12/08/2025
To the incredible parents, some of whom I have had the pleasure of meeting ❤️
There are the family members who think it is all in our head, ‘I mean she has always had a tendency to exaggerate after all.’
There are the friends who just don’t see it, ‘she is so polite whenever I have her over.’
There are teachers who thinks it was their sticker or beaming smile that got them over the finish line, ‘mum would think I’ve never worked with an autistic child before’.
And then there’s the partners or ex partners who wear the crown for one outing a month, perhaps to show friends and family ‘See, I really don’t see what all the fuss is about.’
The judgements, the disbelief, the roll of the eyes, the downplaying, the disregard are all the just for you.
You, the one who takes the heaviest loads of all, the ones that are never seen.
Because you are the invisible parent working without notice, working to make it all a little bit more manageable for your child.
Some say you are a little bit too good at it that’s why they don’t notice.
I guess I’ll wait until it goes wrong, then I know they’ll see me.
