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Helping you feel less lonely in your marriage

Couples Therapist | Speaker | Podcaster |
Author of ‘I Didn’t Sign Up For This’ and ‘You, Your Husband, and His Mother

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04/23/2026

Truth?

The missed bid version wasn’t hard to act. Because we do it so easily to each other.

Greg and I miss bids too. And it’s easy when everything else is pulling you away from each other.

Bids for connection aren’t dramatic.

They’re “look at this,” “listen to this,” a hand on your knee.

And every missed one teaches your partner something about whether it’s safe to keep reaching.

Leave a ❤️❤️ if your phones are leading you two miss each other.

04/21/2026

It’s not the event itself.

It’s the decision of whether you remain a connected team or you disconnect and old loyalties to family become a priority.

Every Mother’s Day, my clients tell me a similar story: my husband prioritized his mother’s wishes.

If this landed, leave a ❤️

I sit across from couples every week who love each other and still feel profoundly alone.One of them will say something ...
04/20/2026

I sit across from couples every week who love each other and still feel profoundly alone.

One of them will say something like: “I don’t even know when it started. We just stopped—talking, really talking. Now it’s all logistics.”

The other one looks down. Because they didn’t know. Not because they didn’t care—because silence doesn’t set off alarms the way conflict does.

Relational loneliness isn’t a sign you picked the wrong person. It’s a sign that the emotional connection between you needs attention.

And attention is possible.

If something on these slides sounds familiar—save this. Or send it to the person you’ve been wanting to have this conversation with.

If this post put words to something you’ve been feeling but haven’t said out loud, you don’t have to sit with it alone.

Inside Be Connected, we work on exactly this. Live coaching, workshops, and a community of women who are done settling for surface-level connection in their relationship.

Comment or DM ELEVATE and I’ll send you the link.

Greg and I did this yesterday.Not a big fight. Just the low-grade version—the one that couples experience weekly and don...
04/18/2026

Greg and I did this yesterday.

Not a big fight. Just the low-grade version—the one that couples experience weekly and don’t always name.

I’m sharing this because I think there’s a version of couples content that makes it look like the people teaching this stuff have solved it.

They haven’t. We haven’t.

What changes when you do this work is not whether the cycle shows up.

It’s how quickly you can name it. And what you do in the ten seconds after you name it.

That’s what this post is about.

If you’re looking to break your cycle and build healthy interdependence (and not codependency), comment COUCH to grab my book, “I Didn’t Sign Up For This.”

Or to go deeper, comment ELEVATE and I’ll DM you the link to Be Connected — where we work on the pursuer-distancer cycle with live coaching, real tools, and a community of women practicing the same thing.

04/17/2026

Sometimes the moments that shape our relationships don’t look big at all.

They look like being busy.
Distracted.
Saying “not right now.”

And then later… realizing they were reaching for you.

The good news?

It’s not about getting it perfect. It’s about coming back, naming it, and repairing.

That’s how we change what gets passed down.

❤️ If this hit close to home, tell me—have you ever had a moment like this?

I hear some version of this in my office every week:“We had the conversation. It felt okay. And then three days later — ...
04/15/2026

I hear some version of this in my office every week:

“We had the conversation. It felt okay. And then three days later — same fight, same place, same ending.”

Here’s what I want you to know: if that’s happening in your relationship, you are not failing at communication.

You’re caught in a cycle where the conversation keeps resolving the surface and leaving the real question unanswered.

The sentences on these slides aren’t magic. But they are different — because they’re aimed at the question underneath the argument, not the argument itself.

❤️ Save this for the next time you feel the cycle starting. Even one of these, said out loud in the room, changes what the conversation is about.
Which one is hardest for you to say? Tell me in the comments.

Comment ROOMIE and I’ll DM you the link to the 10 Day More Than Roommates Challenge — 10 days of videos, scripts, and one small action a day to close the distance before it starts to feel permanent

You’re not bad at communicating. You’re caught in a cycle. And so is your partner.There’s a way out of it — and you don’...
04/14/2026

You’re not bad at communicating.

You’re caught in a cycle. And so is your partner.

There’s a way out of it — and you don’t have to figure it out alone.

The More Than Roommates Challenge is designed exactly for this moment.Scripts built from the top tools and strategies I use with couples just like you, direct from an expert. Supported in our community.
Comment ROOMIE and I’ll send you everything you need to know.

❤️ Save this. Share it with your partner when the time feels right.

04/13/2026

It’s not about the dishes.
The kids.
The segg.

You’re stuck because one of you moves closer… and the other protects by stepping back.

The more one pushes, the more the other shuts down.

And what looks like “not caring”… is often overwhelm.

And what looks like “too much”… is often a need for connection.

This is the cycle. And if we don’t recognize the cycle, you end up staying stuck, alone, feeling more like roommates than lovers.

But the real challenge is when the one who used to knock stops knocking. The other person goes ‘whew, we’re good again.’ But that’s not it. Because ‘good’ isn’t resolved.

👉 She just stopped trying.

This is how couples become roommates.

❤️ Send this to your person so you can both start talking about the cycle.





04/11/2026

It’s not the blow-ups that create distance in your relationship.

It’s the slow drift.
The assumptions.
The autopilot ways you start relating to each other.

If you want to protect your relationship from the roommate phase, here are three things you can start doing today 👇

1️⃣ Check the stories you’re telling yourself about your partner.
“They don’t care.”
“If they wanted to, they would.”
“I’m doing this alone.”

Most couples aren’t reacting to what’s actually happening.
They’re reacting to the meaning they’ve made about it.

👉 That’s where disconnection begins.

Comment MY STORIES and I’ll send you my 10 questions to help you interrupt those assumptions before they turn into resentment.

2️⃣ Create moments of intentional connection—not just logistics.
If most of your conversations are about schedules, kids, or tasks, your relationship can start to feel like a working partnership—not a place you feel connected.

Connection isn’t about doing more.
It’s about being more intentional with what you’re already doing.

3️⃣ Talk about the roommate season before it becomes distance.
Healthy couples don’t wait until they feel miles apart to say something.

They notice the shift early and name it:
“I miss us.”

You don’t need a complete reset.
You need small moments of awareness, intentional shifts, and the willingness to turn back toward each other—again and again.

This is how couples stay connected… instead of becoming roommates.

04/11/2026

You’re not stuck because you don’t love each other.

You’re stuck because one of you moves closer… and the other protects by stepping back.

The more one pushes, the more the other shuts down.

And what looks like “not caring”… is often overwhelm.

What looks like “too much”… is often a need for connection.

This is the cycle.

And here’s where the drift begins…

The one who keeps knocking starts to go quiet. They hold it in. Ask less. Reach less.

Something shifts in them.

The tension drops. The conversations get easier.

And the other partner feels it… a sense of relief. Like things have finally settled.

But nothing was actually worked through.

One person is carrying the distance.

The other is experiencing the calm.

And slowly, without naming it, the relationship changes.

You stop turning toward each other.
You stop sharing the deeper parts.
You start living side by side instead of together.

👉 This is how couples become roommates.

If you’re seeing your relationship in this, you’re not alone. And it can shift.

Comment ROOMIE and I’ll send you my top pattern breaker.
Ten days—and you’ll feel closer by the end.





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