North Frisco Counseling Associates

North Frisco Counseling Associates Offices of Jeannie Barnes, Sandra Farahani, Dennis Howard, and Kayla Allison. Counseling services for individuals, couples, families and teens.

Our therapists specialize in EMDR & ETT

04/20/2026
04/19/2026

If you’ve ever felt like you have to say things perfectly just to be heard—
that’s exhausting for a reason.

Healthy communication isn’t about walking on eggshells.
It’s about two people being willing to show up.

Not every expression of pain is manipulation—but sometimes pain becomes the language someone uses to control connection....
04/19/2026

Not every expression of pain is manipulation—but sometimes pain becomes the language someone uses to control connection.

Chronic victimhood can be deeply felt and deeply relational.

When someone’s identity becomes rooted in being wronged, it can shift relationships into a cycle of guilt, confusion, and emotional responsibility that was never yours to carry.

“Covert” patterns are hard to spot because they don’t look like grandiosity—they look like suffering.

But when suffering becomes the primary way of relating, it can subtly shape dynamics through guilt, vagueness, and shifting expectations.

Understanding the pattern is the first step.
Responding differently is the next.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly trying to “get it right” for someone…
constantly guessing, over-explaining, or feeling like you’re the problem—

Pause.

That dynamic didn’t come from nowhere.
And it’s okay to step out of it.

Not all wounds heal into growth.
Some turn into patterns that keep relationships stuck.

➡️ Discernment matters. So do boundaries.

➡️ Compassion doesn’t require self-abandonment.

➡️ You can have empathy and boundaries.

Empathy = I see you.People-pleasing = I disappear for you.One builds connection. The other builds resentment.If it costs...
04/15/2026

Empathy = I see you.
People-pleasing = I disappear for you.
One builds connection. The other builds resentment.

If it costs you your voice, your truth, or your peace—it’s not empathy, it’s self-abandonment.

02/12/2025

YOU HAVE TO HEAL IT TO SEAL IT

Picture this....say you have an open wound that won't heal. You throw a bandaid on the wound and keep going hoping that in time it will heal. Not only does the wound not heal but it gets worse, it gets bigger, it's infected and now its starting to affect your health. You keep just throwing a bandaid on it, you complain about the wound with friends and family but you never treat the wound. Eventually the wound starts to impair your life in almost every area so you finally decide to go to the doctor to find out what is wrong with you. During the exam the doctor notices the wound and says well there is the source of your issues we have to treat that. You then tell the doctor oh no that's been there forever there's really no point in messing with it. The doctor tells you that leaving this wound untreated leaves you vulnerable to infection that can lead to illness of all kind especially if the infection gets in the blood stream which can then affect all the other systems of the body and worse case scenerio loss of a limb, extremity or even life. The doctor moves in to examine the wound, you flinch and pull away saying its painful and you'd rather they not touch it. You then tell them that you think you just need meds to treat the symptoms of the wound and things should be fine. The doctor replies that they agree you likely need meds to help clear up the infection however if you don't address the wound over time the meds won't make a difference because the wound is still there and you can only treat symptoms for so long. You tell him you will think about it but again you are just focused on getting rid of the symptoms more than healing the wound.

Are you getting the picture? Unhealed emotional wounds act just like a physical wound on the body. They provide access for the infection of lies, poor self-esteem, depression, anxiety, insecure attachments, body issues...etc, etc. This infection can and will spread and affect every area of our life. On a spiritual level they also act as a doorway for the enemy. The bible tells us the enemy comes to kill, steal and destroy and wounds are the primary way of access to do just that.

When you heal the wound you seal the access. Most people are treating the symptoms of their wounds because that feels safer than treating the wound. Wounds are indeed painful but you either feel short-term pain of the healing or long-term pain and loss by avoiding it either way there is pain.

You can be free and you can start today

Yes 🎯
02/12/2025

Yes 🎯

It’s all about that vagus nerve! Strengthening the vagus nerve can significantly reduce the fight or flight reaction.
01/27/2025

It’s all about that vagus nerve! Strengthening the vagus nerve can significantly reduce the fight or flight reaction.

01/23/2025

Address

7700 Preston Road Suite 104
Frisco, TX
75034

Opening Hours

Monday 9am - 4pm
Tuesday 9am - 4pm
Wednesday 9am - 4pm
Thursday 9am - 4pm

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