04/07/2026
✨rest for neurodivergent people doesn’t look like what they showed us on TV.
it’s not a bubble bath and a candle. i mean sure, light the candle, but your brain will still be in there like “okay but what are we DOING tho” 😭
i was on a retreat recently and had to sit with the humbling realization that i did not know how to rest. me. a licensed therapist. could not rest. the irony was not lost on me or my nervous system.
i had to relearn three things i thought i already knew:
— sleep (not “unconscious anxiety with a blanket”)
— pausing (without my brain sending an amber alert about everything i should be doing instead)
— eating as nourishment and not just as a strategy to avoid passing out before 3pm
three light things you can try today:
🦋 eat one meal sitting down with no screen. yes the whole meal. you can do it.
🦋 take 5 deep breaths before you open your first app in the morning (your situationship texts will still be there, i promise)
🦋 say out loud “i am allowed to stop” — once. just once. even if your brain immediately says “lol no”
i’m writing a book specifically for ADHD brains who were never taught any of this — the late diagnosed, the “but you seem so put together” crowd, the ones running on fumes and sheer spite.
you are exactly who i wrote it for. get on the list + join the community early → link in bio 🦋
✨ ✨ . . . . . . . Disclaimer: anything that I post is meant for entertainment purposes only. My content is not a replacement for therapy with a licensed professional and is not meant to be clinical. ✨ I’m a therapist but not your therapist and even if I am in real life this isn’t us in a session. This is Shani on the internet!
