New Heights Psychotherapy

06/25/2025

It takes time to heal.
To unlearn survival mode.
To realize that chaos isn’t love.
That silence isn’t safety.
And that the world is so much wider than the one you were raised in.

Just because you were born in the fire
doesn’t mean you’re destined to live there.

There is peace.
There is stillness.
There is life beyond survival.

And you deserve every bit of it.
꩜🕊️♥︎ Ella

06/02/2025

🚨 New swag alert!

Let’s be honest, who doesn’t love free stuff?! Be sure to grab an awesome new pen on your way out of your next session!

03/16/2025

Kaya Toast for the Soul 💛

03/10/2025

Great suggestions by one of my favourites, Dr. Becky! I shared #2 to my daughter today as I dropped her off to March Break camp!

Anxiety can show up in childhood in so many different ways—some obvious, some more subtle.

👉Separation anxiety – struggles with goodbyes, clinginess, bedtime fears.
👉Social anxiety – worries about fitting in, fear of rejection.
👉Big worries – deep thoughts about death, illness, or world issues that feel overwhelming.
👉Nighttime anxiety – racing thoughts, trouble settling, needing you close at bedtime.

No matter how it shows up, one thing remains true: our kids don’t need to feel better—they need to feel at home with themselves. And when we help them regulate their emotions, we make room for lighter feelings, too.

If you’re dealing with any kind of anxiety in your child, I have good news. My new live workshop, Parenting Kids with Anxiety, is happening live on March 12 at 12 pm! (And yes, this framework will help kid’s anxiety, no matter how it shows up.)

You’ll walk away able to understand your kid’s anxiety, help them navigate worries, develop resilience, and build confidence. Click the link in my bio for all of the details. I can’t wait to see so many of you there.

01/19/2025

Oh my heart... the story with the teacher at the end of the article.... Hats off to the great educators out there!

Kids with ADHD have big emotions, and parents shouldn’t act like they don’t matter. Learn how to validate your child’s feelings.
👉 https://www.additudemag.com/the-single-most-helpful-strategy-in-raising-your-adhd-child/

12/21/2024

As the year comes to a close, I want to thank all of my amazing clients. I know I say it all the time, but I really do have the best job in the world, and it's because of all of you.

I'll be taking some time off over the holiday season to spend with my family and do a little self-care, so I will be a little slower than usual in answering emails. Here's a list of my hours over the next couple of weeks.

Wishing everyone a gentle holiday season and a great year ahead!

12/19/2024

Just a friendly reminder :)

12/02/2024

Because sometimes it’s nice to slow things down for a while…🧖‍♀️

11/28/2024

Spot on!

In an intimate relationship, it’s so easy to fall into a binary, either/or mindset: either I ask for what I need (and risk being seen as demanding/needy/controlling) or I accept the status quo (and risk becoming resentful). ⁣
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Asking for what you need in a relationship and honoring the relationship are not mutually exclusive. ⁣
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When you ask for what you need, you can ensure that you are being relational (rather than self-serving) by adding a “because clause”:⁣
* I would like you to text me good morning because it feels so good to know you’re thinking of me when we are apart.⁣
* I would like you to plan a date for us because I feel really special when you surprise me.⁣
* I would like you to consult me before making major purchases because it helps me feel like we’re on the same team.⁣

The “because clause” gives your partner a window into your internal world - what you’re feeling, the meaning you’re making of their actions, and where your tender spots live.⁣
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The “because clause” is vulnerable and therefore relational. ⁣
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If you notice yourself feeling some resistance to this idea (“I shouldn’t have to explain myself”), sit with that. Play it out. What are you worried your partner might do in the face of your vulnerable share? Is this founded in experience with this partner? Past trauma? Fear?⁣
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Resistance to the “because clause” may sound like this: “Ugh! It’s already so hard to ask for what I need. I just want to put it out there and be done with it. Voicing my need is already vulnerable. Enough already!”

But here’s the problem: If your ask lacks relationality and is more of a demand, then your partner’s resistance (which may be more about your approach than the ask itself) is going to be felt by you as confirmation that your needs cannot be met. A tragic self-fulfilling prophecy!

11/26/2024

This was so, so, so good! Well worth a listen!

In this episode, John sits down with author David Kessler to have a conversation about grief.Next Steps:Learn more about David Kessler and resources for grie...