11/26/2025
The ADHD debate is exhausting because both extremes oversimplify what families live with every day.
One side says it’s a permanent, genetic brain disorder and the other says it doesn’t exist at all.
Meanwhile, parents are stuck in the middle, dealing with real behaviours, overwhelm and chaos at home which cause strain on the parent-child relationship as well as marriages.
Here’s what the research actually shows: Kids don’t struggle with attention and impulse control for one single reason.
There are dozens of factors.
We call all of this ‘ADHD’ as if it’s just how your child is wired.
But it’s not one thing - it’s a system under strain.
When you look beyond the label and address the underlying drivers, a child’s attention improves, impulsivity reduces and learning gets easier.
So yes - the symptoms that are labelled ADHD exist, but your child doesn’t have to just learn to manage it.
If this clicked for you, share it with a mom who you know needs answers.
… and if you want to regulate your child’s system - grab my Regulated Learner Brain Kit by commenting KIT.