Soul Glow WellBeing

11/23/2025

Strength doesn’t always look like gentleness.

Sometimes it’s the moment you stop cushioning the blow for people who keep swinging. The old pattern — over-explaining, forgiving too quickly, trying to prove your goodness — starts to fall away, and what’s left is clarity. That’s why boundaries can feel harsh. Cold. Even cruel. But they’re not. They’re the nervous system learning that self-protection isn’t betrayal — it’s self-respect.

When you stop offering softness to those who exploit it, you’re not becoming hardened; you’re becoming honest. The guilt, the second-guessing, the urge to make yourself smaller just to keep the peace — that’s the residue of survival, not compassion.

Real kindness includes discernment. It knows the difference between connection and compliance. What you’re reclaiming isn’t anger. It’s integrity — the kind that refuses to apologize for finally feeling safe in your own strength..

11/22/2025

Reactive abuse is one of the most manipulative tactics a narcissist uses. They push you, provoke you, and emotionally corner you until you finally react. Then they point at your reaction and act like you are the problem.

They create the chaos.

They force the explosion.

They push you to breaking point and then pretend they are the innocent one who has to “deal” with your behaviour.

This is how they rewrite the story. They hide their cruelty behind your moment of overwhelm.

They use your human response as proof that you are unstable, dramatic, or difficult, when in reality you were responding to months or years of emotional pressure.

If you have ever been backed into a corner until you snapped, you were not the abuser. You were the one being pushed past your limits. That does not make you the problem. It makes you human.

You deserve relationships where calm is the norm, not where you are provoked into defending yourself, your sanity, and your dignity. ❤️‍🩹

11/22/2025

Narcissists are terrified of abandonment. So rather than treating you well so you want to stay, they treat you poorly, devaluing you and doing things to lower your self esteem. They think this will make you feel like you can not get better than them. Over time they also get jealous of your good qualities so they want to hurt you. What they loved about you in the beginning of the relationship they hate about you in the end.

This cycle happens slowly, almost silently, until you begin to feel disconnected from your own strength. In the beginning, they often appear charming, attentive, and deeply interested in you. They mirror your best qualities, echo your dreams, and make you feel seen in a way that feels rare and intoxicating. But this initial “idealization phase” is not about love—it’s about securing admiration, validation, and control. Once they feel that bond has formed, their fear of losing that source of validation kicks in.

Instead of nurturing the relationship, they create emotional confusion. They pull you close only to push you away. They offer affection and then replace it with cruelty. The inconsistency becomes addictive, keeping you hoping for the return of the person you first knew. But the truth is, that version of them was never stable—it was a performance meant to draw you in.

As the relationship progresses, your strengths become targets. If you’re confident, they’ll try to make you doubt yourself. If you’re kind, they’ll accuse you of being “too emotional.” If you’re independent, they’ll frame it as selfish or uncaring. They want you smaller, quieter, less secure—because your power threatens the false superiority they try to maintain.

By the end, the traits that once attracted them feel like threats to their fragile ego. They didn’t suddenly stop loving those qualities; they simply realized they could not own them. And when they cannot rise to meet your light, they try to dim it.

But recognizing this pattern is the beginning of breaking free from it. It reminds you that their behavior is a reflection of their wounds—not evidence of your inadequacy.

11/19/2025

"But the real work for an empath isn’t to love harder; it’s to tone down the hyper-attunement and turn that empathy inward. It’s to stop confusing emotional labor with love and to stop mistaking chaos for connection."

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11/15/2025

TRAUMA SAYS: I need to explain everything so they don't misunderstand me or get upset HEALING SAYS: I will no longer explain myself out of fear. How someone perceives my truth is a reflection of them. And if there's any misunderstanding, the RIGHT people will ask, not assume.

It's a shift in perspective, a paradigm change, a liberation from the chains of people-pleasing and approval-seeking. It's recognizing that your worth isn't tied to someone else's understanding or validation. It's understanding that you don't owe anyone an explanation for your thoughts, feelings, or actions.

Healing says, "I trust myself, I trust my intentions, and I trust my boundaries." It says, "I will no longer justify, I will no longer defend, and I will no longer apologize for being me." It's a declaration of freedom, a statement of self-love, and a testament to your growth. You are not responsible for managing other people's emotions or perceptions. Your job is to own your truth, to honor your feelings, and to live your life authentically.

11/12/2025