Selah Counseling

08/15/2024

Hello! I’m excited to announce that I’ll be launching my first workshop for teen girls in September! The goal of this workshop is to help teens develop skills that minimize their anxiety, and improve healthy boundaries. I’ll be using dialectical and cognitive behavior therapy, along with art and creativity! If you have a teenage girl who may benefit please free to share!

11/09/2020

https://www.selahcounseling.co/new-blog/2020/11/8/tips-for-improving-joy

“ Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious..” Philippians 4:8

09/03/2020

If you haven’t checked out Brenè Browns documentary “The Call to Courage” it might change your life. Just kidding, but it will drastically shake how you view the world and how you view courage.
If we take criticism from those who aren’t being brave with their lives, who aren’t willing to step in the arena, we will get demolished.
On the flip side, it’s important that our heart is open to criticism from those who know and love us deeply, and who empathize with being in the arena, and not from those sitting on the side lines.
“Guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” Proverbs 4:23
Per her documentary, studies have shown that ones ability to be vulnerable is intimately interwoven with ones ability to be brave. You can’t be brave without being vulnerable.
So today, ask yourself who you are allowing to speak into your life? And who do you need to stop allowing to speak into your life? Ask yourself, “what are the areas I can take greater risks to be brave? What are the areas I can wisely be vulnerable in order to live a life of bravery?”

03/22/2020

I understand we’re all seeing insurmountable messages around this new COVID-19 crisis our world is under.

It’s taking time for all of us to process this very rapidly changing “situation”, and we’re all processing it in varying ways.

Some of us are panic shopping.

Some of us just think our government officials and well, basically our worldly officials are taking this to the extreme.
Some of us are worried we may infect others if we are carrying this “thing” with no symptoms.

Some of “us” (ok a LOT of us) are losing our jobs over this.

Some of us are unaware or overly aware of the massive impact this will have on our economy AND our overall health, not only on our nation, but on our entire world. Yes. This will be felt for years to come.
Some of us are having our anxiety, depression, OCD symptoms, eating disorders, addiction problems, social problems triggered massively.
Basically wherever you’re at on the spectrum, I don’t judge. It’s a lot to take in.
But, if you need mental health support, emotional support, I’m here. Actually a lot of us are here! I’m so amazed by how beautifully our country is rallying together in ways unprecedented.
The last thing I’d want is for anyone to NOT have access to mental health care, or emotional support.
We have got to rally together because that’s what our nation is founded upon, right?

I’m officially going to online therapy until things look a bit brighter.

Because they will look brighter. .

11/01/2018

Today marks one year since I took the leap of opening up my practice. What a fast year that was! I have learned more than I ever thought, what I’m passionate about, what I will and will not tolerate, and how much of a passion i have for guiding the healing process.
We as humans are resilient souls full of stories and possibilities.
Excited for many more years to come! My heart is full of gratitude for those who have helped me guide this whole process, specifically to for giving me the opportunity of renting beautiful space from, to consult with, and create a new lasting friendship! Thank you! 💛🤗 . My hubby for rooting for me along the way. If it wasn’t for him, I would NOT be here today. He is my voice of reason. David Cosel
Also props to for this lovely quote now hung on my wall! It completed my vision for my space and I love it! .

09/17/2018

My new blog is up! Just as we are made for relationship, so is our brain. When we experience imbalance internally, it can shake our core, increase anxiety and depression. Link in bio .

08/22/2018

Starting EMDR training tomorrow. There’s freedom and healing in taking back your power as you own your story and move forward. Accepting whatever happened is hard, raw, painful and uncomfortable. But whats more painful is not accepting, but allowing “it” to hold you back. You were made for more than this.

08/22/2018

There are things that happen outside of our control. Those things that rip us down, introducing thoughts and belief systems of not being good enough, worthy enough, being powerless, or perhaps being ‘too much’. The list goes on, am I right?
And sometimes we are responsible for our own wounds or pain, but that doesn’t mean we need to sulk in guilt or allow it to limit us.
What may have happened isn’t fair. It isn’t ok or right. The abuse, manipulation, family system, assault, car accident, you name it. It’s ugly, awful, and sickening. It totally makes sense if you’ve felt anger, or hatred. But will lighten your load.

Today’s the day to take your power back. Today’s the day to start owning your story, knowing you were made for more than this.
I start EMDR training tomorrow. It’s got me thinking about why I started this journey of counseling. I’ve had moments of doubt, questioning myself, my skill set, or whether or not I make a difference. I think we all have these thoughts. And we all have our own work to do.
Sometimes we see the power and strength others have before they can. I can’t wait to be able to journey with someone in taking their power back, in owning their story.

08/17/2018

Mindfulness is key to re-wiring the brain. Take a moment to pause and be present with your surroundings. The sounds you hear, the emotions you are currently experiencing, the physical sensations you are having, and the things you see. Now breathe.
When you walk the same path for so long, that path becomes more defined. It gets more worn and pronounced, and more so your common way of getting to where you need to go.
Our brains are the same way. We each have tendencies and patterns of thinking... about ourselves, the world, our neighbors, our past, you name it. And I don’t think that’s bad but I’m curious to see the ways my brain could expand and not be held back by the unhelpful thoughts 💭 that tear me down.
What would it would look like to create new neuropathways in your brain? New ways of envisioning your future or those around you? Our brains are pretty magnificent and moldable. Challenge yourself, your brain and increase your learning. I bet you could go places you never thought were possible! Oh and 🌻❤️☀️🏈🎾

08/15/2018

Integrity is one of my favorite words. And it’s also one of the hardest words to live out. Integrity is being willing to stick up for others when it isn’t popular, or being honest when you’ve lied. Integrity is a choice you make with each decision that’s on the table. And it’s commendable.
I’m going back to Breńe Browns book, “Rising Strong” and this quote is captured within one of the chapters, reminding the reader on the importance of integrity. - ..”Choosing what’s right over what’s fun, fast or easy”. It’s way more natural and easy to take the fun fast or easy right am I right? 🤷🏻‍♀️😬 but today, do the right thing. Even if it’s unpopular, or, maybe you’re re-writing a wrong and you know choosing what’s “right” could get you into trouble or be super uncomfortable. Your conscious will be clear, and you will always make the better choice next time.

08/03/2018

This quote is heavy, right? But in a good way. Another quote from the movie, “The Equalizer”. This quote speaks for itself, not much more to say, except you were born with purpose and intention, For a purpose! soak in that sun, soul search, love and laugh with all you’ve got. .

08/01/2018

Today I want to share a bit about Cognitive Distortions. Cognitive Behavior therapists and Dialectical Behavior therapists use cognitive distortions as a lens they see through when counseling. And really, when you dissect these cognitive distortions apart, I believe they are super basic and human in nature, ringing true for all of us, in any shape or form.
There are several cognitive distortions. I won’t get into them all here. But what I will say, is they distract us from truth. They are a consistent way of thinking, a pattern we create in our mind that may support a certain way of thinking that is harmful, untrue and quite frankly, ugly. They keep you from staying focused on your path, allowing emotion or fear to essentially lead you.
We all have baggage. To have baggage is to be human. Naturally, we create cognitive distortions as a way to protect or shield us from the painful truth OR to make sense of the unknown. We may believe that what we feel is truth ( emotional reasoning) I.e: “ i feel like a bad (friend, lover, mother, neighbor), so therefore I must be.” Or arbitrary inference- drawing conclusions with little to no evidence. This negatively supports false judgments, racism, sexism, ageism, any ism really, self hate, or religious hate. The unknown makes us uncomfortable and therefore, we make up our own story instead of engaging, asking, or having a child like heart.
I challenge you today, and really this week- to dive into the faulty ways of thinking that you’ve created. We all have them. Call yourself out on it in a loving way, and start letting His light shed truth on your false ways of thinking:). Trust me, it’s a work in progress. .

07/19/2018

Hi! My names Amanda Cosel and I’ve recently gained some new followers, so wanted to introduce myself. I’m a Licensed Counselor in the heart of Parker, Colorado. I hope my account brings hope, encouragement, insight, and possibly challenges you too once in a while, because we all need to be challenged right?:). ⛰ .
I specialize in working with children as young as four 👶, teens, and women of all ages.💁🏽‍♀️💁🏼‍♀️💁🏻‍♀️💁🏿‍♀️ I believe play is a child’s language and incorporate play on the “daily” in the work I do with children. Play is healing, regulating, and profound. As Albert Einstein put it “Play is the highest form of research.” I offer faith based counseling upon request, and am a Denver Seminary graduate. I strive to incorporate all aspects of a person in my work.
I have a passion for mending attachment wounds and work around trauma. I’m eager to become trained in EMDR this Fall so that I’m better equipped to deal with the wounds from trauma as well as attachment. I love going deep and will keep it real in the therapy room. I wholeheartedly believe in the healing power of laughter and try to laugh every day, like truly belly laugh! 😆 .
I was born and raised in this beautiful state ( Colorado) and used to think it was the best kept secret, but I’m certain the “secret” beauty of Colorado is now out and everyone is living here, or so it seems! Apparently it’s the trendy place to live and I’m hoping that will pass, but it’s not looking promising! 😜😂
I’ve been married for almost 3 years (8/29/15) and feel beyond blessed and blown away by the connection and comradery of this love. I have a life partner who compliments me, challenges me and yes we are fairly opposite in all the right ways. 💜
I have a bit of an obsession with animals of any kind. Except turtles 🐢 idk why but they unfortunately kind of creep me out. My favorite are horses, cats, and dogs.
I strive for balance in my life. This can be my challenge, as I’m pretty passionate, live with zest, even though I can be cautious.
I have a true appreciation for culture. With that being said, I enjoy most exotic foods with some exception. Spicy is my favorite and I L.O.V.E to create new recipes.
I enjoy starting oh so many books 📚 and not finishing them, I could basically call it a hobby. Yes it’s a problem. 😌
I’d love to hear more about you if you’d like to share! Thank you for your follow!

07/06/2018

How to cope with triggered trauma memories:

More tips: http://bit.ly/2HwKOo1

(Image via HealthyPlace)

06/15/2018

Shattered. Fragmented. Feeling the pieces shatter before they even fall to the ground in slow motion. Your life it feels, is forever changed by this hit. You find yourself on the ground, all alone, fighting to find all the pieces through your blurry tear stained eyes. You helplessly try to put the pieces back together as best as you can. Alone.
You don’t have to do this alone. We were never meant to do this alone. that is. - God created us for , he created us so insanely relational to our core. Often there are messages that try to detour us from this truth causing that is so contrary to who we are. So often, what has caused us the most earth shattering pain is the reality that it was caused by someone in community. By relationship. By division. By misinterpretations.
The beauty of it all, is there is healing for you in relationship. I know it sounds crazy, why go to the one thing that caused you pain? But take that risk, trust me, there’s such courage in the vulnerability. Oh yeah, and there’s healing that trump the lies. “The light shines in the darkness, but the darkness has not understood it.” So do what it takes to put that light back together, your light my dear. Create a new one, do what you got to do to shine that light so bright, and don’t let anyone take a foothold. You’ve got this one life, so give it your best shot and rise back up. .
:5

06/07/2018

New blog post up:). In working with kids, often there’s another message they are trying to share when it comes to behaviors or them shying away and closing up. Tips on their language and what you can do to understand

05/29/2018

always hits it home for me. What ways do you notice or feel your successes or choices in life are more of a reflection of the reaction you get from “the crowd” as opposed to your own internal convictions and desires?

05/29/2018

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