second weekend. Let the old storyline be a chapter, not your entire personality. There is nothing dull about a life that lets you breathe.

07/12/2025

I remember watching this as a kid and wondering why Captain Picard was being extra grumpy 😆

05/12/2025

Lesson #191: Lightness counts as healing too. Your laughter is not a distractionm, it's medicine.

Some of you treat joy like dessert. Nice if it appears, but not something you are really allowed to base a life on. The work has to be heavy to be real. The conversation has to be deep to be worthwhile. You apologise for being silly, for making memes about your own spiritual awakening, and for laughing halfway through a cry. But lightness is not a distraction from healing. It is one of the ways your system remembers it is safe enough to heal at all.

Think about the moments that actually got you through your worst seasons. Yes, the big breakdowns and breakthroughs mattered. The therapy. The journalling. The shadow work. All of it. But also the stupid inside joke that kept you from going under. The late-night drive with a terrible playlist that let your chest loosen for ten minutes. The friend who sent you a cursed meme at the exact right second. That was medicine too. Your guides use laughter as often as they use lessons.

You are allowed to build small pockets of light into your day on purpose. Not as avoidance. As balance. Watch something that makes you snort. Wear the ridiculous shirt. Dance like a chaotic fae in your lounge room for one song and do not explain it to anyone. It does not cancel your depth. It helps your body remember there is more to you than whatever hurt last. Spirit is not asking you to be serious all the time. It is asking you to be alive.

04/12/2025

Ooomph... that's one heck of a read.

𝟭. 𝗦𝗮𝗵𝗮𝗾𝗶𝗲𝗹
You're probably feeling like you're being watched right now, and you are, but probably not by who you think. So many people overestimate other people's interest in their lives. Just a heads up, most people have their own stuff going on and they aren't really interested in what you're doing. You ARE being watched by the Universe though. You have procrastinated yourself into a corner and now the Universe is waiting to see your next move. Will you behave like a cornered animal or will you rise up like the warrior you are? The choice is yours.

𝟮. 𝗛𝗮𝘀𝗺𝗲𝗱
Burn. It. Down. Whatever it is that you have been holding on to so hard it makes your hands bleed, let it go. It's time to fail and start again. All you're doing right now is throwing buckets of water on bushfire and hoping to stay safe. It's going to hurt and you're probably going to feel like absolute crap for a bit but what you're doing now is exactly the same; it's just so drawn out and diluted you don't realise it. Technically, you've already failed; the Universe is just waiting for you to catch up. Sorry not sorry.

𝟯. 𝗠𝗮𝗹𝗸𝘂𝘁𝗵
You're about to begin a new cycle in one of the more material realms of your life (career, money, where you live), and it's probably going to take some adjusting that will look like something else to others. That's not your problem; that's theirs and if they try to make it yours, you can very politely show them the door, along with the giant handle that will whack them on the ass on their way out. You don't have time for other people's drama right now because you are setting a foundation that needs to be untainted by BS.

𝟰. 𝗘𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗯𝘂𝘀
FYI. Doing nothing is a decision, not a result. You are choosing to do nothing and that choice is coming from a place of "What if". It's natural, given humans are hardwired to avoid pain or danger. However, you need to walk directly into the "danger" in order to see any changes or movement in your life. Remember that every choice is just that, a choice. It's a moment and it has consequences. But also remember that a wrong choice is not a sentence. You can change direction and make new choices, but you also need to be willing to admit mistakes and own the consequences of your choices.

03/12/2025

Lesson #190: Not every joy is or has to be documented or photographed for others to see.

Some of the sweetest moments of your life will never touch a camera roll. They are too small, too weird, and too specific to you. The ugly laugh with a friend in a car park. The cup of tea that somehow fixes the whole day. The playlist that turns your kitchen into a one-person nightclub while the rest of the world has no idea. Spirit does not need proof to call something sacred. It already saw you. It was already there.

There is a particular kind of peace that shows up when you let a moment be complete in itself. No mental caption. No silent thought of this would do well on Instagram. Just your body softening because for a minute you are not performing your life; you are inside it. Your guides adore that version of you. The unguarded one. The one who forgets to be interesting and accidentally becomes real.

You are allowed pockets of joy that belong only to you. Little secret altars in the day that nobody else ever hears about. They do not make you selfish or closed off. If anything, they refill the part of you that does share, create, and hold space for others. Let some colours exist just for your eyes. Let some evenings pass without evidence. Not every good thing needs an audience to count.

02/12/2025

So these Angel cards are... not what most people expect when they hear those words. FYI this one is HEFTY and not really a gentle reading so... yeah... you've been warned...

01/12/2025

Lesson #189: Jealousy has its place. It can teach you what you really want.

Jealousy gets a bad reputation. We treat it like a messy emotion that should be hidden in a cupboard and wished away. But jealousy is not proof that you are petty or unspiritual. It is a highlighter. It shows you where your desire has been sitting quietly in the corner, watching someone else live something that might actually belong on your path too. The problem is not the feeling. The problem is what you do with it.

When you see someone with the career, relationship, creativity, or freedom that makes you wistful, you have a choice. You can turn that feeling into a story about how you are failing, or how they do not deserve it, or how the universe forgot you. Or you can get curious. What exactly is lighting up? Is it the way they are seen? The way they have structured their time? The way they back themselves in public? Jealousy is rarely about the surface details. It is usually pointing at a value or need in you that has been ignored.

Next time it flares, try this. Instead of spiralling in shame, name the quality you are aching for. I want that level of self-trust. I want more creative play. I want love that feels relaxed like that. Then ask one grounded question. "𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙨𝙢𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙥 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙢𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙨 𝙢𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙙𝙞𝙧𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙞𝙣 𝙢𝙮 𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚?" Not a copy. Not a performance. Your version. Jealousy does not make you a villain. It makes you honest. Let it be a compass, not a cage.

28/11/2025

Lesson 188: It's time to stop auditioning for your own life.

Some of you walk into every room like the job is to win the crowd. You read the mood, soften your edges, adjust your volume, laugh at what does not land for you, and hope this time they will see you and keep you. It is exhausting. It also quietly teaches your body that love is something you earn by shapeshifting. You are not living your life; you are running a full-time show.

Here's the thing. The people who are meant to walk with you are not waiting for your tightest performance. They are listening for your real tone. The slightly awkward laugh. The honest "𝙄 𝙙𝙤 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙖𝙜𝙧𝙚𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩." The quiet "𝙄 𝙖𝙢 𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙪𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙙𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙤𝙣𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩." When you stop auditioning, you give those people a chance to find you. You also give your spirit a chance to settle back into your own seat instead of hovering in everyone else’s reactions.

You do not have to flip a switch overnight. Start small. Notice the moments you catch yourself rehearsing replies in your head before you text back or planning how to sound impressive instead of honest. In one of those moments, try answering like you already belong. Shorter message. Truer words. Less explanation. Watch what happens. That tiny unclench is your system remembering that you were never meant to beg for a place. You were meant to choose who gets a front row.

27/11/2025

Oh peeps. Time for some truths, comin' at y'all from Mother Earth!

1. Bloom
For some reason you feel like it's easier to keep your head down. The fear of Tall Poppy Syndrome is a valid one here in Australia. It's getting better but definitely has a long way to go. You are serving no one, especially your Self, by hiding behind humility to the extreme. Obviously don't be a do**he, but you're allowed to be proud of your achievments and to celebrate them, even if those around you are having a hard time. Someone else's misfortune should not darken your success or make you feel bad for being happy.

2. Captured
The cage is of your own making. You have PLENTY of stories (all very valid... in your mind) as to who put you here but at the end of the day, if you check your pocket, you've got the key. Often we do this to feel safer. A cage protects us but it also does exactly what is says on the tin. It cages us in. You cannot grow to your full potetial in a cage. The world outside is scary AF, but the reality of this situation is that you will always feel like you're never quite where you should be because where you should be is out there... not in here... in the cage... that you made... and locked...

3. Strength
You have some pretty trying times ahead, and I'm pretty sure you know what I'm talking about. You've seen the dust on the horizon and thought it was just clouds. Turns out it's actually the enemy and they are fast approaching. The best thing you can do right now is plan, prepare, and "pray" (sorry, needed a third "p" word). If you try and meet them on the field now, you'll be going out there unprepared and unarmed. Take the time you need and if that means bunkering down behind the walls then that's what you do. It's not cowardice, it's smart warfare. Buy yourslef the time you need to rise up, call in the calvary, and rain down fire!

26/11/2025

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𝗘𝗗𝗜𝗧 - 𝗦𝗢𝗟𝗗 𝗢𝗨𝗧!
The Universe speaks in many ways and in many forms. On December 4th we will have palmistry, oracle cards, tarot, tea leaf reading, and more at our Mystical Reading Night! Link to the event below 👇