Sylwia Kuchenna

01/08/2025

The Sky Is Not the Limit – And That’s Okay

Pseudo-psychology loves to tell us that “the sky is the limit.” It’s catchy, it’s positive—and it’s misleading.

Yes, life is full of opportunities. Yes, we are capable of growth, change, and transformation. But the truth is, every single person has limitations. Whether they are physical, emotional, mental, financial, or circumstantial—limits are real. And pretending they don’t exist doesn’t empower us. It disconnects us from reality.

When we deny our limitations and chase a fantasy of infinite potential, we risk more than just disappointment. We set ourselves up for derealisation, unrealistic expectations, and a fractured sense of self. Over time, this can contribute to dissociation, identity confusion, or even trauma responses. We begin to feel like failures not because we failed, but because we were chasing an impossible standard.

This is one of the hidden dangers of toxic positivity, especially on social media. Endless affirmations and success stories without context might look inspiring—but often, they keep us trapped in comparison, fantasy, and paralysis. We scroll instead of act. We compare instead of create. We dream instead of do.

Real growth starts when we stop chasing the illusion of "limitless potential" and start accepting the truth of who we are. We all have strengths, and we all have limits. Knowing the difference is where power lies.

Let’s stop romanticizing fantasy and start embracing reality. There’s more peace—and progress—on that path than any hashtag motivation can offer.

Your therapist,
Sylwia

01/07/2025

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27/12/2024

🌟 8 Things to STOP to Break Family Dysfunction 🌟

Breaking unhealthy family patterns is tough, but it’s possible. If you’re ready to create healthier relationships, here are 8 things to STOP doing today:

💬 1. Avoiding Difficult Conversations
Ignoring issues won’t make them go away. Speak with honesty and compassion to build trust.

🙅‍♀️ 2. Enabling Harmful Behaviours
Excusing or tolerating bad behaviour only feeds the dysfunction. Practice accountability instead.

🧠 3. Internalizing Guilt & Shame
Stop carrying blame that isn’t yours. Release guilt and recognize your worth.

💆‍♀️ 4. Ignoring Your Own Needs
You can’t pour from an empty cup. Prioritize self-care and set boundaries.

🔄 5. Perpetuating Toxic Patterns
Break the cycle by replacing unhealthy habits with kindness, honesty, and encouragement.

🚧 6. Allowing Boundaries to Be Disregarded
Set firm limits and stick to them. Boundaries are a form of self-respect.

🙋‍♂️ 7. Seeking Validation From Dysfunctional Sources
You don’t need their approval. Validate yourself and surround yourself with healthier support.

✨ 8. Believing Change Is Impossible
Breaking cycles takes time, but it’s worth it. Change starts with YOU.

🌱 Breaking dysfunction is hard, but you have the power to create a healthier, more loving future. 💖

➡️ Which one resonates with you most? Let me know in the comments!

Your therapist,
Sylwia 💙

22/12/2024

🌱 Why Trauma Stays in the Body & How Trauma-Informed Therapy Helps 🌱

Trauma doesn’t just live in the mind—it’s stored in the body. When we experience overwhelming stress or danger, our bodies activate survival responses (fight, flight, freeze). If these responses aren’t resolved, the trauma can stay “stuck” in our nervous system, leading to chronic tension, fatigue, and even physical pain.

🧠 Effects of Trauma in the Body:

Anxiety, hypervigilance, or emotional numbness

Chronic pain or health issues

Difficulties with trust and relationships

Feeling “on edge” or disconnected from yourself

✨ The Benefits of Trauma-Informed Therapy:
Trauma-informed therapy recognizes this mind-body connection, focusing on safety, empowerment, and healing at your own pace. It can:

Help you release stored trauma in the body

Reduce feelings of overwhelm or stress

Restore emotional balance and resilience

Build self-awareness and self-trust

Your healing journey matters. Trauma may have shaped your past, but it doesn’t define your future. With the right support, you can find safety, strength, and freedom. 💛

💬 Ready to start your healing journey? Share your thoughts below. 🌟

Your therapist,
Sylwia 💙

17/12/2024

🌿 Healing Trauma Through Somatics 🌿

“Somatics is the language of our body. A dialogue between mind and muscle, an intimate dance of our inner awareness. It's where movement finds meaning, breath finds balance, and the Self discovers serenity in the symphony of sensations.”

When we experience trauma, it doesn’t just live in our memories—it imprints itself on the body. Tight shoulders, shallow breaths, tension we can’t quite explain—all are echoes of what we’ve been through.

Through somatics, we begin to listen to our body’s story with compassion. We reconnect with the sensations, movements, and breath patterns that were disrupted.

✨ Movement becomes medicine.
✨ Breath becomes a balm.
✨ Awareness becomes liberation.

Healing is not about fixing but about feeling. It’s about creating safety in our bodies again, one gentle moment at a time. Through somatics, we learn to soften, release, and reclaim our inner peace.

Your body is speaking—are you ready to listen? 🌸

Your therapist,
Sylwia 💙

14/12/2024

The Healing Journey: Reconnecting with Yourself

Healing from trauma is not a process of thinking your way out of it. Often, those who have experienced trauma develop a survival mechanism of over-intellectualizing or relying heavily on logic to make sense of what happened. While this can provide temporary stability, true healing requires stepping out of the mind and into the heart, body, and soul.

Trauma disrupts the connection between our body, mind, and psyche. It teaches us to distrust our intuition and emotions, to numb the body’s signals, and to suppress what feels unbearable. Over time, this disconnection becomes a way of life: we analyze instead of feel, rationalize instead of intuit, and mistrust ourselves instead of embracing our inner knowing. But healing invites us back into wholeness.

Becoming Less Logical

Healing often begins with softening the grip of logic. This doesn’t mean abandoning reason; it means recognizing that trauma lives in the body, not in the mind. While understanding your trauma story intellectually can provide clarity, it is only part of the process. Healing demands that we feel what we’ve avoided feeling, experience what we’ve suppressed, and open ourselves to the intuitive wisdom that residates beyond logic.

Intuition and emotions are powerful guides, but trauma can make them feel unreliable or overwhelming. Reconnecting with them is about learning to trust yourself again. This involves:

Practicing Presence: Ground yourself in the present moment. Trauma keeps us stuck in the past or anxious about the future, but reconnecting with your body through practices like mindfulness, breathwork, or yoga can help.

Feeling Safely: Begin to explore your emotions without judgment. Journaling, therapy, or creative expression can provide a safe container to process emotions without intellectualizing them.

Listening Inward: Intuition speaks quietly, through subtle sensations or a deep knowing. Pay attention to what your body feels when you make choices or reflect on decisions—it’s often wiser than your rational mind.

Healing isn’t linear, and it often requires patience, self-compassion, and support.

Sylwia 💙




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