11/23/2025
Grief is a part of life, but itâs never as simple as âjust let it goâ or âmove on.â When the person youâre grieving is still alive, the pain hits differently. Youâre not only mourning their absenceâyouâre mourning the version of them you once knew, the love you hoped would last, and the future you quietly built in your heart.
As a coach, I see this kind of grief all the timeâthe kind that doesnât explode, but lingers.
âď¸ It rarely shouts.
âď¸ It often whispers.
It shows up in quiet momentsâa sudden wave of sadness, a memory that presses on your chest, a heaviness you canât fully name but canât ignore either. And thatâs okay. Truly.
đ Hereâs something I want you to remember: you donât need to fully understand the âwhyâ behind your emotions for them to be valid.
You donât need a perfect explanation to justify your pain.
You donât need to wrap your feelings in logic before you allow yourself to feel them.
Healing begins the moment you give yourself permission to acknowledge the ache without judging it or rushing it away.
Your heart is simply trying to make sense of a loss that doesnât look like lossâand that takes tenderness, compassion, and patience with yourself.
Youâre allowed to feel what you feel.
Youâre allowed to take your time.
And youâre allowed to heal at a pace that honors your story.
