After a tumultuous start in life, I felt I had finally arrived. I was in a healthy marriage going on five years and our blended family was working. Not together, but combined, my husband and I had three beautiful and very active boys. We had found a rhythm in our home managing their activities while advancing our careers in Technology. It felt like we were living the dream. It all crashed in Janua
ry of 2001 when my oldest son at sixteen was diagnosed with a rare inherited neurogenetic disorder and there was no cure. I was devastated, confused and terrified. It was inconceivable that I might outlive my first-born son. Life, as we knew it, was over. The next fourteen months were a world-wind. When my son died April 1, 2003 my heart was crushed, life became surreal and the reality that he was gone left me in shock. Some people say a chapter ends so another can start. I felt a door slam and was scared that another would fail to ever open again. I didn’t know what to do or how to go about doing it. I was told, I would adjust to this new normal. Over the next few years, I read books, went to therapists, attended support groups but it wasn’t enough. Therapy helped me to shift how I thought about some things which was helpful. Support groups helped me feel less alone but also felt like watching a reliving of trauma over and over. My beliefs from a spiritual perspective were challenged but intact. But, at the end of the day, my son was gone and it continually affected me. This was just how it was. Over time, I did find a new normal but it never felt like enough and I battled the heart-felt pain. Twelve years after my son died, it was the approach of the Grief Recovery Method® that finally made the big difference in my life. It’s because of the profound impact the Grief Recovery Method had on me that I became a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist® in May of 2016. Time heals all wounds is a myth, moving through intense emotional pain is such a misunderstood process that most have very little idea of how to respond to loss. People know very little about how to recover from it. Recovery means:
• Feeling better
• Claiming your life instead of circumstances claiming you and your happiness
• Finding new meaning for living without the fear of being hurt again
• Having fond memories without them turning painful
• Acquiring the skills to deal with loss directly
The Grief Recovery Method® combined with own life experience and my training is how I help others. The breadth of my own experience allows me to support you with a great deal of compassion. If you’ve struggled to get beyond a loss or many losses. If a loss is new or decades old, you can move beyond the pain or a new normal that just isn’t enough. And, you don’t have to do it alone. I teach the Grief Recovery Method®, When Children Grieve®, and have one on one programs to support you. To learn more about the Grief Recovery Method®, visit http://www.griefrecoverymethod.com
Share your story with me or request a complimentary 30 minute discovery session to see if this workshop is for you; visit http://www.rhondafrachiseur.com/contact.html or e-mail me at frachiseurlifecoach@gmail.com or call me at 214-477-2724
