08/01/2025
We all want to be more present with ourselves, with our loved ones.
Yet we get so captivated by what’s going on around us, and who could blame us?
The algorithms pull our focus with personalized, increasingly intelligent reins.
The average person spends 7 hours a day online. That’s a very good stretch of time to be influenced by external forces that capture us with their inflated sense of urgency.
📲👀 When I work with people I am really working with a person... and their phone.
We really do have relationships with our phones; we attach to our devices.
Have you ever walked through the house carrying your devices... from room to room? I sure have.
And this over-attentiveness to the outside world via our phones can damage connection and intimacy in our relationships with other humans.
As in all relationships, we need boundaries to ensure the relationship stays healthy.
We need boundaries with our phones. Here are some ideas.
+set designated phone-free times, mealtimes, or in the bedroom
+leave your phones in the car on date night.
+manage notifications to reduce distractions.
+create intentional spaces where devices are not allowed, such as during walks or while engaging in creative projects
+establish screen curfews to wind down before sleep, protecting the quiet that nourishes us.
+replace idle scrolling with mindful rituals, like journaling, reading a physical book or giving your honey a neck massage.
Consider asking yourself: When do I reach for my phone? Is it boredom, habit, or an authentic need?
By noticing these impulses, we reveal opportunities to reconnect with ourselves and the world around us.
Boundaries are not walls—they are invitations to be more present, to rediscover the moments waiting quietly just beyond the screen.
