Janie Counselling

21/09/2025

This is an interesting perspective.
It takes a lot of self awareness and self-assuredness to put your children first as they start to form a deep bond with your ex-partners new relationship.

https://www.facebook.com/share/1AxShbbQuW/?mibextid=wwXIfr

People often say they want a “good stepmom” for their children; someone who is kind, nurturing, and genuinely invested in the kids’ lives. But the reality of what that actually looks like can be very different from what they imagined.

It sounds good in theory: a woman who cares for your children, supports their father, and brings love into their lives. But what happens when that bond gets real?
• It sounds great until your kids come home raving about how much they enjoy her company.

• It sounds great until you realize the “deadbeat dad” you once painted in a certain light is showing up fully for his children, supported by her presence.

• It sounds great until the school mistakes her for mom because she’s that involved.

• It sounds great until your children start calling her by a name that feels a little too close to “mom.”

• It sounds great until the kids say they’d rather spend extra time with her and their dad.

• It sounds great until her example makes you reflect on your own parenting.

That’s when the discomfort sets in. The very stepmom you once prayed your children would have, the one who treats them as her own, suddenly feels like a threat.

Here’s the hard truth: many people don’t actually want a good stepmom. What they really want is a babysitter. Someone who helps out without creating deep bonds, someone who stays in the background. But a woman who truly loves her stepchildren doesn’t play small. She puts the kids first; above her pride, above her comfort, and sometimes even above the fragile feelings of adults who aren’t ready to face that reality.

And when that happens? The bitterness shows up fast.

So before you say you want a good stepmom for your kids, ask yourself: are you truly ready for what that means? Because a good stepmom doesn’t just babysit: she nurtures, she shows up, and she becomes part of the foundation of your children’s lives.

25/08/2025

30/10/2022

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=433485105644997&id=100069505335894

My grandmother once gave me a tip:

In difficult times, move forward in small steps.
Do what you have to do, but little by little.
Don’t think about the future
or what may happen tomorrow.

Wash the dishes.
Remove the dust.
Write a letter.
Make a soup.

You see?

Advance step by step.
Take a step and stop.
Rest a little.
Praise yourself.
Take another step.
And then another.

You won’t notice, but your steps will grow more and more.
And the time will come when you can think about the future without crying.

Author: Elena Mikhalkova

Picture: Whang-Od

19/09/2022

"It's madness
to hate all roses
because you got scratched
with one thorn,

to give up all dreams
because one of them
didn't come true,

to give up all attempts
because one of them failed.

It's folly to condemn
all your friends
because one has betrayed you,

to no longer believe in love
just because someone
was unfaithful
or didn't love you back,

to throw away
all your chances to be happy
because something went wrong.

There will always
be another opportunity,
another friend,
another love,
a new strength.

For every end,
there is always
a new beginning.

And now here is my secret,
a very simple secret:
It is only with the heart
that one can see rightly;
what is essential,
is invisible to the eye."

🌹 Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
The Little Prince, 1943

19/09/2022

I must have missed these boys first time around… what incredible young men!

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24/03/2022

We discharge discomfort and pain, by blaming others….
This is a really used animation

https://youtu.be/RZWf2_2L2v8

You are probably a bit of a blamer - most of us are. But why should we give it up? In this witty sequel to our most watched RSA Short, inspirational thinker ...

11/02/2022

Wise words

30/01/2020

I thought this was a lovely article for all those new mothers who find it hard to ‘justify’ their day, and are also comparing themselves to the utterly unrealistic Instagram posts of Mums who seem to be suited, booted and ready to face the world before lunchtime!

https://www.mother.ly/life/what-do-new-mothers-do-all-day?rebelltitem=1

And anyone who told you otherwise is not being very forthcoming (or perhaps they just have a lousy memory).You might get yourself fed.You might get yourself dressed (then again, you might not).You might take a walk (it makes baby happy).You might have a short phone conversation or start a load of la...