Pat Pollard Counseling, PLLC

12/15/2025

Healing feels difficult because you are not broken... you are layered.
Different parts of you are speaking at the same time,
each shaped by a different moment of your life.

The child seeks safety,
the teenager seeks fairness, and the adult seeks rest.
None of them are enemies.

Healing begins when you stop choosing sides
and start offering understanding to them all.

Move slowly.
Be patient.
Gentleness is not weakness—it is how peace enters.

12/15/2025

12/13/2025

We cling to what hurts us not because we love the pain,
but because the mind fears the emptiness that follows release.
It holds old memories, old wounds, old identities
as if they are treasures, even while they burn.

Letting go is not an action of force—
it is an action of awareness.
The moment you truly see the damage,
the moment you recognize the burn,
your hand opens naturally.

There is no need to fight the grip.
No need to push the pain away.
Just witness it honestly.

When the heart understands
that holding on is the suffering, letting go becomes the healing.

This is the quiet wisdom of freedom:
Pain ends not when life changes, but when you stop carrying what harms you.

12/11/2025

When you start setting boundaries, you quickly learn who was benefitting from your lack of them.
Controlling people get uncomfortable when they can no longer dictate your choices.
Takers get upset when you finally say “no.”
Manipulators become angry when you recognize their tactics and refuse to play their game.

But this discomfort is not a sign you’re doing something wrong—
it’s proof that you’re growing.
It means you’re no longer living to please others at the cost of yourself.

The moment you become okay with being disliked, you become truly powerful.
Because then your decisions come from self-respect,
not fear.
Your peace becomes your priority,
not someone else’s approval.

Strength is not in being liked— it’s in staying true to your boundaries,
even when it disappoints the wrong people. ✨

12/07/2025

True intimacy is about more than a physical connection.

It’s talking about your fears, childhood scars, hopes, and dreams. It’s letting someone in so deep that you feel like you can see their soul.

It’s laying on the kitchen floor, climbing inside their ribcage and making yourself at home.

No clothes come off. Nothing happens.
And yet you’ll never be more naked with another human in your life.

That's intimacy.
Not the bedroom scene everyone posts about.

So tell me — when's the last time someone saw all of you...
and you didn't have to take a single thing off to let them in?