01/27/2026
The question everyone dreads at family gatherings: âSo when are you having kids?â
When youâve been trying for years, this question feels like a knife.
Here are some ways to handle it (with your nervous system in mind):
Option 1: The Boundary
âThatâs not something Iâm discussing right now.â (Then change the subject or walk away)
Option 2: The Redirect
âWeâll let you know when thereâs news to share! Howâs [their thing]?â
Option 3: The Honest
âItâs been harder than we expected. Weâd appreciate privacy on this.â
Option 4: The Exit Strategy
âExcuse me, I need to [bathroom/drink/fresh air]â (Then regulate your nervous system before returning)
Hereâs the truth: You donât owe ANYONE an explanation about your family planning.
Your boundaries are valid.
Your need to protect your peace is legitimate.
And you need tools to regulate your nervous system when these questions activate you.
Download my free toolkit for nervous system regulation techniques you can use anywhere (even in your in-lawsâ bathroom).
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