A Different Pathway Therapy

12/07/2025

Is life a simulation…

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12/07/2025

Reduction of Social Media.

I deleted ONE of my social media’s 1.5 weeks ago and wanna talk about what’s happened … so far…..,

So - the first thing that happened:

I deleted my Instagram social account but left the icon of Instagram on my phone screen - the icon is deleted now as shockingly through habit I kept pressing on the icon absence mindedly and it showed me a space with nothing on it. I didn’t consciously go to the icon - my fingers did! I did it totally without thought at all and just pressed the icon out of pure habit! It shocked me so much! I deleted the icon after that.

The second thing that happened:

I felt TIME…. So much TIME - void - nothing …. This happened when I gave up alcohol - I’m 5.5 years sober. But the same thing happened. I have SO MUCH SPARE TIME. What to do - what do do….. My house is now RIDICULOUSLY tidy - and I mean tidy!!! Even the cupboards and drawers sorted - bags and bag of rubbish and not useful stuff thrown away. Everything is hoovered. Bleached. Clean….

The third thing that happened:

I spent loads more money online - this and that bought - face creams - bits and bobs which after a few days I panicked and ‘saw’ what I was doing - I spoke it through with my partner and we discussed the need to replace dopamine….. not this way life!! No!!! I refuse to fall into this! I’m aware!!

The forth thing that has happened:

I’ve considered further learning - casually I’ve bought a Udemy course - applied for a further job in the career I already have and read books and done online course via zoom with professionals in my field and learn some new stuff in a career I’ve had for 22 years. I’ve also made more YouTube videos and posts to my career pages

The fifth thing that’s happened:
My screen time is NOT down… I’m now listening to podcasts on YouTube / interesting things about the world and people - I do tend to listen whilst I’m cleaning so I’m not mindlessly watching - it’s playing in the background whilst completing tasks like dishwasher or bathroom cleaning or tabletop wiping

The sixth thing that’s happened:

Little jobs have been done / paperwork that I needed to do - nails painted - hair and skin routines upped

The seventh things that’s happened:

Cooking better meals. Balanced meals /considering shopping for better meal. Also I’m sitting downstairs playing something like cards with my kids now or playing ping pong as we have a table - playing Mario multiplayer games, talking more in depth to them about the world

The eighth thing that’s happened:

I’ve sold some stuff on marketplace that I don’t need anymore and I’ve been to the city dump to dump rubbish and unwanted things that are not needed in my house anymore.

The ninth thing that’s happened:

I’ve looked at the world more - been for a couple of walks and really looked at the trees and nature.

The tenth thing that’s happened:

I’ve booked a couple of trips with my partner to see more things - camping trip, far family visits - static caravan holiday for the kids.

HOW COOL IS THIS!!! I’m very happy with the way life is now directed - may update again soon to see what else happens as I’ve literally only just started!!!!!

07/04/2025

Life and the patchwork quilt.

No one ‘really’ knows what’s going on. We all have our own thoughts opinions and reality. If you ran a poll online and said which one is better A or B, there would be hundreds of thousands of people fighting for each side - what is important is that you look at both sides and choose for what feels right for YOU & your person ecological checks!!

‘Feel’ into both sides with your gut instincts and inner voices to analyse it for threat and danger. Accept these fundamental safety feelings and turn from the smallest of red flags - there’s no smoke without fire

We are like a clay ball at birth and with every experience we have the clay ball is moulded differently - making us totally unique

Our lives will be patches together as we travel forwards until the end - different experiences and life events will happen. All patched together like a patchwork quilt. Sometimes your see very uneven stitching holding together certain pieces and there’s no way back to fix this stitching but you can look at it differently over time - learn to see the beauty in it some how - other times the stitching will be solid and invisible - perfect.

Spoiler - NO ONE HAS A PERFECTLY MADE LIFE QUILT AT THE END - however people can look at it as a whole piece at the end and be proud of it’s entirety

One thing that we can say is universal, is everyone’s life will be a patchwork quilt and metaphorically pieced and stitched together in the same way….technically speaking I mean, not the contents obviously….but you know that.

I read recently that if we were to fix all our past issues then we would delete ourselves…. I thought that was EXTREMELY interesting….

Very interesting indeed……,

07/04/2025

Perfect.

23/03/2025

https://youtu.be/oI7BxBNp1uE?si=CxASLfXwfKkFBz6s

If you enjoy hearing about the philosophy of life, I recommend you check out my conversation with Ryan Holiday, which you can find here: https://www.youtube....

23/03/2025

Ooooh! Audible is free with my music subscription?!! How long has this been a thing! This is a fantastic book that I have in the physical copy! But now I’m allowed to listen on audible for free, I will be! Fantastic!!!!

15/03/2025

Struggling with Trauma?

Dr Joe Dispenza is a researcher, lecturer, and corporate consultant who has developed a practical formula to help people transform their lives. He is also th...

02/03/2025

Memories on the always moving music score 🎼. The good times, the bad… the indifferent. The music flows and travels forward regardless of what you want. Time is its own master - it’s gentle and slow, caring and kind - it’s forever continuous - always continuing whether you, your loved ones or your enemies Will it to stay still for whatever they wish for you. Time is your ally. It’s solid, consistent, grounded and STRONG. The old notes on your music lines become buried by a million other notes. Time adds and adds to bury the past - The notes regardless or their type become foggy, clouded, murky & distorted. Distorted and strange like the fair ground mirrors. Let healing Time pass naturally. Kissing your mind softly. Loving you. All notes are buried. So keep the good ones alive with photos and trinkets. All of the notes only hold power if you feed them. So only feed the ‘good’ ones. After a Time of healing and discussion, stifle the bad notes by never speaking of them again. In your spare time instead of falling into ruminating on disfigured, weird and fictional memories, notice now, this moment what you like and love in life. Move towards what you love everyday what you like everyday. When you were young what did you want to be - what sparked your interest, what were your desires. What did you feel invigorated you and switched you on - what ignites your soul? Like the magician that holds the flowers in-front of him - he follows the flowers and pays no attention to the snake and darkness behind him - he steps forward not thinking of what’s behind him - he releases them from his attention by looking at his flowers. Seeing each one individually, seeing each colour - smelling each type. He focuses. A step forward everyday towards to brightness in the world. Everyday focused on what he wants with precision, determination. By repetition over & over the snake behind starts to be organically forgotten as his mind is directed moment to moment on a the path of who he truly is and truly wants. WANT, press forward to your WANTS. Who are you - who were you. Remember what you were, who you were to know who you’ll inevitably be sooner than you realise.

23/02/2025

It’s time to Move On. It’s over
It is what it is. Draw a line in the metaphorical sand now. There is no more of that now. Feel calm, feel relief. It stands as it is, set in stone. Never to be added to or changed. Still, like the statues in emerald city. Still like the calm lakes in the most peaceful parts of your mind. You know what it is. What it was and what it’ll always be. Feel the peace of knowing it’s done. There is no more pain, no more addictions. It’s set, still and lifeless. When time has passed enough you can sit & extract the bright times. Ring them out like you twist a flannel filled with water. Find many times you laughed & hurt your cheeks from smiling. It’s ok for you to have and hold those happy memories. You’ve earned them. So own them without rejecting them. Expel shame, guilt, worry or fear, feel the happiness in these moments. They were at the time beautiful & that’s ok. You’ll find the light after the darkness because confusion always proceeds enlightenment. The universe presses you forward at all times so be guided by the universe’s gentle pulls. Use your body like a sensitive radar. Feel into what makes you feel illuminated. Switch on! Live! Yes find someone that understands your past trauma’s so you are fully understood as a human being on earth but be careful that you don’t attach just through the knowledge and experience of trauma. That’s just a single & small part of you that needs to be understood. You are a plethora of other things. You are so much more than those pockets of time. The moment you find that someone adds more problems to ur journey through life you must know their presence to your life is over. Life is hard enough. Past trauma is nice to be understood but the journey and creation of a freer life is the ultimate continuation. It’s joyful to create a peaceful life. It’s dopamine filling to mould each day. To fill your life with only the things & people that bring you peace, contentment & harmony. People have their frequency lines and you may match for a short while but if your present and future is dulled, lowered or diminishing, you are not being guided towards your elite galvanised self so you need to acknowledge a new path needs to begin.

18/02/2025

Thought this was extremely powerful and potently true

30/12/2024

Quick Therapy - My Min Long Short on Dumping Fears, Doubts and Anxieties

28/12/2024

Gold Linings:

You can sometimes step back and look at what you’ve got and you suddenly realise it was ALL worth it. Every single bit!! The ‘sh*t’ in a weird way made you

It’s fascinating how life can offer such dramatic circumstances to navigate through, but like I always have said - every single thing that happens to you can offer you one thing if you allow it and that is strength and knowledge for your future.

Even if you end up helping those with the same problem and issues you once had - someone who hasn’t healed as much as you. You can reach down with your hand and help bring them up the staircase of healing.

I’ve cursed life a few times - but wow - it’s clever. I asked to be a certain type of person to my higher power, my ‘God’ if you will, and he turned round and totally obliterated my life…literally tore it apart and burnt the thing to the ground…. I cursed the situation for many years….

But on serious reflection and analysis that was the only way to get what I wished for.

I got my wish and that path HAD to be what it was . I can’t see how else I would have got it. There wasn’t an easy route - it was always going to be horrible as it was a type of death. An ending. The life I had was killed

I HAD TO walk the path as it was designed for me, to get my strength, knowledge and understanding.

I feel so lucky now. Honestly if I had a magic wand and it had the wish to take away all the bad stuff that happened to me - I WOULDN’T wave it.

Everything happened in my life to make the life that I have now. So I wouldn’t wave it. Don’t get me wrong it was fu***ng horrible at times but looking back there was no other route to get what I have today.

Life is weird- you ask for things and they are given but the path may not be a beautiful walk in the park. It may be that your ‘God’ annihilates your life to get it. Keep going - there are GOLD LININGS!

What I have now and what I am is far superior to anything I had before. I cursed that fact I’d ‘lost’ my old life once but the stupidity in that is I HATED my old life.
Why did I try to to believe what was taken from me was a loss. It was awful. When I accepted that I truly was free as I accepted the annihilation and obliteration.

I was born into something else.

So wish for something that you want and life will give it to you in ways that have the ability to do it. It may not be pretty and easy but it can take you to your beautiful destination after misery.

Clearly I hope your path is always easy and bright - but sometimes accepting reality is key. Life isn’t always easy.

Be with people who really love you. Seek out trust, honesty and integrity so your paths are safer and more likely to be brighter.

There are gold linings.