The H.U.G Therapy Center, Couples Counseling in Phoenix

04/09/2025

04/08/2025

When you’re outside your Window of Tolerance, your nervous system reacts in one of two ways:

🔥 Hyperarousal (Fight/Flight) → Anxiety, anger, racing thoughts
🧊 Hypoarousal (Freeze/Shutdown) → Numbness, exhaustion, disconnection

The goal isn’t to force yourself out of it—it’s to notice where you are and gently guide yourself back. Therapy helps you learn how. 💙

04/06/2025

If you’re always the one holding it together for everyone else… who’s holding space for you?

💙 You deserve support too.
💙 You don’t have to carry it all alone.
💙 Therapy is a place where you don’t have to be “strong.”

04/05/2025

Therapy isn’t just about talking—it’s about listening to what your body is saying.

04/04/2025

Fights aren’t what break relationships. It’s when repair doesn’t happen.

✅ Healthy couples argue—but they also reconnect.
✅ They own their mistakes.
✅ They listen, even when it’s hard.

The goal isn’t never fighting—it’s fighting in a way that brings you closer.

04/02/2025

You are allowed to:

✨ Have needs
✨ Ask for reassurance
✨ Say no without guilt
✨ Speak up even if it makes others uncomfortable

You don’t have to shrink to be loved. ❤️

04/01/2025

Painful emotions don’t go away just because you ignore them.

They show up in:

💥 Overreactions to small things
💥 Chronic stress and burnout
💥 Unexplained physical tension

Healing happens when you turn toward, not away. Therapy helps.

03/31/2025

If you grew up in an unpredictable environment, you may have learned to:

🚨 Always scan for danger
🚶‍♂️ Tiptoe around conflict
🛑 Suppress your own needs to keep the peace

Healing means realizing: You don’t have to live in survival mode anymore.

03/30/2025

If no one taught you emotional regulation, you might:

🚫 Get overwhelmed easily
🚫 Shut down instead of feeling
🚫 Feel guilty for having emotions at all

It’s not your fault. Emotional regulation is a learned skill, and it’s never too late to start learning. 💙

03/29/2025

Anxiety isn’t just “in your head”—it’s in your body and nervous system too.

Therapy helps you regulate, not just overthink. 🛠️

03/28/2025

According to Dr. Sue Johnson, every couple has a dance—a predictable pattern of conflict and disconnection.

💃 Anxious partners may chase, criticize, or seek reassurance.
🕺 Avoidant partners may shut down, withdraw, or stonewall.

EFT (emotionally focused this) helps couples change the steps so they move together, not apart.