FitzGeralds Counselling Cheltenham

12/12/2025

10/12/2025

Neurodiversity/Neurodivergence/Neurospicy are terms many of us hear often now.

As awareness has grown, so has the language we use to describe our experiences. For many neurodivergent people, these words create a safe space for self-understanding, connection and recognised ways to talk about things that once felt difficult to name; let a lone explain.

"‘A Lovely Safe Umbrella to Describe Yourself With’ or ‘Meaningless’" by Aimee Grant at highlights that while terms like neurodivergent and neurodiversity can be empowering, they can also feel complicated.

Researchers surveyed 901 neurodivergent adults in the UK. Nearly everyone had heard the term neurodiversity, and most used identity words like “neurodivergent” themselves. Many appreciated having an umbrella term that helps them describe their experience without needing to disclose specific diagnoses every time—something that can feel protective and grounding.

But the study also showed mixed feelings.

Some participants felt that broad terms can make it harder for others to understand their specific needs. Others noticed frequent confusion—both inside and outside the community—about what these words actually mean. And while many found the terms neutral and stigma-reducing, some worried that general language might accidentally hide or soften important identities, like “autistic,” in ways that could reinforce stigma rather than reduce it.

For those of us supporting neurodivergent people, this research offers a gentle reminder to ask people what language feels right for them and match their preferred terminology.

Language is powerful, but it isn’t one-size-fits-all. Holding space for each person’s chosen words can make all the difference. For example, I was talking to someone yesterday who felt that the term neurodivergence indicates a negative divergence from the norm and so we used "neurospicy".

A link to the article is in the comments, we'd love to hear what you think.

03/12/2025

13/11/2025

Since qualifying in 2010, I have developed extensive experience working with Addiction, Autism, ADHD, Neurodiversity, Disability, Chronic Illness, Marginalisation and Discrimination, and Carer/Caring issues. I also support people experiencing Anxiety, Depression, Relationship difficulties and general mental health and wellbeing concerns. My Masters in Psychology further complements my practice, and I also work in Equality, Diversity, Inclusion, and Access at a university.

“There is hope, even when your brain tells you there isn’t.” — John Green

Counselling can help you stay grounded, manage challenges and find support during difficult times. Many of us face more than one issue at once, which can feel overwhelming and make it hard to see a way forward. Counselling offers a safe, confidential space that is entirely focused on you and what has brought you here.

My approach is personalised, integrative, person-centred and holistic, allowing us to explore what’s troubling you and work together toward greater clarity and balance.

As a member of both the British Psychological Society (BPS) and the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), I adhere to their codes of ethics and professional practice. I am fully insured and committed to providing a high standard of care.

It’s important to remember that it’s not only okay not to be okay — it’s completely normal. We all need support from time to time. In our sessions, you’ll be able to talk openly and confidentially about whatever is on your mind.

I offer in-person sessions in Cheltenham town centre and Charlton Kings, as well as online appointments.

Please feel free to get in touch for a preliminary chat — whether you’re seeking a space to reflect, wish to maintain your mental wellbeing, or want to work through a specific issue.

12/11/2025

November is Men’s Mental Health Month.

I've just been listening to coach Stuart Chambers speak on men’s mental health. Did you know su***de is the leading cause of death for men under 50? This is a horrendous statistic that highlights the urgent need for change.

We can make a difference by:
- Encouraging open conversations about mental health
- Normalising seeking help without stigma
- Promoting self-care—mentally, physically and through meaningful connection.

If you are struggling, please reach out. You are not alone, and support is available. Let's have a culture where men feel supported and understood.

Thanks to Care First and Chi Yip for making this session possible.

30/10/2025

It’s been a busy few weeks and I’m still reflecting on the powerful discussion led by Ed Davey and Lindsey Burrow at the Cheltenham Literature Festival on “Who Cares for Our Carers?”

We wouldn't not care for our loved ones but there are 7 million of us who often feel exhausted, invisible and isolated.

Caring can take a toll on our mental and physical health and can lead to burnout and sometimes crisis. That’s why self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential and counselling can be part of that.

If you're a carer, I’d love to support you to support your loved one and for that reason I offer a carers discount.

21/09/2025

Carers face unique challenges and I’m proud to be able to use this logo as a symbol of my commitment to providing compassionate counselling and support for carers in Gloucestershire.

21/08/2025

Brilliant!

21/08/2025

As someone deeply committed to ethical, inclusive and professional counselling, I feel this is important to know.

While I don’t currently pay to be listed in the BACP public directory, I am a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). You can verify my membership—or any BACP therapist—via their official register: https://www.bacp.co.uk/search/Register

The BACP Register includes members who have met high standards of training, ethics, and professional conduct. It’s accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA) through their Accredited Register programme, which recognises professionals in health and social care roles that are not subject to statutory regulation.

💬 Why does this matter?
Counsellor registration is more than a formality—it’s about protection for both clients and practitioners while assuring you that your counsellor is qualified, ethical and accountable.

I believe in transparency, trust and the amazing power of safe therapeutic relationships. If you ever have questions about my registration or approach, I’m always happy to chat.

20/06/2025

June is PTSD Awareness Month, and I had the opportunity to attend a Care First hosted webinar by Caroline Evers-Endacott.

It covered both and — conditions that can leave you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and isolated. But there is hope. 💙 Treatments and support are available.

Mind offers a wealth of helpful guidance and resources.

Let’s keep the conversation going. You’re not alone.

Explains what post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is, including different types like complex PTSD and birth trauma.

26/05/2025

Autistic burnout touches all my areas of work. The phrase "the distress caused when someone exists in a state of incongruence," captures it so powerfully—for me, and I’m sure for many others too. Thank you to Heather Connolly-Smith and the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy for shedding light on this important topic 🙏

Gloucestershire Autism Support LLB Inclusive Employment

Heather Connolly-Smith explores understanding autistic burnout: the hidden struggle and how we can support change. BACP Member blogs.