12/15/2024
What will you do this week to fill your cup?
We've all heard the old adage: you can't pour from an empty cup. And it's true on so many levels.
Physically, yes, you cannot pour from an empty cup, but psycho-emotionally, it's also true. Polyvagal theory tells us that the state of our nervous system (like fight-or-flight vs rest+digest) affects which emotions we can access. In order to truly feel joy, love, social connection, we have to be in a parasympathetic state. In other words, stress does not equal love.
In the season of love and family, there can be an awful lot of stress. I know I feel it: trying to shop for 7 nephews/niece+3 siblings+3 siblings-in-law+2 parents+friends+coworkers+etc, decorate for the holidays, put on/market a holiday sale, sub classes/shifts for those going out-of-town, drive in the snow and holiday traffic, try to ship out an Amazon return when the line is an hour long, workout, do holiday baking, finally finish that online course before the end of the year, work through end of year finances...and, and, and, and....
It's a lot, and I'm sure that you have a very similar list. But, the thing I keep reminding myself is that I won't have the capacity to enjoy any of those things if my cup is empty. If all I am is stressed, I can't look for gifts with a loving heart or enjoy all the sugar I'm about to eat.
Whether it's meditating, taking a walk, calling a friend, taking a bubble bath, or getting a massage, make a plan to fill your cup this week. More than just once, if you can fathom that. If not, start with one thing this week, and build from there.