04/03/2026
If you asked me “Ebony what have you seen to be the most effective for women over 35 wanting to lose weight?”
I’d tell you there are four things that can work better than anything:
Walking.
Lifting weights.
Protein.
Identity.
But not in the way the fitness industry tells you.
Walking isn’t about burning calories or just ticking 10,000 steps off the to do list.
It’s ideal for lowering stress hormones.
Unlike high-intensity sessions or running that can make you hungrier and leave you feeling wiped…
Walking calms your body without driving hunger through the roof.
And the second is lifting weights.
After 35, muscle is easier to lose, unless we are actively working to maintain it.
Muscle keeps your metabolism responsive.
And lifting weights can help make sure your body loses less muscle during weight loss.
And thirdly protein.
It stabilises appetite.
30-50g Protein x3 main meals keeps you fuller for longer.
Fewer cravings.
Protects muscle.
And the fourth is identity.
Because weight loss,
is rarely just about food.
It’s also about how we manage our stress and emotions.
When you’ve been “on” from the minute you wake up.
When everyone needs something from you…
And then at night, when you finally get a chance to exhale, and it turns into wine or chocolate, or both…
And then later you get frustrated with the lack of change, and think “why can’t I just get this right?!”
Lasting results aren’t just about the nutrition and training strategy.
The woman who loses the weight for the last time - changes at the identity level.
Because if your identity doesn’t align with being healthy, fit, and consistent, your nervous system will pull you back to what feels familiar.
Even women who maintain their shape can still think,
“I can’t be bothered going for a walk.”
“I’m too tired to prep.”
Those thoughts don’t always disappear.
They just get a lot quieter.
Because in those moments, you’ve already pre-decided who you are and what you do.
You rely on structure and standards.
Instead of motivation which can be fleeting.
To get the result you want, you have to think, speak, and act like the woman who already lives it.