Flourish_therapy

20/03/2026

♡♡♡

20/03/2026

Have definitely found this to be true personally and with our clients.

19/03/2026

19/03/2026

An anxious attachment style can develop when:

- Your caregiver/s was unpredictably and inconsistently emotionally safe
- Sometimes you were attuned to, sometimes you were not (usually based on parents nervous system state and availability)

Over time you learned that:

- relational safety is not guaranteed
- you can try to secure more consistent relational safety if you’re careful to comply with what your caregivers want

You may find you in adulthood that you:

- Bear the burden to pursue in relationship
- Require regular reassurance
- Are very attuned to others (and loose yourself)
- Tend towards over-functioning
- Lack certainty regarding being acceptable
- Conflict feels very unsettling and unsafe

Do you relate to this attachment style?

🌿Lauren + Luke Smallcomb

19/03/2026

This is an incredible resource and offer!

18/03/2026

The intimacy of reassurance. ♡ We The Urban

18/03/2026

Safety is of utmost importance when it comes to healing complex, developmental and shock trauma.

But safety isn't easy to find.

Often it's something we have to look for and even cultivate on our own. No one is going to make our world safe to live in but us.

Be encouraged today as you seek out any step small (or big!) to cultivate a deeper sense of safety for your body and mind. It's worth it. You're worth it.

🌿Lauren + Luke Smallcomb

17/03/2026

Good list!

17/03/2026

Lexy Florentina

17/03/2026

Not always, but sometimes.

🌿Luke + Lauren Smallcomb

17/03/2026