26/02/2024
Rejection is a fact of life.... More times, it is a gift.
Yeah....more times, it is a gift.
No matter how successful, everyone will face this painful reality at some point. And while nothing can take away the sting of someone brushing you and all your qualities off, it doesn’t have to take away your confidence.
Beyond the physical sensation, rejection strikes at our need for acceptance and belonging. Humans are social creatures, and our desire to connect developed through evolution.
You are most likely to face rejection from people who have been closest to you or those that you have sacrificed much to help and support.
Your first reaction to discovering someone is turning you down will be disbelief. There must be some mistake. You deserve this person’s regard and respect, so you might feel something’s just off.
From an emotional stand point, coming to terms with rejection is a process. Rejection is a loss, much like grieving.
The amount of time you spend on the phases of rejection depends on you and the situation. some may pass quickly, others less.
It is important to be patient with yourself. There is no time line for getting over rejection.
🌹Don't vent your negative emotions while you are still angry at the person rejecting you. It will cause you more hurt. Take a deep breath and work to calm yourself.
🌹Try to manage your anger. Give the person who turned you down space. They don't owe you an explanation, Accept their decision with grace.
🌹On top of feeling angry and disappointed, you’re sad, embarrassed, confused, hurt, or all of the above. Your self-confidence has taken a hit, and you may be questioning your worth. All these feelings are a valid response to rejection that might lead to feelings of depression.
Now is the time to pull out all the stops in your self-care routine. Physical exercises, take a bubble bath, or surround yourself with friends.
Once you feel comforted, begin examining your feelings to identify which emotions are driving your depression and make a plan to address them.
♦️You may spot a mistake you made. Understand that this is a learning opportunity.
It’s also possible that you will never fully understand the whys and hows of the situation. And that’s OK.Dont allow rejection to define you. Grow from the experience.
💐Keep an eye on your health, both physical and mental. Exercising or learning a new skill will help you focus on the present and not the past.
💐If your low moods last longer than two weeks despite your best effort, reach out to a mental health professional. A counsellor or Psychotherapist will help you develop coping skills and strategies to help you past the negative thoughts and feelings of rejection.
💐Make a prayer. Do not underestimate the power of spiritual intervention. It makes a whole difference.
ACCEPTANCE is the KEY
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