Janae Munday, LCSW

11/03/2018

Could the partner who was unfaithful to you years ago be affecting your ability to trust the partner you’re with now?

It’s often said that the past is never really finished with us. This truth can be especially powerful when it comes to our intimate relationships. Could the partner who was unfaithful to you years ago be affecting your ability to trust the partner you’re with now? Do memories of your parents’ ...

10/16/2018

When communication breaks down, one or both partners may think divorce is the only option. But with the support of an experienced marriage counselor, many couples can gradually restore feelings of openness and trust.

No two divorces are exactly the same – but the arguments that lead to a split are remarkably similar, marriage counselors say.Here are 5 common arguments that couples therapists frequently hear about, along with their best advice for easing the tensions that can break a relationship for good. YOU ...

10/16/2018

Vacations, it turns out, may make underlying tensions more obvious to married couples, leading to clashes and, in many cases, divorce proceedings.

Have you ever returned from a special trip with your spouse, only to wonder if your relationship is falling apart? If so, you’re not alone. A study from the University of Washington shows that conflicts and even divorces tend to peak in March and August, the periods following summer and winter vac...

10/16/2018

Journaling is a positive way to learn more about each other and maintain a heartfelt closeness.

Capturing the story of your relationship on paper can be a rewarding way for couples to explore the life they have created together. In fact, many marriage therapists recommend journaling as a means of cultivating closeness – and working through the tough spots that are a natural part of any coupl...

10/16/2018

Are you struggling to accept the risks of extramarital crush – or, worse yet, trying to overcome the damage done by an affair?

Are you shocked to find out that your partner is attracted to other people? Really, it should be no surprise – since you likely check other people out as well. It’s totally normal to be aware of others who catch your eye and even to admire the way they look or behave. However, this reality isn.....

10/16/2018

You might not think of back-to-school time as an especially tough challenge for your marriage, but it definitely can be.

Have you noticed that during the busiest times of the year, your marriage often feels less satisfying and supportive? It’s no secret that life transitions place an extra strain on our most important relationships. And often, we’re just so busy coping that we don’t take time to notice what’s ...

04/18/2018

Jealousy can lead to worried, mistrustful, even neurotic behaviors such as spying on a spouse’s private emails or texts. It hits men and women with equal force and, unfortunately, it doesn’t always diminish with age.

One of the most positive aspects of being in a committed relationship is feeling secure in your partner’s love. It’s wonderful to know that we are desired and valued for whom we truly are – and that our bond is strong because of the love we give our partners in return. Still, we’re only huma...

04/03/2018

If you’re struggling with disagreements over spending, saving, earning and other financial issues, it’s crucial to heal these issues before they do serious damage to your relationship.

Married couples begin their lives together with high hopes, believing they will be able to weather tough times with help from each other. Yet many don’t realize that conflicts over money can weaken and even break the strongest of relationships. Did you know that fighting about finances is a leadin...

03/16/2018

Major life transitions can threaten the security within any marriage or committed relationship. There are times when sitting down with an experienced marriage counselor can help to ease tensions, reveal issues and create workable solutions.

If you’re packing up your treasured possessions in preparation for a move, it’s wise to think about how to protect your marriage from getting damaged too. Married and committed couples don’t always think about the fact that their relationship is also being shipped to a new neighborhood – or ...

03/02/2018

Do you need help rebuilding trust and intimacy in your marriage?

03/02/2018

Gifts given freely and chosen with love express a very different message.

Gift-giving is a big deal in our culture. Throughout the year we are expected to have the perfect present for birthdays, anniversaries, Mother’s and Father’s Day and yes, Valentine’s Day. In fact, it seems that planning, buying and sharing gifts has become a focus of modern life – especially...

02/03/2018

After the excitement and magic of your wedding is over, is it wrong to feel sad and disappointed – even depressed?

After the excitement and magic of your wedding is over, is it wrong to feel sad and disappointed – even depressed? According to marriage counselors, many couples expect to enter a state of bliss after they celebrate their weddings. Yet one of every 10 women experiences depression in the first year...

01/16/2018

Couples therapists say that married and committed partners have to be thoughtful and diligent in protecting their intimate lives from the demands of a busy family life. Here are a few basic suggestions that work well for many couples.

When you’re lying in bed after getting up to feed the baby or tuck your toddler back in for what seems like the hundredth time, you may wonder what happened to the s*xual spark in your marriage – and worry that it might never come back.Even though kids don’t know what s*x is, they’re often

01/16/2018

Here are 7 New Year’s resolutions to make and get 2018 started on the right foot. Note that these aren’t necessarily issues that need fixing; they’re steps to prevent things from breaking.

The New Year is a great time to enjoy some bubbly, clean out closets and look forward to your next trip around the sun.For married and committed couples, it’s also a fine opportunity to think about relationships and personal improvement. As individuals, we love to bundle that kind of stuff into th...

01/07/2018

Here are 6 tips to help you find the right equilibrium. With care and practice, you’ll find that keeping your relationship centered is as simple as breathing.

Committed couples expect to receive many things from one another. But believing your marriage can satisfy the full spectrum of your personal needs – from intimacy to friendship to family and career support -- can place far too much stress on your relationship. Happy couples, whether married or not...

12/10/2017

Here are 8 ways that lying can erode our love relationships.

With the current controversy over fake news, the issue of what’s true and untrue is very much on our minds these days. Many experts say we’re living in a world of diminishing trust – which may mean that our need for truthfulness in our closest relationships is greater than ever. Still, we know...

11/30/2017

Strategies for couples to avoid conflicts during holidays.

For many married and committed couples, the decision of how to celebrate the winter holidays is a difficult one. Should we visit my family or yours? Stay home? Escape on an exciting vacation, avoiding the family scene altogether? It’s crucial for couples to create their own holiday traditions. Whe...

11/09/2017

All of us do and say things we regret later. This is especially true if your actions were deeply hurtful to one another.

All of us do and say things we regret later. If you’ve experienced this in your marriage, both of you may be struggling to reach a point of forgiveness. This is especially true if your actions were deeply hurtful to one another. Conflicts can flare up so quickly in our closest relationships that we…