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06/02/2026

Marvin has started his next exciting sleepover what fun will he get up to with his new friend? Be good Marvin and remember your manners please.

06/02/2026

Marvin came back from his second sleep over and had a great week he even had a present in the form an apple to snack on on a table amazong guys marvin is so happy right now.

06/02/2026

If only school could be more flexible in its approach.

Homeschool: meeting your child where they are at 🙌🏻

06/02/2026

Yep

When we are busy, do we really listen to our children? Probably not because we’re often lost in our own thoughts, lost in our to-do-list and this is when our ability to really listen gets pushed aside and we find ourselves only half present to our child wants to say. When this happens, our child doesn’t feel that there was even a chance to be heard.

Most of the time, we just want our child to listen to what we want them to do - we want a fast response because our thoughts are so full of all that we need to do that we fall short when it comes to really listening to them and this is results in their negative behavior.

So how can we expect our child to really listen to us when the model that we’re giving them is the opposite? Parenting is so hard but when we make Mindfulness a daily practice we take small steps towards change.

Listening takes conscious effort especially when it means being mindful because in the “space” we create when we really listen we validate our child as a valuable member of the family. We validate our child’s right to be heard instead of feeling dismissed. We validate that they are important.

When we really listen to our child, we actually take the focus away from our need to defend our opinion or thoughts about what should happen or what we want to make our child do. Instead we create a loving space where the focus is solely on listening and being present.

After all, what they really want is for us to be present and they want to be heard!

Being heard is communication
Being heard builds trust
Being heard increases compassion
Being heard reduces conflict
Being heard lessens misunderstandings
Being heard deepens relationships

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06/02/2026

So true

When children are deeply absorbed in play, something beautiful happens. They’re not just passing time, they’re building confidence, exploring their feelings, stretching their imagination, and discovering who they are.

05/02/2026

Yep

Today, we’re teaching pasta ratios ☺️

05/02/2026

Yes

When kids scream, it’s not because they won’t use words.
It’s because, right then, they can’t.

In the middle of a big emotional surge, a child’s thinking brain goes offline.
The part that handles language, logic, and impulse control? Temporarily unavailable.

What’s running the show instead is the survival system.
And screaming is one of its fastest, loudest signals.

A scream doesn’t mean defiance.
It means things like:

• “This feels like too much.”
• “I don’t feel in control of my body.”
• “I need help calming down.”
• “I don’t know how to say this yet.”

So when we tell a child who’s already overwhelmed to “use your words,” it often makes things worse, not because they’re being stubborn, but because words aren’t accessible in that moment.

This is where parenting actually matters most.

Your child doesn’t need a lesson mid-meltdown.
They need a regulated nervous system to borrow.

That looks like:
• Lowering your voice
• Saying less, not more
• Staying close and present
• Holding boundaries without heat or anger

Sometimes the most powerful things you can say are:
“I’m here.”
“You’re safe.”
“That’s a lot.”

This isn’t permissive parenting.
It’s regulation before education.

Once the storm passes, that’s when learning sticks.

Later, when your child is calm, you can gently reflect:
“Earlier, it was really hard to leave.”

Then you teach the missing skills:
• Naming feelings
• Simple phrases (“I need help,” “I’m mad”)
• Non-verbal cues
• Asking for space or support

These tools have to be practiced outside the meltdown if we expect them to appear during one.

And here’s the reminder so many parents need:

If your child screams, you are not failing.
If it keeps happening, your child is not broken.

Growth doesn’t look like instant silence.

It looks like:
• Shorter meltdowns
• Quicker recovery
• Screaming softening into crying
• Crying slowly turning into words

That’s emotional development.
And it takes time.

Every time you respond with calm and consistency, you’re teaching something that lasts far beyond childhood:

“Big feelings can be handled.”
“I’m not alone when things feel hard.”
“Safety comes before words.”

And that lesson?
It shapes how your child learns to handle life, long after the screaming ends.

05/02/2026

Yes

Their inner voice begins as yours — let it sound kind.💚

05/02/2026

Children need to know how to stop and slow down.

Childhood is more enjoyable when children aren’t rushed and pushed to do more and be more. Slowing down helps your child enjoy their childhood years.

Parenting is more enjoyable when you don’t try to do everything and be everything. Slowing down, letting go of societal pressures and simply being present helps you enjoy your parenting journey.

Slow down as much and as often as you can, it will have a huge impact. It will calm your mind, your body, and your nervous system, and it will calm your child’s too.

Societal pressures can make it difficult for us to slow down and it can also make us feel like we’re not doing enough, not providing our child the enrichment experiences that will give the an edge above their peers.
But when life speeds up and becomes a race into the future, everyone misses out on what’s essential.

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04/02/2026

Really useful.

Learning to Be Heard Without Raising Your Voice

It often starts in the kitchen, a tired parent asking for the third time, and a child who seems to hear nothing at all.

The voice gets louder, frustration builds, and suddenly everyone feels dysregulated.

But yelling usually isn’t about discipline, it’s about a disconnect.

Children listen best when they feel seen, not shouted at.

Pausing to move closer, making eye contact, and saying their name can shift the moment.

A calm, steady tone tells a child their nervous system is safe enough to listen.

Short, clear directions land better than rapid-fire instructions.

When feelings are named first, resistance often softens.

Offering simple choices helps a child feel capable instead of controlled.

Over time, calm consistency builds trust and cooperation.

Connection, not volume, is what teaches children how to listen.

04/02/2026

Marvin and doggy 1 are resting while this young lady shows everyone how awesome she is. I cant do multiplication she said but she can just needed a different approach to retrieving the learnt information plus colouring is fun. She also smashed her homework showing a really good commitment and knowledge so proud well done.

04/02/2026

Everyone needs time where you slow down xx

Societal pressures can make it difficult for us to slow down and it can also make us feel like we’re not doing enough, not providing our child the enrichment experiences that will give the an edge above their peers.

The thing is, when life speeds up and becomes a race into the future, everyone misses out on what’s essential. Parenting is more enjoyable when you don’t try to do and be everything, when you slow down, let go of societal pressures and simply choose to be present.

Slowing down as much and as often as you can makes a huge impact. Slowing down calms your mind, your body, and your nervous system. A calm nervous system helps you sort the noise from the messages you want to hear. It helps you make better decisions and brings more clarity.

Along with slowing down, it’s essential to be as mindful and present as you possibly can. The more you are distracted, the less clear you will be about your choices and decisions.

Quote: Chinyelu Kunz

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