Changing Tides Therapy

11/05/2025

Ten years ago today, I watched my church choose policy over people. And I knew I couldn’t stay.

The November 2015 exclusion policy wasn’t just a handbook update—it was a line in the sand. For me, it was the moment cognitive dissonance became unbearable. I couldn’t reconcile the gospel of radical love I’d been taught with an institution that would bar children from baptism because of who their parents loved.

So I left.

But here’s the complicated part: I didn’t leave the culture, the casseroles, the hymns I still hum, or the community that shaped me. I miss potlucks where everyone brings funeral potatoes. I miss the certainty of knowing my role, my people, my place. I miss believing that goodness had a clear roadmap and that I was on it. But I don’t miss the cost of belonging. I don’t miss performing certainty I didn’t feel. I don’t miss watching LGBTQ youth (and let’s be real, myself) twist into shapes to fit a system that was never built for us. 

This anniversary isn’t about bitterness—it’s about bearing witness. 
To the harm. To the resilience. To everyone who stayed, everyone who left, and everyone still figuring out what the hell comes next.

For my fellow exmo baddies navigating the messy middle: 🫶
- You can grieve what you lost AND celebrate who you’ve become
- You can honor your roots while pruning the branches that hurt you
- You can miss the community without missing the conditions of membership
- You can be tender about your past and fierce about your future 

The policy was reversed in 2019. The trauma wasn’t. And now, with new restrictions on trans members (Aug 2024), the pattern continues.

So today, I’m remembering. I’m honoring the version of me who stayed as long as she could. And I’m standing with everyone still fighting for a place at tables that were never meant to include them. 📖

10/28/2025

Haunted houses are scary. 👻 Therapy doesn’t have to be.
No creepy whispers, no jump scares, no judgment — just humans who actually get you.

Ready to leave the ghosts behind? 🕯️
💬 Book a free connection call with one of our team members and find a therapist who laughs at your dark jokes… and still helps you heal.

09/26/2025

✨Love isn’t proven in diamonds or grand gestures—it’s proven in presence.
Whether you’re raising kids or deepening a romance, the greatest gift you can give is to notice, respond, and be there.

Dr. Sue Johnson reminds us: “Emotionally attuned attention and timely responsiveness” is what makes love last. 🫶

💡How do you show up for the people you love?

09/18/2025

In relationships, it’s so easy to slip into control without even realizing it. Control often comes from fear, insecurity, or unprocessed pain—but it ends up creating distance instead of closeness.

Love, on the other hand, leans into honesty, respect, and openness. It sounds like:
💬 “Here’s what I’m feeling.”
💬 “Can we work on this together?”
💬 “I want us to feel safe and connected.”

The more we choose love over control, the stronger our connection becomes.

Swipe through 👉 for examples and reflection questions to help you notice when fear is speaking, and practice shifting back into love.

Because healthy connection isn’t about perfection—it’s about awareness, repair, and choosing each other again and again. 💙

09/10/2025

First Biz Retreat dump 🥇🦫🍁🥹

08/21/2025

🏳️‍🌈 Ottawa Pride isn’t just about glitter and rainbows—it’s about visibility, safety, and acknowledging the realities LGBTQ+ folks face. Did you know that le***an, bisexual, and trans people experience intimate partner violence at rates higher than their cis-het peers? 💔

This Pride, let’s celebrate love and commit to protecting it. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, reach out, document, and get support—you deserve safety, respect, and care.

08/19/2025

Last year nearly broke you. 📚 Practices, deadlines, exams, and somehow still trying to have a life? You survived, but it felt like running on fumes.

Here’s the truth: therapy isn’t just “talking about feelings.” Research shows it actually helps students with ADHD + anxiety + depression boost grades, manage stress, and stick it out long enough to graduate.

✨ Pro-tip: If you’re under 25 + enrolled in college/university, you can usually use your parents’ insurance to cover therapy. (Yes, that means it might already be paid for.)

This year doesn’t have to be survival mode. 🫶

08/09/2025

I finally agreed to go to Tiffany’s retreat (because crossing the border when you’re as loud-mouthed as I’ve been lately makes anybody nervous in this political climate).

Tiffany had me out to her retreat in June, and I was so energized by supporting her, helping her with software, and coming up with ideas to promote it that I decided to do one too. 😇

It was so thoughtful, slow, and intentional. I told her I’d take photos for her if she wanted me to drive out — and that’s exactly what we did. I just delivered the first images, and I’m so happy with how they turned out. Here’s a taste. ➡️

📸 Did you know I love photography as a hobby? It’s what originally drew me to Instagram — back before Meta.

My retreat starts next Tuesday, and today was a mad dash to get all the final pieces in place. It involved double naps — one on the couch at work, and one on the couch at home after work. So if you want to know how packing’s going, mind your business!!

If you want to be the first to know when my 2026 retreat opens for sign-up, join the waitlist now — spots will be limited and I’d love to hold one for you. Link in bio! ✨🖤

07/31/2025

07/30/2025

✨ Cascading Creatives Retreat – Milton, ON

Only 6 spots left 👀

📅 Aug 12–13: Creative Sprint / Day Pass — $400
→ Optional add-on: Branding Mini Sessions (Aug 14) — $300

📅 Aug 12–15: Full Sleepover Experience — $1500
→ Want the king bed all to yourself? $2500
(Branding photos are INCLUDED with sleepover tickets)

All tickets include catered meals, workshops, and dedicated creative time for your biz.
+ HST will be added at checkout.

This isn’t just a retreat — it’s your creative reset. Build, dream, and plan your next big move with people who get it.

PS: This retreat is not therapy and is not a substitute for therapy (but it will be good for your soul 😉).

There are only 6 spots left — are you in?