08/03/2026
International ChairWork Psychotherapy Conference - fireside chat on “Creating a Bridge for ChairWork for Intergenerational and Multicultural Healing.”
Silence equals submission.
Submission, in the land of the “pure,” equals patience.
And patience—
oh, they beautifully brainwashed us that patience was HOLY!
There was nothing ‘holy’ about conditioning women to loose their ‘voice’ so they can never speak about what was done to them!
With time, patience became tolerance.
Not the kind that’s rooted in wisdom,
but the kind that asks you to tolerate everything, regardless of how badly you are treated or what’s done to you or your self respect!
The abuse.
The cruelty.
The injustice.
The persistent unkindness.
The slow erosion of yourself... and your self respect.
And they called that a “good woman”.
A “good woman” doesn’t speak up about abuse or injustice!
She endures it silently.
She makes excuses.
She smiles through pain.
She calls her silence strength
and her exhaustion, love.
And the society? Well, it rushes to give her a medal by reminding her: “Wow! You are so wise! You know how to keep the family and its honor together!”
And then one day, when she finally dares to speak—
no matter how softly, kindly or assertively —
the labels arrive.
Defiant.
Disrespectful.
Difficult.
Crazy.
Aggressive.
Hyper sensitive
Out of control
Westernised
Exaggerator
Rebellious
Drama Queen
Overly reactive
Bad woman
But LET me tell you the truth:
Silence was the smartest manipulation tactic of all.
A way to keep you voiceless.
To keep you quiet in the name of honor,
in the name of family,
in the name of love.
YOU are not the names they call you! This is how they have successfully conditioned you to shut up by constantly gaslighting you into believing IT IS NOT THE ABUSE OR MISTREATMENT THAT IS THE PROBLEM - IT IS YOU TALKING ABOUT IT!
JUST DON’T SHUT UP! Give up the damn fear! Unlearn every lie that said silence equals goodness.
It never did.
Let’s speak up … together and raise all HELL!
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