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08/04/2025

"All Done" is what my 2 year old granddaughter typically says after completing a meal or a task. Today, 50 minutes into her hour long swim lesson, she started whining, "I want All Done!" Her way of signaling that she had had enough. I love the boundaries that children have at recognizing their limitations. There were certainly times in my life when I pushed past my boundaries. We are taught "no pain, no gain." Or we sometimes choose to make others comfortable at the expense of our own discomfort. Is there a situation in your life that you want All done? Maybe it's a relationship, or an addiction, or bad habit, or any situation where you just no longer belong. It's time to call it! I want ALL DONE!

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07/21/2025

WHAT FEELS GOOD CAN BE EMBARRASSING

Andy Byron, former CEO of the tech firm Astronomer, resigned from his position on 19 July 2025 following a viral video incident at a Coldplay concert. The video showed him embracing Kristin Cabot, Astronomer’s Chief People Officer, in a romantic manner.

The world and especially social media is abuzz not merely because two adults were caught on camera sharing an intimate moment, but because both individuals are married to other people and work at the same company.

The footage revealed what appears to be a marital affair between a CEO and a senior employee. The pair seemed visibly embarrassed when the camera captured their actions at the concert. As a result of the video, both were asked to take leave. Andy Byron has since resigned, while Kristin Cabot has gone offline, deleting her social media profiles.

Relationships like this are not uncommon in society. The difference here is that this one was caught on camera and went viral. One might ask: why do people engage in actions they later feel ashamed of? There are important lessons to be drawn from this incident:

1. Marriage Is Not Without Challenges
Every marriage faces difficulties. When problems arise, they should be addressed either between the couple or with the help of a counsellor. If all efforts fail, it is better to part ways respectfully than to remain in the marriage and seek comfort elsewhere.

Looking for happiness outside the marriage does not solve the issues within it. It only creates more complications, just as it did for Andy Byron and Kristin Cabot. Their reputations and careers are now at risk. They face public embarrassment, emotional distress, and have caused pain to their spouses and families.

2. Marriage Requires Honour and Integrity
Marriage is for people who are committed to honesty and integrity. If you try to deceive or outsmart your spouse by being unfaithful, you will eventually be exposed. It is only a matter of time.

3. Temptation Is Inevitable, But Choices Matter
Being married does not mean you will not meet people who are more charming, attractive, or engaging than your spouse. But you must remain focused on loving your partner and nurturing your relationship.

It is a choice between what is safe and what is dangerous, between right and wrong. It is your responsibility to keep choosing what is right even when what feels good is tempting.

This incident will undoubtedly leave a scar on the dignity and emotional well-being of both Andy and Kristin. But it also serves as a cautionary tale. We all grow older, but we do not necessarily grow wiser unless we learn from our own mistakes and those of others.

In Conclusion
“Do not go stumbling into the arms of another woman. The Lord clearly sees everything you do. He watches where you go. The sins of the wicked will trap them. Those sins will be like ropes holding them back. Evil people will die because they refuse to be disciplined. They will be trapped by their own desires.” — Proverbs 5:20–23 (ERV).

Frank Edem Adofoli (Counselor Adofoli)
Counsellor, ADR Practitioner, Conference Speaker & Author.
CEO, The Marriage Consult LTD.
T. +233201435300.

07/20/2025

Affairs are just fantasy. Another form of numbing, like drug use. Until reality hits.

06/24/2025

Don’t be a gentleman to other people’s women, while being a monster to yours.

06/21/2025

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05/28/2025

The Bible says it is made manifest, if they are for you, they shall continue on with you. Don't delay your destiny by holding on to the wrong ones.

05/27/2025

08/28/2024

Favor! Are you always waiting for the other shoe to drop? Do you get nervous when things are going well? Licensed Marriage and Family and relationship expert Dr. Marie shares her insights on being a child of favor! Please follow us our channel on Youtube for more tips: 4lifeskillz

08/28/2024

Favor! Are you forever waiting for the other shoe to drop? Do you feel nervous when things are going too well? Check out this video clip from Psychologist and relationship expert, Dr. Marie, and follow our page on Youtube: 4lifeskillz