01/27/2020
Is your teen suffering from stress, anxiety, and or depression?
Teens are dealing with life differently than the rest of us because their personality is not yet fully developed. They are still looking outside of themselves to form their identity. Because of this, they are sensitive to the opinions of others.
When we look outside of ourselves for love and self-worth, that is when we give up our power and allow the opinions of others to influence and change how we perceive our selves. Each one of us is born confident. We develop negative thoughts/opinions toward ourselves by accepting the negative opinions of others. In other words, we abandon ourselves and our own self-love.
In my own life, I have had to realize that as a very small child, I chose to abandon myself in order to please those around me. Through RTT, I learned that in my early childhood experiences, I developed an impression that if I didn't do what people expected me to do, they would not be able to love or accept me. So I began working very hard to adapt my behavior to fit what the people around me would prefer. When I was a child, I was striving to earn my parent's love and acceptance, so I did what they wanted me to do. As a teen, I wanted to make friends and get people to like me, so I did what they wanted me to do. As an adult, I have tried to make romantic partners love me, so I tried to be everything that they would want me to be, only to eventually be abandoned by them.
RTT has helped me to discover when and why I chose to abandon my own self love for the opinions of others. The moment that I realized what I had done, I was able to rewrite that script that had been playing on repeat in my head, telling me that I have to be what "they" want or they won't love me. I have now changed that script to words of self praise and self-love. If I feel anxiety about something, I now know to stop and think about the pictures that I'm forming in my mind. Am I forming pictures and thoughts based on how much I love myself and knowing what I am worthy of, or am I forming thoughts based on fears that I'm not enough and I better figure out how to be what they need me to be or they won't love and accept me.
Knowledge is power, and now that I have the knowledge, I am empowered to redirect my thought processes toward self-love and self-acceptance.
If you know a teen suffering from stress, anxiety, or depression, RTT can help them find new neuropathways to self-love and self- acceptance too.
Private message me for a free 20 minute consultation and lets get your teen being a happy, healthy person again!